Preparing for the appearance of a child or giving, finally, life, Mom convulsively grabs books, magazines and forums who will tell her how to behave with a small stranger who wants not only to agreed and roar, as in advertising diapers.
And immediately faces the fact that the mastic psychologists, teachers, children's doctors, as well as unlucky, but very categorical commentators or broadcast her thought, or they say straight: Mom, you are blamed all the time, you have all the time bad gusts, you do not do everything So wish to do wrong.
Barely riding, you like becoming a bad mother. Default.
Together with those problems faced by a woman, life is such a default at all, but, of course, it is exactly the opposite. It seems that when you need help, you will give it exclusively in exchange for the right to flop into your direction. Thus, the exit of the new book of publishing house "Genesis" - "Mom is dear. 9 myths about motherhood ", which immediately and without a doubt declares her mother - I am on your side, and the party is this right. And not surprising! After all, it was written by the same mothers - Journalist Elena Bezredova and psychologist Tatyana Pospelova.
There is a third need that has already been inherent in the mother - the ability to be a little without a child. I would like to remind you that today's mother, as a rule, brings up a baby only with dad. That is, most often they live far from their parents, because in our big country there are few people fit where it was born. At the same time, the dad is forced to work in this way, the woman's month decree spends with the child almost alone. And it is hard
No motivating - in fact, more often causing the despondency and feeling of guilt - stories about how I could, it means, and you can all. On the contrary, Mom Lena and Tanya honestly tell how they took and could not - live after the advent of the child an old life, be the most patient and most intelligent mothers, to raise small mozzarts and all the time swim in the happiness of their motherhood.
And they tell why this is normal, as from the height of their experience (and Tatiana he is even triple!), So relying on fresh scientific data, exposing the stereotype of a stereotype and a myth for the myth, which seem to be produced in a secret office that prepares sabotage against moms and their children.
But I was worried. Highly. What is so skeptical about "developments", Irronizing, doubt and laugh. Suddenly, all this really works, and my child because of my galant attitude towards early development will grow stupid?!
But "Mom is dear!" It would be half not so valuable if, in addition to maintaining and calming a woman with a child, did not give practical recommendations that could work in difficult and simply unusual for household situations with children. Which sometimes do not at all look at the advice of ideal mothers on how to become the same ideal, even especially not straining. Of course, there are no happiness of the Talmouds of Spock or Komarovsky, but it is given such advice that it is not easy to achieve from relatives, other mothers and advisers on the Internet. So, wait for the books by French Food Culture Books. If you have a child - or a fresh mom hatched out of a friend - one of the best gifts after the maternity hospital will be "Mom dear!"
Review author: Lilit Mazikina