Ukungena ebudlelwaneni obusha, sizwa injabulo nokwesaba. Sisaba ukuthi sizonikeza isikhathi esiningi futhi sithakazelise komunye umuntu noma okuzokwenzeka, futhi sizohlupheka. Kodwa-ke, kunemibuzo engasiza ukuqonda ukuthi ubudlelwano bethu buhlala njalo noma buza nje. Kusho ukuthini ukuthi abantu abasendleleni efanele ukwakha ubuhlobo obude, obujabulisayo?
Ekuqaleni, kunzima ukuthola ukuthi ungaba kanjani ukwazana okwengeziwe nanoma ngubani. Ngokusho kososayensi, ukuze kunqunywe ukuthi isiphetho sakhe esengeziwe sizohamba kanjani, imisebenzi engu-15 ehlanganyelwe iyadingeka, njengokungena ephathini, ekhonsathi, isidlo sakusihlwa noma ukuhamba. Ngemuva kwalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, uthando komunye umuntu lufinyelela ezingeni eliphakeme, khona-ke noma ngabe liqala ukuwa, okuholela ekwehlukanisweni, noma ubudlelwano phakathi kwabalingani likhula nobudlelwano bezinhlobo.Yamukela Ukushiyeka
Ukuziphatha okuhlukahlukene nesimo sengqondo nakho kunomthelela obalulekile empumelelweni ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sizibona kanjani thina maqondana nomunye umuntu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, sifuna ngokufanelekile ukuthi umlingani wethu asibone kithi okuhle kakhulu, ngakolunye uhlangothi, silindele ukuthi singaba yikho, futhi izithiyo zethu zizokwamukelwa.
Ukusondela phakathi kwabantu ababili kuyanda lapho sazi izithiyo zethu. Ngenxa yalokho, samukela, futhi, noma kunjalo, asesabi ubudlelwano. Ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi indlela evela kuyo izosuka kuyo isuka esigabeni sokuhlelela kwangempela, izokhombisa ukuthi abalingani bazizwa kanjani bekhululekile komunye nomunye. Uma abalingani bazizwa bekhululekile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kanye nezinto ezinhle kakhulu, ubudlelwano buzoqhubeka.
Ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwe ngokubamba iqhaza kwabasanda kushada, labo abagcizelela ukuthi bafana kangakanani nomunye baneliseke ngokwengeziwe ngobudlelwano. Ukuqashelwa kokufana kukhombisa ukuqina kobudlelwano. Ukufana phakathi kwabalingani kuyadingeka ukuze kugcinwe ubudlelwano besikhathi eside. Umgomo "wokuheha abaphikisi" usebenza uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano besikhathi esifushane. I-Clarkvest (2007) ifakazele ukuthi lapho abashadikazi befana ngokubuka kwezemfundo nobudlelwano, ingozi yesehlukaniso iyancipha.
Ubudlelwano obufihliwe
Izinga kanye nesikhathi sobudlelwano bethu futhi kuthinta lokho okubizwa ngokuthi ubudlelwano obufihliwe. Iqiniso ngukubonga okuhlangenwe nakho nezinhlangano zesikhathi esedlule, ngokuzenzakalelayo nathi futhi samukele ngokungazi nomunye umuntu. Okubonisa imizwa yethu, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ukumamatheka, ukuxhumana okubonakalayo noma ithoni yezwi. Ngokusho kwabaphenyi, ukufakwa okuhle okufihliwe maqondana nomlingani, isitayela esiphephe kunazo zonke sokunamathiselwe kulobu budlelwano.
Kwaqhutshwa isifundo, esasifuna ukukhethwa okusheshayo kwamagama akhokhiswe ngokomoya asuselwa ezithombeni eziboniswe umlingani. Impendulo esheshayo enamagama amahle ikhombisa isimo esihle kumlingani. Futhi labo ababenesimo sengqondo esihle ngokubikwa komunye nomunye babike inani elincane lezinkinga ebudlelwaneni ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.