There was no concerns from a woman, she started her unreserved love. Fortunately, for PICS.ru writes psychotherapist Adrian Izh, who knows how to dispel illusions and, ultimately, to deal with the drama of love is not for that (or not to that).
1. You do not love anyone
Yes, in fact, you still do not like. After all, to love someone, he needs to know. Preferably good. If you suffer and are moving, then you most likely do not know this person.For example, you like what kind of smart one. Or beautiful. Or how sexy it changes tires by car. Or as incredibly paints the walls. Or how embroidered a cross. This is not love. It is a sexually tinted desire to learn better. If you do not manage to know - some love.
2. You have determined the need
Love condition can be called the defining need. You have a need for adoption, in support, sexual satisfaction. And this person seems to you for this suitable.
But absolutely not a fact that it really is suitable for this. Alas. Sometimes we fall into plastic apples from hunger. Especially if before this normal food has never seen at all. And most importantly, often we react to some things that are not needed in relationships at all - for example, a person is classified as well as chemistry. What time is the pair, in fact, talk about chemistry? Or how many times a year they change tires?
The plastic apple is better to leave beautifully lying there, where it lies and do not try to make it edible.
3. You are confused in labels
If you suffer because you didn't like him (or her), most likely, it doesn't have any attitude towards him or to you, nor to you.You sticked out the "awesome" or "incredible" sticker on this person, and the label is "so-so", and now the dissonance drives you crazy. Most likely, some other other people caught on you some other bunch of labels. Maybe on this man a lot of some, his personal, stickers.
But the task specifically is to try to meet truly and know each other. It rarely turns out. But, again, until it turned out - there is no love. There is a dialogue with labels. Not all outfits from Valentino are beautiful. Little to look at the tag, you need to try it out - as it sees, there is no marriage. And in general, what is it from? Where to wear it?
4. You suffer in vain
"But I suffer to truly!" - They say unhappy lovers.
What is suffering - then the truth. And, by the way, what?
- From what he does not love me? - Then why the absence of something causes me pain.
- From the fact that I'm a freak? - This is not about love.
- From the fact that all sorts of notepad fall in love with me, and not a fitness-god with a million dollars? - Yes, it most often happens. And where did I get the idea that a fitness body should be? Why is it not enough for me?
- Now I will never be in the life of happiness? - Come on, let's not predict yourself such a fig future. As a feeling of hunger, it is impossible to satisfy plastic apples, but you can with a real apple, carrot and a saury sandwich, and our sexy hunger and hunger acceptance is quite saturated not the only person in the world, and many, many men and women. The question is only where to go who to call and how to communicate with them.
5. You are trying to sacrifice yourself
- What about love, unity of shower, unique halves?
This is my favorite question, thank you for asked him.
Usually under this sauce hide the offer somehow more interesting to sacrifice yourself. Preferably - to someone. It is advisable simply and not counting on anything. Most likely - some ordinary man who will not even know. Do you exactly need it?
If necessary, this is not a psychologist, it is in the sect. They love self-like, smaller knives consumption.
If not necessary - then love is a complicated feeling, it is formed during the year, another in a couple really suitable people. It may arise several times in life and bring a lot of joy. And in this its uniqueness.
And to open the veins it does not require. If required - this is not love. Verified.