No matter what the topic did not seem, but the problem does not leave. Millions of women are thrown into the relationship completely unconsciously, without giving themselves the report, hoping on maybe. We all understand well that the heart does not order, but how easily heart moves can be confused with anxiety due to the pressure of others! And how much later there is trouble!
About what desires of his motor should not listen, and let's talk.
You should not want to save a man
If you so want someone to save - save the cats, dogs, writing down in the volunteer of the support center, in the hospice or else somewhere, but do not save a man. Otherwise, it will become the only thing for the whole of your life, and in return you will only reproach.You will not be able to do something else, you will not have time nor forces, and you will not save him. This is a jogging over the nose.
You should not have hope for the future
It sounds strange, but in fact it is simply explained. That man with whom you want to bring your destiny, must arrange you now, not someday later, when he learns not to scatter socks and wash after a working day. All he could learn, he has already learned. And you are not a mother, not a teacher, and he is not a kid, it will not be able to raise.
You will kill a lot of time for the wonderful explanations, such that it is time for a book to write about tasty and healthy food, but for "Yeah, I understand" will follow the old habit. In general, you know, sleep with those who bring up, somehow a few unhealthy and gives it a pedophilia, or incest.
Don't try to replace his terrible mother
If you ever hear from your man tear stories about his mother, this is a reason to alert. Maybe a couple of times and in a pair of minutes normally, but when it is a weekly protracted monologue for several hours with a swinging eye and your fabric hugs ... it's bad. Especially if these are complaints about the person with whom a man continues to live.
If you were not clinging for this man, would you really thought that you would not cook food for an adult or please take the garbage - the most terrible thing that could happen for a man? Here.
In an attempt to protect your beloved from such a "terror", you instantly write down the permission for anything and computer games up to 4 nights, and on yourself, not even realizing, you can carry all the duties around the house and in a shared life. You will need to convince you to go somewhere, then decide how to go, what to go, what to take with you - otherwise you will be guilty that he did not get a job or did not make important documents. Otherwise, you will find one day that you get out of the forces, and he, besides a terrible mother, there is also a terrible wife.
You do not have to listen, what good it is
No, it's not bad, of course, but when this is true, and not a series "Of course, I would do it, I can, but he / it prevented me." Infinite excuses, the failure of their mistakes - and at the same time he should all, but he forgives everyone? Not your option. Words with words, but life is consumed from the actions.
It happens and truth something did not hold down, prevented, but not every time.
In addition, such a govarov is so established that if no causes found outside, they begin to blame you, and then hold on. If you did not say something too much, he would not be upset and could work further, but now ... Now he cannot, he needs to calm down and spend a few days behind the game / bottle / friends. If you put on top of the skirt, not jeans, he could go to the theater with you, but now there is no. Or vice versa, jeans, depending on which legs he got up or how much sparrows counted in the window.
The logic of his accusations you will never understand. But it is not necessary to be honest.
Text author: Natalia Smirnova