Through it are all lovers, it does not matter, they meet for a year or ten years, at some point there are burnout - partners get tired of relationships. Outwardly, their tandem can look perfect - both loved, they care about each other, they have something to talk about and what to remember, but somewhere all emotions are aroused, there is plenty and the desire to separate.
And then someone alone (and sometimes both at once) allows a gross mistake - he hides his true state, it begins to pretend, wear a mask, tolerate ... As long as something inside it is completely finally, leading to a relationship to collapse.Why be together - does not mean to love 24/7?
We will be honest, the spouses are submitted for divorce not because of irreconcilable contradictions, different purposes, sexual temperaments or financial problems, everything is fault - the habit of making their feelings. Once someone from the partners hid a little, but silent. Then there was a second bell and the third, until the inner irritation accumulated to the edges, and the last drop did not fall on top. But before this drop were thousands of words and reasons! They both are tired, but hid their fortune. In this lie and there was a mistake.
It is stupid to pretend that we always love our partners, which are always ready to listen to them and support. People are complex creatures dependent on biorhythms, physical condition, hormonal drops and even cockroaches in the head. We can not always stretch a close hand of help, we do not always want to share our energy, to give ourselves without a balance and take those who are surrounding as they are. Our nature is unstable, depending on the oscillations of self-esteem, the pressure of society and biological instincts. It's time to admit that one person to love one person is 24 hours a day until the end of his days - the task is impossible. So does not happen. This is a utopia into which we forced us to believe religion and fairy tales about the "eternal" love. "Never parted, live happily and smile!" Alas, even the most coordinated system can issue an error, especially if the system has built two living person.
When relationships give a failure
So, one of the partners caught himself thinking that he had fatigue in relationships. This fatigue can be expressed in different ways - irritation, the desire to spend the weekend in solitude, pleaseing intimate proximity or communication. Of course, each of us has the right to their feelings, testing a negative - normally, it is important to correctly report on this half, find time for talking on souls. Alas, 90% of people are shy for the arisen of fatigue and drive it deep into the fear of wondering the beloved man's "terrible" truth. It seems to us egoistic to talk about their desires, it is much easier to endure, without enthusiasm, answering a kiss. And there once fell into bed without desire, another time closed eyes to her "Want" - and something inside exploded, giving the opposite effect. Instead of eternal love, there was an abyss, after which both rapidly began to be left.
Because we are so arranged that we cannot live only for the sake of others, our ego will not forgive this. By bringing the situation to the extreme, we will still listen to yourself, our own feelings and needs. That is why silence is a poison that destroys families. We suffered, pulled the rubber, and then they simply said "stop", without giving the partner to understand what he did not do what we wanted from him? Love is killed not offensive words, but their complete absence, intentional concealment of the truth. And if you are afraid that, told about my condition, destroy your relationship, we have bad news for you - love here and does not smell.
Life is a difficult thing, there are always periods of recession and lifts when it is incredibly healthy together, and when something breaks, and we have to repair it. If you have broken something inside - do not silent, talk about it, only so you will have a chance to save relationships.
Love does not always happen cloudless, even the most sincere and ardent feelings can experience the phase of stagnation. There is no fatigue from each other and not even frequent quarrels. People are served for divorce, full of illusions that you can meet the "your" person, with whom we will always be fine. No misunderstanding, everyday riding, only pink pony and rainbow 24/7. But it does not happen. We are all tired and sometimes we demand a rest, time for yourself and your soul. This is normal.