Ingabe kubi ukuguga? Mhlawumbe yebo. Izinguquko zihlala zinovalo, izinguquko eziningi, zimaka ukuguqukela ku-New Age. Kepha ukuvalelisa nentsha akusho ukuthi ukuguga! Ukuqala ukubhala le ndatshana, ngakhumbula indaba eyodwa.
Owesifazane ugqoke kahle iminyaka engamashumi amane, wagqoka izithende, wenza izimonyo nezinwele. Emakhosini, ngaya emakethe, ngathenga ijakhethi enkulu esehla, engangiyiphupha ngasikhathi, ngaqala ukuyigqoka. Ngokushesha wasishintsha kakhulu isithombe. Ukuzizwa kabili, akunjalo? Lapho intokazi ebukekayo ebukekayo iba yi-kolobom emhlophe, ngaphandle kwezimonyo namabhuthi wemfashini - kubukeka njengokuwohloka. Kepha iphupho lakhe lagcwaliseka, umfazi wasusa imihlangano yakhe futhi wazizwa ejabule.
Mhlawumbe i-Plus enamandla kakhulu yeminyaka engama-45 + - amandla okuba njengoba ufuna ukuba yikho. Uma kunesifiso sokuncintisana sobusha - inkonzo yama-cosmetologists, odokotela abahlinzayo bepulasitiki, abaqeqeshi kanye nama-stylists. Kwanele ukubheka umncintiswano wobuhle baseBrazil kogogo - bonke ababambiqhaza banomzukulu omncane, kepha iningi labo lizonikeza izingane ezineminyaka emibili.
Uma kungenjalo - ungazamukela ngokuphepha. Ngokubambisana nompunga nemibimbi, ushintsho ebusweni nasezibalo. Ubuhle bemvelo be-Golden Age bus ngemfashini, futhi akumangazi. Engxenyeni yokugcina, abesifazane abavuthiwe abaningi abavuthiwe abafuni ukuguqukela ku-grani, noma basebenzise yonke into etholwe ku-appendage. UCindy Joseph, uJackie O'Shoshesia noNicola Griffin baba ngamadoda adumile ngemuva kwama-45, akekho noyedwa kubo ngenxa yokubuyiselwa emfashini wawela ngaphansi kommese futhi akaqalanga ukupenda izinwele ezimpunga.
Uma kunesifiso sokuqhubeka nomsebenzi wakhe - sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubekela phambili. Umqondisi ophumelelayo, ezombusazwe, usosayensi, umlobi noma iminyaka yomlingisi akuyona isithiyo, abaningi bafuna ukuphumelela kuZinith of Life. U-Ella Pamfilova, uValentina Matvienko, uJane Mlatov, uJane Goodoll, Maya Kucher, Ekungafi uRanevSkaya, ekugcineni, amandla abo awekho nakancane ebusheni. Uma ufuna ukuphindisela impilo - kukhona ithuba lokuzama! Hambisa kwelinye idolobha noma izwe, thola imfundo entsha, vula ibhizinisi lakho, qala ukwakha indlu emhlabeni, ubhale izincwadi noma imidwebo. UDaria Dontsova waqala ukubhala abaseshi ngo-47. Kay Darcy waya ukunqoba iHollywood ngo-69.
Owesifazane oneminyaka engama-40 uqeda izimo zempilo "eziphoqelekile", izingane zikhula, ziza enkundleni yeZenith. Kusekhona amabutho, sekuvele kunesipiliyoni sokuhlakanipha nokuphila, amandla okuqonda nokuthatha izifiso zawo, zizwe inkululeko yangempela. ... Qonda nje lokhu kungadlula kuphela izithiyo zeminyaka. Ngo-20, usuku "45" lubonakala lukude njengenyanga, ngo-30 - kubangela ukwethuka kwe-chmonic. Ini? Ngizokuvela ngempela imibimbi, isifuba sami sizofunwa, umvuthwandaba we-nightmare uzoqala ngama-main kanye nobuhlungu ?! Umyeni ubumpofu futhi uya kwabancane, izingane zizokhula, futhi okusha ngeke kuzalwe kabusha. Akekho odinga ukusebenza, futhi ngaphambi kokuba impesheni ikude. Abafana, ama-fracture, ingcindezi, isifo sikashukela, i-oncology izofika. Ngizoba ugogo omubi futhi owesabekayo - ukuhleba ebhentshini, impilo izophela! Futhi kwenzekani emzimbeni ngempela?
