UNekt ungenye yezindlela ezinonya kakhulu wobudlova bezengqondo. Okokuqala, kunzima impela ukuqaphela, okwesibili, ukusetha okungekho kuphela ezimweni zokufakelwa okwanele kwalowo ohlukunyeziwe, ngakho-ke ukulinda usizo lwayo ukuthi akukho ndawo.
Eqinisweni, ukungahambi kahle kungukuhlukumeza okukodwa, kuyilapho i-nexlemper ibukeka iqotho futhi inethembe ukuze iqotho ngokuphelele. Umhlukumezi uyaqiniseka ukuthi kuyadingeka ukunakekela induduzo yayo nokwanelisa izidingo zakho futhi wenze lokhu ngokulahlekelwa abanye.
Ngeshwa, njengoba imibukiso yokuzijwayeza, iningi lamadoda lisebenza ngokungafanele kubalingani kanye nezintombi zabo, ngaphandle kokuzenzela ukuzethemba kwabo, kodwa zondle ukuzethemba kwabo futhi bathola umuzwa wamandla phezu kowesifazane. Akukho lutho olufana nokunakekelwa kwangempela noma isisa esingenalo.
Khumbula, kungenzeka ukuthi uzwe kaninginingi kumyeni wami noma isoka lami ngokuphelele: "Bengingazi ...", "angikukhohlisi ..." "Ngaleso simo, lapho wena zazisengozini enkulu futhi zincike kuwo, ngokwesibonelo, isiguli, silambile noma ngaphandle kwemali. Abukho ubufakazi obuqondile becala, ngakho-ke i-accourger ilula kakhulu ukusuka ekuzibophezeleni nesidingo sokuphendula ngokuziphatha kwabo. Eqinisweni, eqinisweni, ngikhohliwe, ngisontekile emsebenzini, futhi lapho ngabiza umama wami, umngani wacela ukuba aphonse esikhumulweni sezindiza ... futhi amehlo athembekile.
Enye yezinkomba ezihlaba umxhwele kakhulu zabangesilisa - ukuncishiswa kokudla. Kulokhu, owesilisa wakha owesifazane ozoyala lo wesifazane, anqume ukuthi ngubani, yini futhi izothengwa esitolo nalokho okudingayo. Lapho-ke imishwana iqala ukuzwakala: "Asikudingi," Uma ungafuni - kusho ukungalambile, "kubiza kakhulu" (maqondana nezinto ezilula kakhulu), "ososayensi baseBrithani bafakazele lokho Ukudla okulimazayo nokuthi amavithamini nakho kuyingozi ku- "," Asizange samukelwa. "," Ngizizwa ngigula isidlo sakho "," Ngikuthengele lokho okuthandayo "njalonjalo.
Imvamisa, ukungabikhona kuzibonakalise ngesikhathi lapho owesifazane ekhefini lokunakekela izingane. Lapho-ke awukwazi ukumvumela ukuthi ahambe kodokotela ("uphilile, kungani udinga"), hhayi ukuthenga imishanguzo ("Ngikhohliwe" abesifazane abakhathazayo ("ngingu Izinto ezixakekile ezibalulekile, angikwazi ukukusiza "), ungazinakekeli impilo yakhe, ngokwesibonelo, kudinga ukusondela ngokushesha ngemuva kwesigaba se-episiotomy noma iCesarean lapho ucansi lungalimaza kabi ngowesifazane.
Kumele kwaziwe ukuthi esinye sezimpawu ezikhanyayo zokungakhokhwayo ukuncishiswa okuhlosiwe okuhlosiwe kowesifazane wako konke ubudlelwano bezenhlalo nezinsizakusebenza. Indoda icela ukuhumushela emsebenzini olula, eduze kwendlu ukuze akwazi ukunikeza isikhathi esithe xaxa emndenini naso, yoma kuye yonke intombi yakhe, evame ukusebenzisa izindlela ezimbi kakhulu zeBlackmail, futhi zihambisane nakancane kwelinye idolobha, ukuthelela lesi sinyathelo ezintshisakalweni nakumathemba wangasese.
