Recently who became the mother. The author PICS.ru continues to publish his observations on how life has changed with the birth of a child, and collect lifehaki, how to make it easier and more pleasant. In this issue, how to make a proud dad from a man.
According to stereotypes, the woman takes care of the baby, and a man, as a true getter and Superman provides them with everything necessary. So, if the parent instinct is born as it were, or at least earlier, then in his father it has yet to be awl. (In this place the editor of the article, something unintelligible will burst about men who could wake themselves and themselves. Approx. Ed.) Let's proceed.In grief and in joy!
Take it with you for childbirth. If he is omitted by the fact that it is sick at the sight of blood and in general he has a weak psyche, say that you are a weak woman and you are scared! Doctors Blooders! Enema! Fight! In the most responsible moment, the husband will be able to go out, no one forces it to remove the placenta or overbill his teeth. But, by the way, scientists claim that if a man sees his own eyes, his child appears to light, he adds confidence that his baby is it, and, therefore, heats the warm feelings to a new family member. My husband was with me in childbirth from the beginning to the very end, according to him, he was still not worried about it (including an independent parachute jump), and now I can not imagine how women pass through this pain and monstrous tension lonely.
Consider yourself
In the first days and even the week a woman is almost obsessed here, "Give me, I myself, you can't"! Well, of course, an adult sane man with higher education will never figure it out how to fly a baby in diapers, this is a secret sacred knowledge available only to women! In order for the man's father's instinct, it is necessary that the woman turns off the maternal. At least for a while. I, for example, every night in preventive purposes I pull the husband to change the child. At first it was very funny, because after man's manipulations, the baby woke up on her ears in poop, but now everything was improved.Trust Him
No one will ever be able to take away your unique relationship with your infant, but the fact of childbirth does not give you any special knowledge or ability to admire the children's belch. Therefore, it is absolutely necessary to divide all diapers, dirty diapers, swimming, festivities and dirty for the night with her husband to strengthen, so to speak, family relationships. In the end, this is your common child. Believe that the husband does not drown a baby in the bathroom, will not lose along with a carriage, does not break the leg when changing.
Do not herogery
No one makes you jump at night to the child, without ending it, to solve problems with the clinic, doctors, a red booty, a masseur, vaccinations, a choice of stroller, is a simple egoism. You are talking about something that you do everything better, "if not me, then who!? And this is all. Happy mother - happy child! Do not hero and squeeze duties to proud father, he will benefit.Give them to stay together
My husband comes home from work home in the evening and terribly likes to swim away our daughter and start playing and amused with her. My maternal I am talking at this time: it's time to the child! Sleep! She is walking now! Will not fall asleep! Everything is lost! Take a child! To rescue! Divorce immediately! He does not understand anything! But the titanic effort of will is holding back, because I understand it is very important for the formation of papal-subsidiaries. Therefore, the husband tickles the baby with a beard, she waves to him with his hands, I sit with a book and tea - everyone is happy. We recently mastered the new skill - it feeds it before bedtime from the bottle of recreational milk. Full mimi! (And a full beautiful shower for me!)
Executed responsibility
Let her husband be their own terms of responsibilities: choose a stroller, keep your hand on the pulse of the vaccination graphics, swearing with the clinic, walk on the weekend 2 hours in the park, buy diapers, bathe - in which you won't climb. Of course, the failures are inevitable (for example, the husband of my girlfriend was collected by the stroller and together with the box he thrown out an important detail, which now need to buy for mad money, because it is not sold separately), but gradually everything will work out.