Umvuthwandaba uyisigaba sezinguquko zomzimba emzimbeni wowesifazane ohambisana nokuqothulwa komsebenzi wokuzala. Amathuba amakhulu okuvela kwawo iminyaka engama-45-52. Izimpawu zeKlimaks kwabesifazane zincike eminyakeni yobudala bezifo ezihlangene kanye nofuzo - "njengomama". Kungahle kube umvuthwandaba womzimba, ongalethi owesifazane wemizwa engemnandi. Futhi i-pathological, nini, ngenxa yezimpawu, owesifazane ucela udokotela, njengoba ikhwalithi yempilo incishiswe ngokusobala. Ukuze le nkathi ibe lula, kufanele sibonane nodokotela ePerimenopause. Uma kungekho impikiswano, udokotela uzokunikeza ukwelashwa okuphambanisa izimpawu ze-clisecteric. Ngezibalo zomhlaba, ukuqala kokwamukelwa kwezidakamizwa ze-hormonal kuze kube sesikhathini se-postmenopational kunciphisa ubungozi bokubonakaliswa kanzima kwale nkathi kathathu. Ngasikhathi sinye, impilo yowesifazane ihlala igcwele.
T. P. Maksimova, Clinic Rami (St. Petersburg), esebenzisa udokotela oneminyaka yobudala - i-gynecologist yesigaba esiphakeme kakhulu. Umama wontanga yami.
Ukwesaba ukuguga, ukulahlekelwa ubuhle, umsebenzi wokuzala, ukuhamba, impilo, okusho kanye nenhloso empilweni kunciphise izinsizakusebenza eziningi kakhulu. Abesifazane bacabanga, nezitha ezizimilo azinqotshwa. Futhi lapho uqonda okwenzekayo - ukwesaba kuphelile, akakubekezeleli ukucaca. Ukusebenza kule ndatshana, ngangikhuluma nabangane abaningi nabantu engijwayelene ukuqonda ukuthi kuphila kunjani ngemuva kwezakhamizi ezivamile ezijwayelekile zaseRussia. Hhayi amamodeli, hhayi izinkanyezi, musa iqiniso - labo besifazane abaya emgwaqweni.
Ufuna ukufunda abakushoyo?
Ngokuqondene nabesifazane abangu-45 +, ngingasho ngokuzethemba ukuthi amakilasi weWushu ukukhetha okuhle kubo. Akekho noyedwa kulabo abanolwazi ebusheni bezimo ezingezinhle abadluli ngaphandle komkhondo, kuhlala kucishe kube yibhlokhi elingabonakali, chofoza. Isigaxa esibucayi salezi zimpungushe sinqwabelana eminyakeni yobudala evuthiwe. Futhi - ukuncishiswa kwemvelo ekuhambeni, ukuguquguquka, ithoni yonke. Indlela yokuhlala ye-WUSU Ibavumela ukuba baqale kunoma yisiphi isikhathi, kunoma yisiphi isimo somzimba. Imizwa enhle, ebushelelezi, imizwa yangaphakathi, ukulawulwa okubukwayo, ukuphefumula okulungile kukuvumela ukuthi usheshe uye kwimodi "yokulondolozwa kwezinsizakusebenza", kepha ngokwengxenye ibuyiselwe abaningi, ngezinye izikhathi abakhohliwe, amakhono omzimba. Ukuvuselelwa okujwayelekile kanye nokuvuselelwa kwezindlela zeQigong akuyona inganekwane.
