Finally, your relationship with your beloved switched to the stage "Everything is very serious," and perhaps even that you already heard the March of Mendelssohn. Not far from the mountains acquaintance with parents, future mother-in-law, especially. This meeting is incident in front of you and does not give you peace? Or are you calm, confidently consider that "not for relatives married to get out"?
The main thing is not to spoil the first and subsequent impression, because later, as practice shows, it is very difficult to correct the established stereotype, it is very difficult.
So, there are some delusions that can show you in a disadvantage.
You are trying to play some kind of alien to you to conquer authority
In other words, you are not you. Favorite tells you that his mother loves to cook and respects good owners. You will immediately throw a cake to the stove and stild the most complex recipes of various kitchens. In fact, you absolutely do not like to cook, buy semi-finished products and prefer to order pizza to the house. But it is better to crash in a cake to prove to the future mother that you are a wonderful and passionate culinary.
All people at the intuitive level feel false, and if the mom is a chief, indeed, smartly, you will bring you into clean water in two bills. Of course, it is not worthwhile from the threshold "cut the truth-uterus" about your shortcomings, but also cut, attributing imaginary talents, it is not worth it. It is better to emphasize your truly strengths, probably, there are such. If you buy a ready-made cake to the table, nothing terrible will happen.
Do not show any attention or respect for the mother-in-law.
You are not interested in the topic of breeding dwarf chinchillas, and you do not hide it. You are a straight, open person, say what you think, who does not like, let him not communicate.
You will have to bore yourself slightly. Each person needs to be aware of his own significance, feel respect for his person. Show a little tact. Directness and honesty is good, but within reasonable limits. Nothing terrible will not happen if you set a couple of questions a couple of questions that have come up for your favorite favorite. It will show that you are not indifferent to her. As a traditional option, please and appear with it over photos of your beloved man in gentle age. On this topic, you will probably have something to talk about your loved one.
You forget to congratulate mother-in-law with important dates
Not a very good indicator, automatically reduces your rating. Birthdays, red calendar dates, meaningful dates, specifically, for future mother-in-law - you do not give this value. It is possible that for the mother of her beloved, the implementation of certain rituals is very important. If you know that your mother-in-law in the past was a teacher, even now will be logical to congratulate her with a professional holiday. She will noted what you remember.
Record not only the main dates in the diary with a red marker and do not forget to call the "second mom" greetings.
Your dignity list will put an additional plus game. And the fact that the mother-in-law leads on you "dossier" can not be doubted.
You complain about your loved one, as an option, frank with her
You have become almost the best girlfriends with a future mother-in-law, share secrets, go shopping together. Why not complain about her son? It turns out you not to specifically, but by chance. Remember, any complaints about her son is taboo. Choise yourself on the nose, the maternal heart is very zealous of the criticism of your children. This is how she raised such a flawless, perfect boy. If you complain or voice claims, you will quickly go into the category of enemies.There are no ridicule from the discharge "Vladik himself, such a belly," and so on, on the list. The mother-in-law will remember this and remember you at a convenient case. Or maybe you just think that you are a friend, and they collect compromising on you. This option is very often found when the mother of his beloved man's cunning and cunning, and loves to "keep enemies closer than friends."
Want that your favorite, learned about your sparkling jokes or the number of fans?
It is better to keep the tongue behind the teeth and ask the mother-in-law more, in every way encouraging it, you look, she will say herself, giving you interesting facts.
You try too try to please, literally "out of the skin is climb"
Believe me, such a behavior manner is noticeable to everyone around. You are ready to postpone the business meeting to take your alleged mother-in-law in the store, the first is thrown on the embrasure, if the mother appears in the case. Relax finally. It is necessary to help, but if it does not infringe upon your own interests.
If you are ready to become a girl on the blisters, about respect for mother-in-law to you can forget. Which mother wants to see next to his son, a woman in a fireless and soft-flower? Perhaps someone will like a living puppet, but happiness to you in relations with my mother-in-law will not bring it. We will always be attracted by strong, volitional people who would say that, it is precisely such personalities that respect, even if a person does not agree to dance to the music of our dull.
In general, the topic of rigeon and mother-in-law worries many minds for many years. When the question comes to the relationship between two women, rarely from whom you can hear happy stories. You must feed yourself the mother-in-law about the one you are. A small adhesion of their data is allowed, a slight dust of dust in the eye, but not more. If your mother-in-law smart and self-sufficient woman, she will appreciate you correctly, recognizing you all rights.
If you are not lucky, you should not be upset, because your beloved loved you exactly, and my mother-in-law is, only an additional, but not the main attachment to her husband.