The relationship between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law is a rather scrupulous topic, because the older woman needs to take a daughter as a daughter and not see the enemy in it. And still refer to her son as a man who has already become an adult and trying to create his family. What do we have to do? Do not interfere! And perceive it adequately. He should not replace his mother of that small child or a departed father (psychological incest).
Well, if the daughter-in-law is loved by mother-in-law. But if this did not happen, you can build a trust relationship with it. The main thing is to respect it and adopt the invaluable experience, which in the marital life is very useful. But if the daughter-in-law has to live in the house of mother-in-law, so that the young family does not destroy, you should listen to the etiquette and observe a number of unknown rules.
1. If there are two women in the house, then the owners are also two (regardless of employment at home or at work, due to illness). 2. The older mistress is not the one that works more at home or earns more, but mother-in-law (after all, her house). It is she who is given an honorable place in the family and at the table. 3. No mother-in-law can not be celebrated family celebrations. 4. When you need to solve this or that question regarding the family, you need to go to the mother-in-law. 5. When guests come to young, the older woman does not necessarily sit with them at the table and have fun. But you must come out of your room and say hello. If the guests came not to the young, but to the elders, the young married woman welcomes guests and removes their affairs. 6. During the celebration, you do not need to send a rest under any pretext to send a relaxation when she likes the company. 7. Unscraxing the conversation (suddenly silenced) when the room includes mother-in-room. 8. The daughter-in-law is never worth talking to his children that the grandmother is so strange because of its age. 9. In the presence of mother-in-law, there is no disrespect for old men. 10. Do not remind the mother-in-law about its age. 11. Do not tell her what you would do in her place. 12. The mother-in-law should not be engaged only by domestic affairs or grandchildren. She is a free man! 13. Do not buy the mother-in-law black things and white slippers resembling the approach of death. 14. Do not let mother-in-law feel better in the house if in her presence you will complain that occupying the living space is very small. 15. The mother-in-law should not be too curious about the life of a young family. 16. If the daughter-in-law and son dismissed her mother-in-law about something, she does not need to be pregnant from them. 17. The mother-in-law is a wise woman, so it should not expose their whims and discontent. 18. The mother-in-law is not needed to follow the daughter-in-law. 19. It is unacceptable when mother-in-law makes young people obey her. Or indignant when the son or daughter-in-law needs to leave the house for any reason. 20. Times change and young can be much more complicated than breeding during the heyday of her youth. Therefore, she should not be rushed with the words: "Here is our time ...". 21. The mother-in-law arrives very ugly when he condemns her son before the ride and vice versa. Especially if it happens before other people! 22. The mother-in-law should not mention their past too often. Especially if it is long and boring stories. 23. The daughter-in-law and mother-in-law must respect the feelings, habits and tastes of each other. Do not blame each other or descend to unreasonable criticism.