How to save the relationship when work absorbs all the time

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Every new day makes you, a precious and most beautiful girl, goddess and a queen, slandering his head. Because work-work-work, time-time-late-aaa! But now stop. Stop, speak! Look. And see if everything is in order in your relationship with your loved one.

If you do not have enough time to you - read a personal branding specialist - Catherine Kononov. She like no other else knows how to kill his personal life with her own work. And now we know how to prevent it. I will be honest - I am not a genius of effectiveness and look with envy on people who have everything structurally, it is clearly spelled out and calmly. Recently sat with a friend and boasted with his own signs, they say, look - I am a systemic person. To which he gave me a specific answer: people organized everything is already laid out in their heads and they are not needed. Another point - I love my job: I am the rare person who studied in the specialty, which is now working. And it gives certain consequences: it is interesting for me and finmodel formation, and programs for trainings develop, and with the team to work. And here it would be possible to bring a list of advice to optimize their activities, but I'm talking about another.About how to do not kill personal life to hell.I recently woke up from a five-day business trip and realized that I still sharpened me again. One of my business coaches on their events likes to ask, they say, you are for money or for business relationships. And I ask women workaholics - and you for a career or for relationships? I used to be like - I meet a person x and get out of the cookbook. And the genius I am milots, sexuality and inspiration. A few weeks later, I get bored to be a desperate housewife ahead with a freelancer and you want to be a businesswoman. And I spit the book with recipes on the most upper shelf and dumplings, I say, you can cook yourself and in general the restaurant could go, otherwise I like a housemaker to you. And I have no strength on role-playing games and if you want to spend more time with me - or let me have a personal brand you will build, or help me with business. So, what conclusions I did for myself:

Make a happy yourself, then save the world

It is enough to work so that in the evening there is enough forces only before trying to bed, collapse into her and sleep-sleep-sleep - I was going. In the long run, there is no option at all. I remember when I discovered the SPA programs in Thai salons, my good girlfriend said - it's stupid to spend money, it would be better to have invested in the context (tell me who your friend and he will become your inner voice). But as it turned out, it is small women's joys - such as massage, manicure, gatherings in coffee shops, a stupid cinema and walks along the streets of the capital - they make the world brighter, positive and most importantly - constructive, including in work. Output: Rest. Suppose yourself to the street as in childhood. Sewing from every salary money for meaningless in terms of logic things, but pleasant for your little girl. Kinder-surprise buy yourself.

A man must be happy to you

When in the head KPI, processes, some flaws and another 33 questions for reflection, is high, the likelihood of indispens this not the most positive energy per person nearby. And it seems to understand everything, but at home in pajamas. Personally, I had to generate a habit of sending myself to makeup and outfits before the arrival of faithful. Yes, he loves me anyone, but here is beautiful and joyful more than in a T-shirt-alcoholic, a beam on the head and red from the computer. Output: Whatever happened at work, before meeting with a man, do a break, look a stupid series and make a beauty. Even if you live together. Especially if you live together.

Main for the dynamics in the relationship - you

Waffle, alone and stayWhen both are inquired by affairs, it is very easy to ride in "Let's see the series, we will order food delivery and lay sleep." And so every day. A man will not come up with a cultural program and, especially try to pull you somewhere. And long-looking in the same conditions (albeit even in very comfortable) - leads to addiction and loss of spark. Output: Do you want movement? Initiate and argue, why you need to get up somewhere from the sofa.

Distance between M and G as a distance between magnets

A couple of years ago, I read the wonderful book about Mars and Venus in bed. There was a part about the cave and the fact that men need to give the opportunity to be alone. And on this I made the most wrong conclusion, they say, the farther in such a situation, the better. But not really: imagine two magnets - if you breed them, then there will be a strong attraction between them, and after some distance they will lose any interest to each other. Output: Everything should be in moderation - and be inseparable, and at a distance. Otherwise, nothing good will come out.

Respect for your man - this is to you, and not to him

"Well, just he rag," I explained why my relationship collapsed. I was sure that I just choose not those men, weak, pliable, whom it is impossible to respect and especially admire, because they are weaker than me. Lord, how could you be such a fool? Respect for a man is a matter of woman. Any person has weak points and painful points, and since the man is also a person, then find a way to prove that he is not the most is simple. But right and the opposite - in each there is something outstanding and worthy of worship. Output: You want normal relationships - look for the advantages and maintain the initiative of a man. Want to show that you are the coolest and strong? Go to the box.

Article author: Ekaterina Kononova

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