Enye yezindlela zokujabulela umuntu - ukuchitha ingxoxo enhle naye futhi ushiye umbono omuhle. Abantu abathakazelayo manje, ngeshwa, bayaqabukela, futhi uma bethola, bakhunjulwa isikhathi eside - nami ngifuna ukuhlangana nabo. Ukuze ube yi-interlocutor enhle - vele ukhumbule kuphela imithetho eyi-10.
1. Khuluma ngesimo sezulu
I-Etiquette ithi ingxoxo yesimo sezulu iyisihloko esihle sezingxoxo ngokuphelele nanoma yimuphi umuntu. Lokhu kufaka nezihloko eziphathelene namasiko, izindaba (ezingadideki nezepolitiki), ubuciko, ezemidlalo. Into esemqoka ukungahileleki. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ingxoxo yezindaba zomhlaba wonke ingaya engxabanweni eshisayo ngesihloko sohlelo lwezepolitiki. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi impikiswano isizoqala, shintsha nje isihloko. Khumbula, umnyombo wengxoxo akuyona ukukholisa i-interlocutor futhi ushintshe ukubukwa kwakhe emhlabeni, kepha enze amantombazane amasha nesikhathi esimnandi.2. Hambani nizungeze izingqikithi "ezibomvu"
Indawo ethi "Red" ifaka izihloko lapho ama-interlocutor atholakala khona ngamathuba aphezulu emibono ephambene. Lesi yisihloko sezepolitiki, kanye nenkolo, kanye nezezimali zomuntu, njll. Futhi akunasidingo sokuxoxa ngakho konke okuxhumene nempilo eseduze, nomndeni, impilo. Lezi zihloko zicishe zikhule njalo zaba izingxabano, futhi ngokushesha okukhulu. Futhi akudingekile ukukhohlwa ukuthi endlini ye-hangman ayikhulumi ngentambo - wonke umuntu unesihlobo esithile "se-acute" ingqikithi ye- "acute" isihloko sabanye abangabonakala.
3. Khumbula ukuthi awusona i-gingerbread
Umthetho oyinhloko wanoma iyiphi ingxoxo yezwe awucasuki, futhi ungajabulisi futhi uyakucela futhi kanjalo nangokuthi ngokwesisekelo akunakwenzeka. Ungakhuba i-interlocutor ngehlaya, ungashiywanga endaweni, ngokungahloniphi kwami, izwi elikhulu ngokweqile, ukugcotshwa komzimba kanye nezingxoxo zesihloko esingelona iqiniso.Ngakho-ke, uma ukuxhumana kwenzeka nomuntu ongazi lutho, kufanelekile ukuqaphela kakhulu. Futhi ukuze ungazicasuli uma i-interlocutor ingathandeki - zama ukuyiguqula, kepha yenza njengeyisiko ngangokunokwenzeka, ulethe ukuxolisa kwakho, ubonge ukuxolisa futhi ungitshele ukuthi singathanda ukukhuluma nabanye abantu abajwayelekile.
4. Ukwenqatshelwa ngamagama
Ezingxoxweni, uvame ukuzwa ukuthi umuntu olapha kwesobunxele futhi wesobunxele "ushesha kanjani" amagama abantu abamjwayele izingubo eziwuthengayo kuphela ama-brands (nawalesi alandela amagama ngokwawo). Imvamisa, ukuziphatha okunjalo kuyamcasula abanye, futhi bonke ngoba yilowo muntu uzama ukumemezela isimo sakhe, azibeke phezulu kunezinye futhi akhuphule inani lawo. Kunganikeza eminye imizwa yomona, ihlazo (hhayi wonke umuntu ephaketheni lemikhiqizo yokunethezeka, ukuphumula ezindaweni zokuphumula ezihlonishwayo) futhi akukaziwa ukuthi ungasabela kanjani i-interlocutor. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukulandela ngokucophelela ukukhuluma kwakho.
