The child became a teenager: how not to spoil the relationship with him
Teenage age is one of the few periods of human life who is very beautiful! Teenagers are boys and girls who, as it were, not children, but not even adults. This age is remembered, not repeated as childhood! But, unfortunately, not everyone proceeds to be serene.
With the onset of adolescent age, problems arise about which you have not known anything before or forgotten, and maybe they did not want to know. The child grows, he is no longer a crumb that does not know how he does not have his opinion, which is only what adults tell him. He has his own "I", a character is formed, his lifestyle, his views on many things. Parents need to be understood. Of course, this is not easy, especially mothers. After all, women love to suck with children, to protect them, decide for them what is completely forces a girl or a guy, follow every step and so on. Yes, now you will have to gradually change the tactics, slightly weaken the "leash", move to step to the side, but in no case do not throw a child, do not leave without attention and control, do not let the problems arise for samotep ... now, vice versa, more You must be near, but carefully, unobtrusively, delicately. If you provide a child yourself, then nothing good will come out: the son or daughter can make mistakes, contact a bad company, get involved in bad habits, throw their studies, switch from books on gadgets and so on.
Try to remain another to your adolescent child or at least that man he can trust with whom it can consult, just talk, tell me that he worries him that he had in his soul. Hear listen and hear. Sincerely interest the affairs of your daughter or son. Let the child tell not only about the success in school, but also that the new thing happened during the day, what book he read, with whom I met ... If you see that at the moment the teenager is not interested in communication with you, do not insist, wait . An hour will come when he comes to you with a conversation.
Do not criticize the hobbies of the teenager, and even more so, with respect, feel about his friends. The teenage period is the time of the first love, then what are so afraid of adults. We can understand us! We are experiencing that children do not stumble, protect them from suffering, believe that we know better what and how to do where to go. All this is right and takes place to be. But you should not forget that both adults once passed through it! Remember your first school love ... Remember how the road she was like you tremblely treated her and to the hero of his novel! Remembered? Now imagine what your child is. Imagine that he is in his soul and in his head. Do not panic, just let the tactfully understand the teenager that you are near, you are always ready to support him that you all understand. Share, on occasion, with your memories, you will just get closer to each other.
If you are confused to talk about those or other topics that the teenager begins to worry, offer him the appropriate literature. Perhaps after reading the child drew questions that you can discuss together. Do not worry, be natural, do not play - you will certainly succeed!
