How to distinguish healthy relationships from fallen? As easy as pie. Listen to yourself - if next to this person you feel yourself a clear chicken in the area, everything goes well. If, from the moment of your meeting, you have started a half dozen new complexes and you no longer believe in yourself, something goes wrong. And you may seem to have no problems. However, self-esteem can spoil and quite innocent phenomena.
Tell you what to do
At first it was soiled - all these "wound a scarf, it's cold there," "Throw smoking, I need you healthy" and other rooms from my mother's repertoire. He does not care, he cares! In fact, there is nothing cute in total control. You are an adult capable person and somehow you think that you have, with whom to drink, what to spend money and how to dress. But, following his valuable recommendations, you seem to turn into an unreasonable baby, which without supervision will certainly wake a plug into the eye or drows in a plate with semolina.
You are responsible for his mood
In fact, no - well, except that you ended with the distinction of Slytherin and know how to send a longing stick, tiredness and anger. However, blaming the other in her bad mood - this is a cool way to reduce self-esteem from another and make it manageable. If your self-esteem is still a wet nose, you will understand that the reason is not in you, but in circumstances. Since you think that you are truth to all the fault - self-esteem is no longer in order.
You feel what should change
Otherwise, he will rise and leave. To fully comply with the honorary position of his cute, you would need to become quieter, love volleyball, reset 5 kilograms, learn to play poker and stop arguing about politics.
It is very difficult to live, realizing that you do not reach the gold standards exhibited by a partner. Moreover, these standards are PSHICS. He also contacted you, knowing that there was no sense on a volleyball field.
You do not endorse separation
The case is usual and understandable if you meet without a year week. But for couples with experience it is strange. He just left for a business trip, and you already wander from the corner to the corner, you wrap it to all available messengers and draw yourself terrible paintings - from the crash of the train to the fellow train (as two drops of water similar to Sienna Miller). How it happened that your world closed on it and it categorically nothing to do in his absence?
You pick up words
Yes, so carefully that any diplomatic building would have patted. Because you know: the slightest jamb in the wording, and we will laugh at you, or worse - it disades or get angry. Sooner or later you will stop opening your mouth at all, because it is simply impossible to filter the bazaar in non-stop mode. In essence, you delegate him the right to decide what and how you can talk. So where is the adequate self-esteem? She is not.
You do not say "no"
Do not vry although it is not because all the ideas of the boyfriend cause you an explosion of enthusiasm. Most likely, you either believe that you do not have the right to disagree, or you understand that your opinion here is in general anyone interested, so why shook the air with disputes, if anyway, how will it say? Both reasons for healthy self-esteem do not contribute.
You live in fear that everything is about to end
Healthy relationships give a sense of stability and security. And your novel is a powder barrel, and you all the time you expect that she will explode. It doesn't matter what the cause is the reason - treason and trial partings in the past, abandoned by looking for hints of your imperfection or banal emissions. In any case, the atmosphere around the unhealthy, as in peat swamps. And it makes you get out of leather to climb to save the status quo. Although you need to save at this stage no longer love, but your self-esteem.
