When in all cartoons, films and books, the family is "Mom, Dad, I," many children growing in the family without a father feel uncomfortable. And cope with stress as they can. For example ... inventing yourself dad, "real" or "other".
We asked readers to share with us the stories of our "other Paps".Little Miss Vader.
I represented my father Terminator, Bruce Willis and Darth Vader. I had a detailed story about space in 10, where I was the daughter of Darth Vader, which was left on Earth to grow in nichilawed conditions and was preparing for the throne. Emperor Palpatin at the same time was my uncle.
I watched only the third series and invented the rest herself. I gave myself a report that this is fantasy, and wrote texts. But I wanted everything to be true. Once my mother found all this and read out loud to her friend ... I thought I would never forgive her. But over time it became anyway.
My dad is a star!
When I was in kindergarten, I imagined how I was coming home ... Alexander Malinin, a star star of those years. He is my dad, and everyone is admired by this.Defender with photos
Not that he came up with his father, but I replaced his great-grandfather. Shot in 1938, Pole. I knew him in a photo and knew that we had the eyes of the same color with him. I represented how he gives me advice. Dreamed how he would donate one goat at school around her neck.
talk to him
I grew up with dad and grandmother, my grandmother worked for all day. My dad was drunk almost all the time. He did not get angry with vodka, just fell asleep or looked at the TV, without understanding what he sees there.
I invented that he was another. The same name, the same face, but another dad. I played our tea drinking with him, dialogues - answered him for him. Dad, with whom I said, explained to me everyday situation ("Do not cry! The boys call you, because the fools!"), Supported me ("You're smart! You try and everything will work out! And if you don't succeed, we will go comforted in zoo!"). "I remembered" with him, as we went to this zoo ", or on a puppet play, or some more" experienced "adventures.
The game ended when Dad woke up or started to look at me, trying to understand what I was talking to him. Then everything became usual, and we only talked to household topics.
Magic craft
I was told that the dad replaces my grandfather, but still something was missing. So I had a magic godfather, or a magical uncle. He appeared in my head when I was already a teenager, and even when I grew up and became an adult, this story continued.It was one famous musician. Listening to his songs and reading the interview, I saw that this person is very close to me in spirit and in the warehouse of the mind, only older and with great life experience. It was very cool to how to find something consonant with my own thoughts, so to discover something new, which could just never come to mind. Often I really wanted to talk about it with him, but I understood that at the level of "idol - fan" such communication would not work. But if he was my relative or family friend, it would be a completely different matter.
So in my head there was a very interesting and saturated parallel life in which, in addition to this communication, joint adventures, and miracles. It can be said that such a huge fan fiction was composed, which I, however, never tried to record.
I am very grateful to a person who became an involuntary co-author of this virtual reality, who made my youth to be warmer and prosperous than she could be.
Princess in trouble
My father lived in another city and sometimes came to visit. But I still came up with another dad to myself. Any character who hooked me to the cinema was suitable. My dads were Athos, Khan Solo, Sherlock Holmes (performed by Livanov, of course) and even the Dracula I no longer remember from what movie. And when I was about 3-4, Pope was even Santa Claus! Of course, I lived somewhere in their reality and all the time got into trouble. And they all defended me and comforted me.
Be my dad
I have big problems with my father, we almost do not speak with each other, he is an alcoholic. On the role-playing game, I fell to depict the daughter of the player's character I knew before. I did not expect it to reveal from such a part!
With his "children" he was - not without flaws - but the father is wonderful. He even went to moves, which for his plot were losing, in order to save those who were under the threat of children. I knew that this quality was not separately spelled out in the character description, it was simply so the player saw his role of his father.
I almost cried after the game, as I wanted to be my father! She began to ride his daughter to other games. Probably, it looks strange, but I want to sometimes see him with my dad.
Dad loves watching tv
My parents divorced when I was five years old. With my father, I continued to communicate, but invented for myself, as if we had a completely different dad in the apartment, very good. He lived in another room. I constantly invented what he was doing now. He was older than my biological father. I went to work, loved watching TV (and I was noticeable for him left the TV included), folded on the sofa, where he loved to sit, fresh newspapers ...
The article prepared Lilith Mazikina