Ukuqhekeka - hhayi ukwakha, kusho izwi elilodwa lakudala. Kepha ingabe kunjalo? Uma lokhu kuphathelene nobudlelwano obakhelwe izitini zonyaka obude ezitini, khona-ke isimo sinzima kakhulu. Emindenini eyadalwa yiminyaka, akunakwenzeka ukuyikhipha isandla bese ukhohlwa ukuthi iphupho elibi kangakanani. Ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, izimpilo zabantu besifazane abaningi bafulathela imilenze. Ukuba ngohlobo oluthile lokudakwa noma kwephunga le-narcotic, kungenza amaphutha ambalwa angenakulinganiswa, okuyinhloko okuboniswe ngezansi. 1. Vala "echibini" futhi ungavumeli abangane bakhe kubangane bakhe, avuke ngemuva kwesehlukaniso - ukuthatha umhlalaphansi futhi abe nesizungu. Kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi kuyadingeka ukunganaki labo abazama ukukusekela ngesikhathi esinzima. Okungukuthi - abangane nezintombi, bakulungele ukukusiza ukwazi ukubhekana nobuhlungu emphefumulweni. Ngemuva kwakho konke, bangagcwalisa ingxenye yaleso sikhala, esakhelwa ngokungazelelwe esifubeni sakho futhi asivumeli ukuphefumula ngokuzithoba nokulala ebusuku. Ngenxa yabangani abaseduze, awukwazi nje kuphela ukuzizwa uthandwa futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kepha futhi nokuzwa ukunambitheka kwempilo, okungabonakala sengathi kutholwe okusho konke kuwe. 2. Ukuthola isifiso sokubuyisa umyeni wangaphambilini ekuqaleni kwesehlukaniso, kungadalwa umbono okhohlisayo wokuthi kusekhona ithuba lokubuyisa konke emuva futhi kungavumeli injabulo yakamuva ukushiya impilo yakho unomphela. Kepha kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi okwedlule kufanele kuhlale esikhathini esidlule. Kuyadingeka ukwenza konke okudingayo ukuze uthole amandla okuhlukana naye, uphefumule ugcwele amabele futhi uphile ngaphandle kokubheka emuva. Akukwenzi mqondo 'ukulengiswa' ezinkumbulweni zakudala ezijabulisayo, kepha kungcono ukumisa impilo entsha, okuthi, okungcono kakhulu, kungahle kube ngcono kakhulu kunokuba mdala. 3. Ukungena kuwo wonke amathuna kungenzeka ukuthi ekuqaleni kwesehlukaniso kungahle kubonakale isifiso esinamandla sokungena ochungechungeni lwe-adventures yocansi onothando. Mhlawumbe ngisho nabesilisa abaningana ngasikhathi sinye. Kodwa-ke, akudingekile ukuba uhlanganyele kude kakhulu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, yonke intombazane iyazi ukuthi akukho lutho olungcono nolubucayi. Ngenxa yazo kuphela ongazizwa efana nesithandwa sakho futhi edingekayo ngempela. Futhi kungcono ukuchitha isikhathi esincane, kepha ukuthola indoda enjalo ekwazi ukuqinisekisa konke lokhu, futhi ingahwamuki ngaphandle kokulandela umkhondo ngemuva koyedwa, ngisho nothando olukhulu kakhulu, ubusuku. Into esemqoka ukuthi kufanelekile ukuqonda noma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane - impilo ayipheli ngesehlukaniso. Akunakudingeki ungadingi ukubeka isiphambano kuwe futhi ujwayele njalo ucabange ngokubambisana noshade naye wangaphambilini iminyaka. Impilo iyaqhubeka, okusho ukuthi usenethuba lokuthola injabulo elula yabesifazane.