After "50 shades of gray" BDSM began to get out of the shadows. But those who really practice bdsm are watching similar films through Faispalm. Stop stop-stop, that you carry, in fact, everything is not at all!
BDSM is first of all confidence
In the movie, it all starts like this: she meets the mysterious stranger / he meets with a languid division on his hairpins, and in the next stage, handcuffs are already ringing and whistling sevenhvosts. In reality, everything is usually not at all like that. BDSM requires complete and absolute trust. It's how to say "I will be completely defenseless and let you do anything, because I know that you will not harm me." Therefore, the collar is a practically wedding ring. And it may not be less. By the way, this is another reason not to walk anywhere with a new acquaintance, who, stuck with shackles, promises you on the first date to open the amazing world of non-standard sensuality.
And not first of all - sex
In Hollywood, bdsm is not bdsm, if someone in someone did not stick something. The real BDSM sessions are far from always end in any penetration. For many, it is rather a ritual than heated before the main thing.
Love pain - does not mean to be moved
We all love pain in one form or another. Before you move away from the screen and think: "Oh, well, not me!", Remember the pepper chili. Or about a hot bath. Or massage from which the bones crack. All this, in essence, is not particularly nice - but many like many. And the lovers of Khalapeno are most at least no less (and no more) insane than those who hold a weapon in the bedroom.
Flash from submission - does not mean to be moved
And what do you think you are doing when you say "I'm a girl and I don't want to decide anything"?
Masochists do not adore all the pain at all
Here, as in all other varieties of sex, each may have their own preferences - and very specific. And beyond the bedroom, they usually do not go out. You can love rugs and faint from horror in the office of the dentist. To drag from hot wax and whip over a broken knee. Reliable a wagon, but Lyuto hate clothespins on the nipples.
No one compensates
Almost in any film about BDSM Nizhny - this is a big boss who is tired of walking on the heads and now he wants someone to give him a sharp heel. And the top - the character inhibited in life, finally hesitated to power. It happens. And it happens - and vice versa. And both can be unemployed, middle managers or steamers owners. Get ready for the most incredible: sometimes dominant and submissive can change the places almost daily.
They are not looped on sex
Well, no more than everyone else. You can go to the BDSM pair to go to drink tea with buns, without thinking the paths of retreat and without fear that you will be hidden in a gloomy dungeon of two-room Khrushchka. It is afraid that you are drawn into creepy games - the same wildness, how to shake from ordinary vanilla people only on the grounds that they have genitals.
BDSM Couples - not special
Love for domination affects everyday life approximately just like love for blowjob or dressing games. You can wear a collar and at the same time quarrel in the same way because who should clean over the cat, plan the purchase of a sofa and raise children. Of course, psychos are everywhere. But they do not determine the main trends.
And they are not psychopaths
For successful BDSM practice, self-control, high attention to the partner, sensitivity, delicacy and tranquility are needed. Because it's about a potentially dangerous business. By the way, the conditions exhibits a submissive, and not the dominant, so the main thing comes out, it is him. No matter how it looked in the films, all the rules are clearly negotiated on the shore and are not violated. In the subject there is no place for unpleasant surprises and no one ever crosses her taboo.
