Sibone eFritrent Inothi le-Anastasia RubaTova mayelana "nokuphuma endaweni yokududuza" kanye nentamo encane ayizange idonse, inikine. Yebo Yebo! Nikeza kuqala kule ndawo ukuze ube! Futhi-ke, njengoba uphuma, ungakhetha kanjani, ama-shreds andiza esikalini.
Lokhu akuyona ukuqondanisa okubi kakhulu. Abanye bathi "yeka ukuqhekeka." Bona isixazululo sekhadinali enkingeni. Kusuka emazwini anje, kuqala ukukhathazeka. Ngizochaza manje. Ukuphuma endaweni yokududuza, kufanele uqale ube kuyo.
Iyini "indawo yokududuza"? Le yindawo lapho ukushisa, okuthokomele, ngokukhululekile, okumnandi, ngenjabulo nangokuphepha. Lapho uthanda khona futhi ohlonishwayo. Lapho banendaba khona nawe (futhi futhi uyakhathalela, hhayi ngaphandle kwama-unilaterally).
Abaningi bethu nje abanayo indawo enjalo. Yebo, ayikho indawo lapho basinakekela khona. Kungcono kakhulu, kunendawo yokubheka nxazonke noma ephuza. Kungcono kunalutho, kodwa hhayi ngokuphelele. Kufana notshwala obuvela kwisithwathwa - ngomthetho, kuyasiza, kepha kungabi isikhathi eside, futhi kubi ukwedlula ijakhethi eliphansi.
Kuvuselelwa endaweni yokududuza (angilithandi igama elithi "Zone", unokunambitheka kwekamu, kodwa kungaba), kuyadingeka ukuhlala lapho kancane. Umphefumulo ophumuzayo. Futhi-ke kuphela - phuma. Lo muzwa unephutha nganoma yini - lapho kunamabutho anele kukho konke, futhi usukulungele, mhlawumbe ukuze ufunde okunye ... Vuka kusenesikhathi futhi uqhubeke ngephrojekthi yomsebenzi, abelokhu Ukulengiswa ezinhlelweni ... futhi kubaluleke kakhulu lapha, ukuthi ukuthathwa kokwenza okuthile - usuka ngaphakathi futhi afiphele umcabango. Okokuqala uqala ukwenza - khona-ke usuvele ucabanga. Hhayi njalo ngengoma, kwesinye isikhathi kuyintokozo ebuhlungu yokunqoba, futhi esihogweni, ucabanga ukuthi, ngakhuphuka ngemuva kwenqama yalesi sihlanza se-vacuum - kepha nakanjani hhayi emandleni okugcina. Kwakuwusizo ngoba kwakuthakazelisa.
Abantu abakhuluma ngo- "baphume endaweni yokududuza" ngokuvamile abasho noma iyiphi inzalo. Uma sihumusha lo mklamo olimini lwesintu olulula, basho cishe lokhu okulandelayo: Ngivele ngandlela-thile fiimo, kodwa uma ngizihlupheka nginembe ngokwengeziwe, mhlawumbe mhlawumbe kuzoba ngcono kimi?
Hhayi-ke angazi. Uma umuntu egula ngomkhuhlane, aze aphuke esitebeleni, mhlawumbe alulame ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kepha akuveli ku-spanking. Imvamisa kuzwakala njengokuzitika okuthi: "Yebo, ngivilapha nje, angifuni nje ukuphuma endaweni yokududuza." Futhi lo mklamo wokuzulazula kungaba ukunambitheka kwehlazo elibuhlungu ("Angilungile ngokwanele, angifinyeleli evamile, noma ngishayisana"), noma ukuba necala "angizami kahle, angikwenzi kahle, hhayi Wenze kahle, akekho ozongithanda lapho ngingenzi kahle "). Futhi amahloni namawayini yizinto ezinjenge-burdock, eziyohlala zithola, ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, noma ngabe impumelelo yangempela oyitholile. Noma ekugcineni usuzimisele ukuzisola futhi uwubeke ngokujwayelekile ukuze udle (yize lokhu kungeyona impumelelo).
Kepha nge-vacuum enonya futhi emkhawulweni wamandla, akekho umuntu ojwayelekile oyohlala isikhathi eside. Izindlela ezengeziwe zi-Plus-Minus ezintathu: Khasa emuva "endaweni yokududuza", ziwela ekucindezelekeni emtholampilo (lapho kungeyona into embi, kepha kungaxilonga) noma ekuxilongeni Yini oyithandayo kangcono? Ngiqala. Ikakhulu, ezikhathini ezisindayo. Ingcindezi yolwazi. Inkinga yezezimali. Ubusika. Novemba. Alikho ilanga. Futhi uma kungazelelwe niyazi ukuthi nifika kanjani endaweni yokududuza, ngiphakamisa ukuthi ngihlale kulo kuze kube sentwasahlobo.