5. I-ATACH ne-APRF
Ukusebenza inani elikhulu lamagama akwamanye amazwe kungxoxo kubhekwa njenge-MovEton. Impela wonke umuntu okungenani wake wafika kubantu abafaka amagama aphesheya ngalesi siphakamiso. Kuyinto eyodwa lapho kwenzeka kumuntu wakwelinye izwe, amagama athile angahle angazi noma awasebenzise emkhuba futhi ahluke ngokuphelele lapho i-interlocutor inolimi lwayo lwendabuko. Ingxoxo kufanele yenziwe ngolimi lwezwe abantu abahlala kuwo, namagama aphesheya asebenza kuphela uma kwenzeka kunesidingo esikhulu.6. IGrammar-Nazi ngeke idlule
Elinye lamaphutha ajwayelekile futhi amakhulu kakhulu engxoxweni ukulungisa i-interlocutor yakho uma ephuthelwa ukugcizelelwa eZwini, ngokwesibonelo. Akunakwenzeka ukwenza lokhu, noma ngabe kuyacasula kangakanani futhi akufuni ukugcizelela ukuqwashisa kwakhe kwizilimi. I-interlocutor ayikwazi ukulungiswa, kepha ungaxoxa ngayo yonke imithetho ngokwakho - wathi "uLatte", futhi uyaqhubeka nokusho ukuthi "Latte", kepha uma nje uyazi, ngakho-ke usho njalo.
7. Sawubona lalela i-interlocutor
Ingxoxo enhle isho amandla okulalela umuntu okhuluma naye. Cela umuntu imibuzo nentshisekelo elalele impendulo yakhe, phendule kulokho akutshela kona. Ukulalela ngokucophelela, awusoze waqeda izihloko zengxoxo - ungahlala ubuza imibuzo ecacisa. Lezo. I-interlocutor ngokwayo kuleli cala ingumthombo wezihloko. Mhlawumbe, phakathi nengxoxo yonke, uzokwazi ukufaka amagama ambalwa kuphela, kepha qiniseka, ngale ndlela, uzokuzwa ngawe njengomthombo, kuphela ukubuyekezwa okuthopha.8. Lapho ukudweba izihloko
Umbuzo ovame kakhulu ozwa abaqeqeshi ngenhlonipho nezinkulumo ezincane. Futhi impendulo kuye ilula kakhulu futhi i-banana - ukuze kudingekile ukukhuluma ngayo, udinga nje ukuthi ube nentshisekelo emhlabeni, funda izincwadi ezithokozisayo, ungazi nge-rubbon yakamuva ngaphakathi Inethiwekhi yokuxhumana nomphakathi. Kuyadingeka ukuxhumana ngangokunokwenzeka nabantu abathakazelayo, lapho ungafunda khona izinto eziningi ezintsha. Kepha ngasikhathi sinye qaphela futhi ulandele imininingwane lapho imininingwane itholwa khona futhi ucaphuna ini ngempela. Emhlanganweni wabantu bebhizinisi, ngokwesibonelo, kuzobe kungafaneleki ukuxoxa ngolwazi oluhlanganisiwe ngejenali yobukhazikhazi.
9. Inhlanhla ithanda labo abalungele yena
Uma wazi kusengaphambili ukuthi kufanele uvakashele umcimbi wezwe, ephelezelwa ngokuxhumana nabantu abangayazi - vele ulungiselele. Yini ethokozisayo emphakathini ozoba lapho? Funda imininingwane efanelekile, skrolela ngokusebenzisa izingodo ezinezimpawu ezigunyaziwe namaphephandaba. Zama ukuthola ukuthi kuzoba nobani ngqo, Susa imininingwane ngalaba bantu abanamakhasi abo enkundleni yokuxhumana - ungathola ukuthi kuyathakazelisa umuntu nokuthi uyakuthanda. Kusenesikhathi, ucabanga ngesihloko sengxoxo, usanda kudlula izimo zokudideka.10. Lahla isithiyo
"Yini ezocabanga ngami?", "Ngizobukeka ngihlekisa" futhi konke ngendlela efanayo udinga ukulahla ikhanda lami. Ngubani ngempela obukeka ehlekisayo, ngakho-ke le yindoda eyayingena ekhoneni ngengilazi yewayini futhi yangcwatshwa ocingweni ngenkathi abanye beshintshana ngemininingwane. Kuthobekile kakhulu ngabantu lapho inzalo ibonakala eceleni lapho inokuthile ngokuthile, bayathanda ukufunda okuthile okusha, babelane ngemibono emisha, yabelana ngemibono. Ungesabi izingxoxo - ngoba bandisa ama-Horizons of ubuntu, bakuvumele ukuba wenze ama-New, ngesinye isikhathi ukuthandwa, funa abangane abasha. Ngakho-ke, yeka ukwesaba futhi wenze izinyathelo zokuqala zokuxhumana ngempumelelo.