Namuhla, umphakathi ukhokha kakhulu ukufuna ukusesha umlingani onothando nokuthi "impilo yaya endaweni efanele", kodwa ukunakwa okuncane kukhokhwa empilweni nenjabulo yomuntu jikelele nenjabulo yomuntu. Ubudlelwano obumnandi, hhayi ukwaneliseka komuntu siqu nenjabulo, yiba inhloso yokugcina yabo bonke abantu abadala, abancane nabadala.
Kepha manje sizokhumbula kanye naphakade: injabulo i-sexy. Abantu abathola injabulo ngokwabo nasezindaweni ezikuyo ngokwemvelo badonsela abanye. Ngakho-ke yini eheha ngempela kubantu abanesizungu abathandekayo.1. ababambeli okwedlule
Uma umuntu engakaze aphule inhliziyo, khona-ke kungaba nomona - lokhu kungenye yezinto ezimbalwa ezijabulisayo, ezingabalwa eminwe yesandla esisodwa. Cishe wonke umuntu wake "wakhipha" noma wenqatshwa ngasikhathi sinye. Kepha ujabule abantu abanesizungu abanamatheli esikhathini esedlule. Bamane bakhohlwe konke okubi okwenzekile, futhi kunalokho kugxile esikhathini samanje nekusasa.
Lesi yisici esikhange kakhulu kubantu, ngoba sibonisa abalingani abangenzeka bezothando ukuthi akubavimbeli esikhathini esedlule sothando lwabo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, into yesithiyo ilungele ikusasa elingafaka umlingani omusha.
2. Bagwema ubudlelwano "obubi"
Lapho abantu bebodwa futhi bengajabule ngalokhu, bavame ukuvumela ubudlelwane obungenampilo ukuba bangene ezimpilweni zabo. Futhi lokhu akusona ubudlelwano bezothando nhlobo - bangaba yi-Platonic, enobungane nomndeni. Ngokuyisisekelo, umuntu onesizungu ngeshwa akafuni ukuba yedwa, ngakho uyavuma ezimpilweni zakhe ezingase zingakufanele.Kepha amantombazane amancane ajabule ngempela azi ukuthi ungakugwema kanjani abantu abalungile. Vele, lesi yisici esikhangayo sabalingani bezothando abangaba khona. Ukuhlangana nomuntu ozungeza nabantu abalungile futhi akufaki okubi, kuyisibonakaliso esikhuthazayo. Ukube uvunyelwe empilweni yomuntu onjalo, khona-ke kufanele futhi ube muhle.
3. bayazithanda
Uthando ngokwakho luyinto ebalulekile kuwo wonke umuntu. Uma enye intombazane ingazithandi, njengoba ingalindela ukuba omunye umuntu azomthanda. Abantu esihlangana nabo bangaziqonda izinto ezinjalo. Ukwaneliseka okuncane okuncane kungahlekisa futhi kuboniswe ukuthi awuhlukanisile kwangempela, kepha abalingani bezothando abangaqonda ngokuphepha lapho izinto zabo zingazithandi.
4. Babaqapha
Iqiniso elijabulisayo labantu abanesizungu ababujabulisi nje hhayi nje abazithandayo, kodwa futhi bazinakekela, ngoba linwebeka izimpilo zabo nenjabulo. Lezi yizinto ezinjengokudla okuhle, ukuvivinya umzimba, ukugeza njalo, ukuhlanza amazinyo, ukuvakashela udokotela uma kunesidingo, kanye nokuqiniseka ukuthi unempilo ejabulisayo nenempilo. Abantu abangashadile abakwazi ukuzinakekela, basayina abalingani abangaba khona abathandana nabo abangaludinga usizo.5. Bazijwayeza ukuziqonda
Akugcini nje ngokuziqhenya nokuzinakekela ngokwabo kubalulekile, kodwa nokuzandla. Uma umuntu ezazi izidingo zakhe ezibalulekile, imicabango, imizwa, ama-motifs, njll, uyakwazi ukubona lapho engenisa amandla okuqeda amandla, ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi axolise. Umlingani ozimele akadingi ukukhomba ezinkingeni ezinkulu.
6. Bazimele
Enye yezinkinga ezinkulu ebudlelwaneni ukuthi abantu bakhohlwa ukuthi ungazimela kanjani. Kunezinto ezimbalwa ezinyanyekayo ukwedlula ubudlelwano abantu ancike komunye nomunye. Ubuhlobo obujabulayo, obunempilo budinga abantu ababili abangenazinkinga ngokuzimela nesizungu. Bangazinakekela, ama-akhawunti abo nezidingo zabo. I-Independent nakanjani isici esikhangayo sabantu abanesizungu esimnandi.7. Bathinta izimpilo zabanye
Lapho abantu bengajabule ngokwabo, bazama ukucekela phansi izimpilo zabanye. Kepha ujabule ngempela abantu abanesizungu bazama ukuqinisa ukwethenjwa kwalabo abathandayo. Isibonelo, bahlala benikela ukusiza umngane ukuthi athole umsebenzi, futhi futhi anakekele konke kuhamba phambili.
8. Abancintisani
Kungenzeka ukuqhamuka nesimo esibi ukwedlula lapho abantu ababili belwela into eyodwa yezithiyo. Abantu bomama abajabule abanesizungu ngeke bazame ukuphishekela umuntu. Bayakuqonda ukuthi lokhu akuwona umncintiswano wokuthola umlingani onothando, futhi lokhu uqobo kuyinto ekhangayo.
Mhlawumbe isiphetho esibaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ulwazi ngaye lungenye yezinto ezikhangayo kakhulu ezingenziwa. Bajabulile abantu abanesizungu abaphila nabo ngempela emhlabeni, bahlale beheha abanye.