We proceed from the assumption that it is not a certain scoundrel, but simply donkey. That is, we wanted to say a somewhat incomprehensive favorite bunny. We set out an action plan for tuski taking action.
Cards on the table
The money question is so intimiment that many couples are shy to discuss him even at the stage when all your crucifiers already know. But here it is impossible to have secrets from each other. There are cases when a man hidden problems at work and seemed to be a scar from or a woman shy to tell you that the money was needed for a grandmother's medicine and looked Motka. So, first, it will take an open conversation about where in the family is taken and where these strange pieces of colored paper are.Money - Time
What a sense to argue when the money you planned to treat teeth is already spent on the annual reserve of stale gingerbread. To discuss spending is needed in advance, to large purchases, trips, holidays or, which is good, the birth of babies. And, of course, in some peaceful moment, and not in the epicenter of the quarrel.Mutual benefit
When discussing finance, most likely, it turns out that the problem is rooted in your family history and habits made from childhood. Maybe someone from you was taken at home to postpone the maximum on a black day (that is, to the nearest default, ha ha), and someone has to try to make the day today, and bright on all payments. Try to perceive the differences between you not as a reason for the war, but as a chance to exchange experience, because both in generosity, and in leaning there are advantages. Of course, this valuable idea should be conveyed to a partner.Bed of simple solutions
"Take and divide" does not work at the level of the state, nor in the humble level of the cell of society. Let's say if the wife does not work, but engaged in food, clothing, treatment and teaching of children, paying utility bills, etc., to divide the budget 50 to 50 may be unfair: the husband will have money for entertainment at the end of the month, and the wife will put Teeth on the shelf. Therefore, carefully study the structure of spending.Without paper you bug
Oral discussions with nimble men, as a rule, do not lead to anything. They are convinced by the tsiferki. So, you need to save checks and keep a budget in a special program, an application or simply on a piece of paper. It is very important that the counts honestly filled both spouses. At the end of the month together, summarize and make amazing discoveries.Order inside chaos
One of the varieties of greed is Samoram. At first, he buys a set of chrome sepulles, which will never use, then the whole family sits on empty pasta. Budget fans of spontaneity usually do not like. You can try to agree on generally short-term and long-term purposes. Money appeared - they immediately postpone the worst and do not climb into the chopping handle-defused under the fear. And on the rest, please buy at least a whole sepulator.Principled question
The common and unpleasant cause of greed is the desire for complete control over close. Economic violence is quite real, unpleasant and, honestly, unacceptable. If the family is clearly not worth the fear of poverty, and they are reported to chocolate to tea, the question should be put on the edge. This is not a prison, this is a family. Here, each adult should have at least some amount that can be spent at its own discretion, without asking anyone any permission. This is human right. Question of trust and respect.Bloody feast
Holidays (weddings, birthdays, New Year, solemn visits of Rodney), are usually especially painful financially. Many men under the sauce "If you love truly, why these formalities!?" Nothing and never. Moreover, naturally, in the most dispensable days from them, no gift, nor the flower has seen. Here it is often often able to get the older generation, people who value rituals and understanding the meaning of family celebrations. Perhaps it is worth saying right and forehead. The holiday is not a whim, the holiday is yours, my friend, debt. He does not need to love, it must be performed. Just as I perform ... / enter performed /.H. H.
If negotiations do not work, there is one cruel, but an effective way to influence the Zhadyin. This is a date with reality. Lower the handles, you do "oh, all" and offer him to independently carve out the big 7 hats from the sheep, and then you have a bad arithmetic, and he is so well done, so now it is his task. Rare Thadea lives until the end of the week in the style of "eat four thousand rubles", without changing its ideas about what tree Croissants grow on.