American scientists confirmed that we, for example, suspected. Parental installation "You are in the world of all Mile" is not the most healthy in the world and threatens a narcissistic disorder of your precious chad.
According to the study, the results of which were published in the official journal of the US National Academy of Sciences, children whose talents and qualities are pretty revalued aged from 7 to 11 years, later gained more points on the narcissism scale. In other words, risked growing the same assholes, confident that everything can be done and everything should . Licensed family coach Sarah Hamaker offers 7 rules that will help parents to bring up a healthy feeling of self-estext in the child, while not turning it into a small despot.Love children as they are, with all their shortcomings
The peculiarity of people-Narcissus is that in the soul they feel very small and miserable, and seem to want great and grandiose. This situation can be warned if you recognize for your children the right to errors and disadvantages and love them with all their acne and top of mathematics. Calling children, without reason for the geniuses and champions, parents risk growing a person who prefers to seem, and not be.Praise exactly and specifically
What youm liked more: "Umnitsa, congratulations" or "you all organized everything, but with some taste I did, it will be necessary to continue to do according to your plan"? The concrete praise is valued above and motivates to continue in the same vein. Children are the same.Praise children for what they did today
The phrases of the type "You are always so neat" or "My daughter never satisfies the mess" not so much encourage the child as they put on it. In addition, they induct the value of the case that is done right now. It is better to say: "Wow, you, everything sparkles, how you perfectly made cleaning!" Hurray, the real thing was noticed.Praise on the case, but do not miss praise
In fact, children do not need each step to be accompanied by applause. Too frequent promotions lose their strength. Or, which is good, the child can begin to extort all new and new awards. But it is impossible to leave children at all without a "sweet" - inconsolated adults will then ruin on psychoanalyst. This is the most difficult point - follow the balance.Praise for the most difficult thing
Parents often absently throw "well done", without thinking that they were assessed. It is better to look at children's affairs. Let's say, praise not for each good assessment and not for the highest, namely, for which the child has put more effort.Teach children "Golden Rule"
Rule is known: behave with other people as you want them to behave with you. This concept will help the child will not grow in a person who is convinced that the world spins around him. Use this rule in different situations, disassemble the behavior of people from this point of view.Teach children to put yourself in place of other people
Empathy, the ability to put yourself in place of another, feel someone else's pain, sadness, joy - ability, not affordable daffidis. The better we can explain to children how something looks from the point of view of others, the more difficult it will develop an unhealthy feeling of superiority over people. The Western World turns to appreciate not only the uniqueness of the person, but also a healthy relationship in society, that is, not only believing in his star, but also understand their limitations. If you still think that from the child you need to push the "little princess" to the whole world, it is an outdated idea.According to Washigton Post.