What is common with you, your relationship and dead raccoon?
Adrian Izh is dealt with for us with the theory of dead raccoon. Remember the demotivator: "Eee ... Why do I need a dead raccoon? I'm so flirting! "? The same.
It's all about what - it can be easier to explain some thesis that I consider important. When we come closer to people - it does not matter, for dating, flirting or family creation - you can go two ways.
The first way is to expand the audience. It is he and is the main on the training of femininity. You fit into the Convention - you look and you behave in a certain way (or you wear skirts, you smile bagging and silently, or you shake your shoulders silently and buy a dear car), and - theoretically - you increase the database of people you can like, reduce the probability of refusal. And reduce your uniqueness - but here you can not do anything.
But there is a problem of dead raccoon: a number of women and men cannot fit into the Convention without significant damage to their identity or can not at all.
For someone - for example, for me, - painfully and unpleasantly pretending that you are some kind of conventional woman who will oven pies and, smiling, admire a man, even if he carries nonsense. All that offers to do the average training of a woman I can not do, because it contradicts my goals, values and your own way yourself. And my goals, values and the image of ourselves for me are more important than the need to get married or be in relationships.
And this means that I have a dead raccoon. And I will flirt with it: namely, with the help of building a dialogue, the search for general topics, inevitable jokes and interest in another person, and it is to me. After reading these rows, the facebook will surely say: "But I always get acquainted!". You can be. You can write and read, you may well have an understanding of irony, and you can even appreciate the woman for the fact that she is a cool professional or an interesting interlocutor. Or knows how to do Kushudama. And 95% of people understand irony, and my jokes will be perceived as a bug, but as aggression. And I have a choice - refuse jokes in favor of a potential boyfriend or look for among 5% of people who understand Irony. And this is precisely the essence of the theory of dead raccas - in refusing to work on the majority and in the search and strengthening of few connections. This work with filters - and they are not free to be too narrow, because then there will be no one else. And they should not be too wide.
Roughly speaking, from the other side when communicating and acquaintance, you need one who will accept my dead raccoon and will be happy to him because he is also so flirting, or because he is not against dead raccoons.
And this means the narrowing of the number of potential candidates and the prospect of the search for the sake of quality result. And increasing the likelihood that I will not find anyone at all.
But, if I take this style of communication and dating and make it my conscious choice, it is better than if I still go with a dead racoon, but I do not notice this or try to get rid of it. Therefore, the main idea of the theory of dead raccoon is as follows: Acceptance and love of their dead raccoon, learn how to contact him and recognize those who also have.