Ngemuva kwalokho angalandela ukudluliselwa okucatshangwayo kowesifazane olawulayo namandla: "Nginikeza umkami wonke amaholo!", Kodwa empeleni, indoda kuleli cala isebenza njenge-manipulator, ngoba ithatha inani elikhulu lemithwalo yemfanelo aphoqelekile ukuba angalimazi umndeni. Konke okuhle kakhulu - izingane nomyeni, kaningi zilimaza yena. Abesifazane, emahlombe okulawula okwedlulele kwengxenye yazo yonke into emhlabeni, njengomndeni, umlingani, izingane, ngokuvamile avelaphi ("ngikhathele" - kodwa akucaci ukuthi yini ukhathele). Ngakho-ke, ukulawulwa kanye nesibopho - kuchitha izinsizakusebenza, kuyakushisa. Futhi endabeni yabesifazane, lo mthwalo kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo nokulawula akunikeli amandla, lokhu kungumsebenzi wenceku, hhayi umphathi.
Into embi kakhulu akunakwenzeka ukuhlukanisa phakathi. Indoda enakekelayo - izimvume zokungasebenzi, hlala ekhaya, noma kunjalo, okuthile umngane ovame ukugula, kepha ngendoda enjalo kuyoshesha ukushesha kuya kulesi sichibiyelo. I-absorrurver ayikaze ibonise owangaphandle kobuso bakhe beqiniso, futhi kaningi bezama ukubukeka kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka futhi bakhathazekile.
Kodwa-ke, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi emaphutheni amabi kakhulu, okuxoshwa kugcina ekufeni kwalowo ohlukunyeziwe, ngenkathi uNelembotare ebonakala njengomfelokazi othembekile, kodwa eminyakeni embalwa uzithola engumhlatshelo omusha futhi indaba iya okusha nxazonke.
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Ingabe umuntu uzwelana ngobuqotho, uzwelana nobuhlungu bomunye umuntu, noma uhlala engenandaba kakhulu nokuhlupheka kwabanye? Amadoda amaningi achaza ukungahambisani kwawo kulolu daba nge-masculby, kepha akukho lutho olunesibindi sokunganakwa ekuhluphekeni. Kulokhu, lokhu kuwubudlova obufanayo.Ukusola
Isibonelo: "Iqembu labantu limi ogwini, umhlahlandlela uthi: Nangu ulwandle olunesivunguvungu owake wamisa isalukazi." U-Abyeser uthi: "Isalukazi safa ngoba abomdabu bakhe babefuna ukuba nefa." Njengoba besho, kuwo wonke amahlaya kukhona ihlaya elithile. Ukusolwa yi-schizo beacon, ukubona ukuthi yikuphi, udinga ukugijima.
Ungaphunyuka Kanjani?
- Uma uqonda ukuthi indoda ethile isebenza kahle futhi kancane kancane iyoma kude nawe bonke abangane nezintombi, iziqalekiso zixoxa nezihlobo nabazali, zigcizelela ekwahlukanisweni kwakho okuphelele okuvela emhlabeni, "ungakwazi kalula.
- Nge-sauce ungayeki ukuxhumana nabazali nabangane abaseduze. Bayeke bahlale beqaphela izenzo zakho, amasu kanye nempahla emndenini.
- Uma uqonda ukuthi isimo lapho umuntu esebenzisa ubungozi bakho nokulutha ukulimaza ukuphindwa kaninginingi.
- Khumbula ukuthi uwedwa, futhi impilo yakho yedwa. Umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko ukuphila futhi ube nempilo futhi ujabule. Ngobukhulu, bakunakekele ngaphandle kwakho kakhulu cishe. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi awunakukhululeka, noma ubona usongo oluqondile empilweni yakho yokuziphatha nangokomzimba, bangakwazi kalula.
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