We have bad news for you. Relationship is a job. Daily, monotonous and the same tedious as washing dishes. The work that should be done, even if very tired and are terribly angry. Good news - if you observe elementary moral hygiene, everything will turn out.
Reasonable kindness and mutual concession will allow no divorce, do not kill each other and even perhaps to live to grandchildren.Do not be cruel
Everything is very simple: it is impossible not to quarrel. Every family life is eliminated by a carpet of socks, sown with unclipped tubes of toothpaste, full of money spent on any garbage, unexpected telephone calls at 4 am and other nonsense, and it would not be strange to discuss all this on increased colors. But there are thin face between the need to discuss problems, the need to release couples and sadistic trace. Who did not achieve anything? Who always leaves the hair in the stock bathroom? Who can't make money, cook borsch, drive a nail? Who does not take the girl here, finally? This is such a small household sadism, which is sick of the insane number of people. Home domestic violence leaves bruises, like a stocking with sand or a chubby telephone directory. But do not do that.
Even if you are right, retreat
Even if you are always right. Even if you have already told a thousand times that everything will end. Anyway: Because, smile and apologizing. Because here are still literally three words, and it will be impossible to correct the situation at all. In the end, someone must be smarter, and why not be anyone else. The reason for your conflict is not fundamental, because the main thing is, in essence, only love and the desire to live together. And the pride (and the emotion "I am right" is she, it is) to good anyone did not bring anyone.Never say "And I spoke!"
You yourself are still perfection, and if you calmly sit down and calculate the number of nonsense you made during the reporting period, it turns out that they are at least no less than your partner. Because we are all imperfect.
Not torture other friends
Friends were your partner to you. And, if you continue in the same vein, will be after. Yes, these are the identity. Or these are these drunkards, non-tech soul, with frozen habits, gossips worse girls. For some reason, your second half chose them and believes that they support it. By the way, she chose you too, this very half. Think about it.Do not be indifferent
No one requires constant self-sacrifice (although the daily massage of the feet does not prevent anyone), but to navigate in the aspirations, principles and needs of the partner - not so difficult and almost always very helpful. And if from time to time to put these aspirations, principles and needs a little higher than their own, the prices will not be.
Do not clamp on a partner
No need to expect that, let's say, it will always cook. And he will always pay for utilities. And make money. And knock down nails. And drive the car. And wash the floors. And hang the shelf. And then one more. In the end, sweet will get sick and have to eat dumplings, followed by even in the store. Or sick is cute, and no one will hang the shelf, make money, pay bills, drive the nail and wash the floor. Well, or just sooner or later, someone is a tired situation in which it is believed that "you should" just one fact of your existence.... in the mountain and in joy
Anyone knows how to support a partner when his life has a key at work, an increase should be enhanced, projects are successful and everything is sold with a whistle. Although, of course, not everyone, because such a situation is usually associated with 12-hour working days, nerves and lack of attention. But try to support a person on the verge of dismissal, in depression, provided that the boss is a hysterical idiot, and subordinates are noble and brainless lazy morons. It is clear that the first reaction is disappointment and "and I spoke!". Now it is exactly the moment when it is not superfluous to remember the marriage vows.
Kiss. Speed. Lasoo
At least every day. If you do not do this - someone else will do it.Romance is how to score a nail and hang a shelf
Want that it was, and that it was good - do it myself.
Pause
Sometimes you just need to get out and close the door behind you - but then to return. The problem is that technically it is very difficult to do. Because in one case it will turn out "I went to my mother," in the other - "We have to drink with the boys" and in the end it will not solve any problems, but perhaps even add. And nevertheless parting, to do something very different, think and silent sometimes it happens absolutely necessary. The best ways to help long business trips. Working expedition in the steppe of the inner Mongolia, the launch of the new plant in Siberia, the construction of the gas pipeline in Western India.Cook, even if there is no strength
If you came home semi-dimensional, because the boss is a hysterical idiot, and subordinates - Bezless and brainless lazy people, then surely it turns out that your partner was even worse. And it is not specifically done, it's just the law of meanness. And here you need to breathe, squeeze your teeth and at the same time gently smile, bring tea, hug, console and cheer. Because then someday the same thing will do with you.
Find time
Busy? Too much work? All the same, you need to have time to pay attention to the partner. Dinner with candlelights or, for example, to bed in bed and intersect - at least just for the cost-to-stay the second half do not forget that you are in the world.Excry
And the point here is not only in sex, although in it too. At the beginning of the relationship you were shaking from joy just to be near and hold onto the handle (well, or another some part of the body). This feeling should be remembered from time to time and recreate (but not imitate!).
Talking
Just you need to talk as much as possible. About work, about a nail and painting a shelf, about plans and memories, about love and different varieties of coffee. In the end, with whom to say something?