Kukholelwa ukuthi kunezinhlobo ezimbili ze-daffodils: ekhombisa ukukhombisa futhi ezifihliwe. Uhlobo lokuqala kulula kakhulu ukuthola, ngoba abantu abanjalo babonisa ngokukhululekile ukusebenza okuwusizo, okuxhaphaza futhi okunolaka, okuvame ukuhlotshaniswa ne-narcissism. I-Narcissus efihliwe, noma kunjalo, ayibonakali kahle. Kubukeka sengathi kunesizotha futhi kubucayi, kepha ngaphakathi kwaso "kufihla" ukuzithemba okweqile.
Imvamisa ama-daffodills afihlekile abhekwa njengevaliwe futhi azwela. Ngasikhathi sinye, izimfanelo zazo ezithile zomlingiswa zididekile ngokubumbana. Ngenkathi i-paffesitative narcissus izovuma ukuphakama kwayo ngezindlela ezisobala nezibonakalayo, i-daffodil efihlekile yokuthola ubunzima obukhulu.1. Banokuphambanisa nje nokuthambekela kokukhwabanisa
I-narcissus engaxhunyiwe, efuna ukuqaphela futhi yancoma ukumangala kwayo, ingaba nentukuthelo nganoma yisiphi isidingo sakho. Lapho udinga ukuthandwa, uzothi "yebo" futhi akukholwe ukuthi ubhekane nenkinga, futhi akufanele ukhathazeke. Ngemuva kwalokho unesihluku esibi "ngoba kuzocabanga ukuthi isikhathi sayo namandla kuchithwa.
Izogwema ukwenza lokho okuthenjisiwe, bese izama ukungathathi ifoni lapho uzama ukuxhumana naye. Futhi lapho ekugcineni ubheka ngakho ngokuziphatha okunjalo, uzoqala ukufunga futhi aphikisane ukuthi kugcwele kangakanani umsebenzi nokuthi ubuyisiphukuphuku kangakanani ukwethula izimangalo ezinjalo ezingenangqondo mayelana nesikhathi sakhe. Futhi noma ngabe wenza lokho okumbuzile, ungaqiniseka ukuthi uzotshela wonke umuntu ukuthi wawuphila kanjani kuye futhi uziveze esihlukunyeziwe.
Amanye ama-narcissists nawo awanazinkinga ngokukhohlisa, abangela ukuba necala. Basebenzisa ukwenziwa okunjalo ukuze bathole abakufunayo. Isibonelo, uma efuna ukuthi uhlale naye ekhaya, angamemezela ukuthi uzizwa kabi. Uma emtshela nokuthi ngehora lenzekile, uNarcissus uzophendula into efana nalena: "Kuhle, hamba uchithe isikhathi. Ukuthi nje wayazi, nginenkinga yokuphefumula, ngakho-ke ngikwazi ukufa kusuka ekuhlaselweni kwesifuba somoya nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. "
2. Azinazo uzwela
Ama-daffodils akhombisayo futhi afihliwe ane-elocentric ngokulinganayo futhi akubalule kangako kwabanye. Endabeni ye-daffodil eyimfihlo, lokhu kungazibonakalisa eqinisweni lokuthi cishe akulaleli, futhi futhi kusobala ukuthi akubonisi isithakazelo kothile noma yini engamkhathaleli ngqo. Imvamisa bafaka izidingo zabanye abantu, yize kungenza sengathi uyakhathalela. Iqiniso ngukuthi licasulwa abanye abazama ukulithwena nezinkinga zabo.3. Bazwela kakhulu
I-NARCISSISIS ehlanganyelayo imvamisa ibucayi kakhulu futhi ayikwazi ukubhekana nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokugxekwa. Babhekene nezitatimende ezingezinhle ngabo, bazovikelwa (futhi, ngokwenza lokhu ngomqondo ocacile wokungezwani nokusebenzisa ukunganaki izimpikiswano), ngisho nasezimweni lapho "umuntu ojwayelekile" azonciphisa isimo. Imvamisa bazama ukufihla ukuthi bakhathazeka kangakanani ngokukhathazeka, futhi esikhundleni salokho bazenze sengathi bangenandaba.
4. Abakwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo obufanele.
Ama-daffodils asebenzayo athola ukukhathazeka okuthe xaxa ekwakhekeni kobudlelwano nabanye ngenxa yokuqothuka kokuzethemba kwabo. Bangase bagweme ubudlelwano ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi ukwehluleka okungenzeka kungabekezeleleki kakhulu. Ama-Narcissian-Introvert Sposes ahlolwe ngokungagculiseki kwaphakade futhi aphazamisa ngokuthile (ngokungafani nokuboniswa ama-daffodils, abizwa ngokuthi anamandla, anonya, aqhume futhi ahlazisiwe).5. Basola abanye, hhayi ngokwabo
Ama-daffodils ahlanganisiwe azozama ukusola wonke umuntu ezizungeze bona ngokwahluleka kwawo empilweni, angalokothi amukele umthwalo wemfanelo ukuze 'ahambe kahle.'
Bazosola abazali babo eqinisweni lokuthi ababanikeza amathuba anele ebuntwaneni, futhi umphathi wabo ukuthi ubakhokhela imali eyanele. Bazosola abangane babo eqinisweni lokuthi abazange babasize bahlangane nabantu abadingekayo, nabalingani bezothando ngokuhluleka ukungena ebuhlotsheni nabo.
Uma kutholakala ukuthi ubhekene ne-daffodil eduze kwakho, uyodinga ukukhumbula ukuthi kufanelekile ukuhlala ugcina futhi ungaphenduli ngokomzwelo kakhulu. Kuyadingeka futhi ukuqonda ngokusobala ukuzithemba kwakho futhi uvikele ukuzikhohlisa.