O. Deresh, Uthisha uWushu, umxhumanisi wesikhungo sokutadisha izinsiza zempi zempi nezempilo ", i-Feodosia.
Ngihlala ngiphila kancane nobudala bami. Ngiyakhumbula, ngoba iminyaka engamashumi amathathu iqoqe inqwaba yezivakashi, futhi yajabulisa - futhi intombi yayinenkinga nokuhlupheka - lokho, impilo yayiphelile. Manje unaye 48, indodana eneminyaka emihlanu, ingane yesibili, eneminyaka yobudala ehambisana nabazukulu abavela endodakazini endala - futhi akukho nkinga nokuvuka. Manje sengineminyaka engama-48, futhi ngingasho ngokuphepha - iminyaka eyi-10 edlule yayihamba phambili empilweni yami. Emsebenzini kahle - uyayazi intengo, ubuholi bumazi nomsebenzi wakhe, futhi amabutho asala impilo. Indodakazi ikhulile - futhi manje singumngane. Uthole imali ekhulile, futhi izindleko zenqabile. Kuvele ithuba lokungaphezulu - okokuqala ngqa empilweni - ukuhamba njengoba umphefumulo ufisa. Vele ubuyile eVietnam, oh, olwandle, olwandle, umphakathi omnandi - ndodakazi. I-Tan nenhlanzi eyosiwe nge-lemongrass, lokhu kungukuphila. Futhi ukubuyela emsebenzini - akukho ukuhlupheka - uyakuthanda. Ngihola ukuqondiswa, ngikhuluma nodokotela ngemithi emisha, abantu abahlakaniphile, izihloko ezithokozisayo, umuzwa wokuthi uletha izinzuzo, futhi ungasuki iphepha. Bengizoba nomona ngo-25, ngokweqiniso!
R. Efimova. Isazi sezengqondo, umhlaziyi, umqondisi wepulazi wenkampani o + k, eMoscow
Amashumi amane nesihlanu yisikhathi sokuziphila ngokwakho nangemithetho yabo. Ngenzenjani kimi eminyakeni emihlanu edlule - kusukela kumashumi amane kuya kwabangamashumi amane nanhlanu? Bahlukana nobaba wendodakazi yami ekugcineni. Imihlangano yezomtho yezenhlalo yaphela, indodakazi yethu yaba yintokazi esencane eneminyaka engamashumi amabili nenhle, iqeda isikhungo futhi iphila impilo yakhe. Uyanquma ukuthi uzokwazisa kanjani futhi nini nabazali bakhe, futhi thina, abazali, asisenakudinga ukuxhumana okuphoqelelwe. Ngabe kuyesabisa ukuguqula umsebenzi ngemuva kwamashumi amane nanhlanu?
O. U-Andreeva, umhleli, iMoscow
Uyini umyeni wakhe wesifazane omuhle? Okokuqala awuthandi umuntu, kepha umbono wami ngaye. Kancane kancane ubuntu, kuyathakazelisa. Sobabili sathola ukwanele futhi sakhiwe. Imibuzo eminingi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ixazululwa lula. Umbundu wadlula lapho umuntu engajwayelene nawe. Uba ngumdabu, ukwesaba ukungaqondakali. Vele, bekukhona ukuhlakanipha ekuxazululeni izindaba ze-warnasday. Sinezinto eziyindawo encane, isikhathi esihlala njalo sentshisekelo yokuhlangana nokukhula sigcinwe. Siyathandana kanye nezingane.
N. Achilov, udokotela, usomabhizinisi, umholi wendoda yeqembu leDramnot E. Achilova, St. Petersburg
Ubani ozophikisana, hhayi zonke izintombi zami ezingenakuphela. Abantu abadala baletha izihlalo ezingenangqondo, abazali baba ngamadoda amadala angenakufinyeleleka, amakhono omzimba abuthaka, kunezinkinga ngememori, umbono, ukuzwa, kuvuka. Akuwona wonke umuntu okwazile ukuthola umsebenzi kusukela okokuqala, akuwona wonke umuntu omuhle ngemali. Abaningana babantanga yami balwa nomdlavuza, ngasinda ngokwesahlukoseko osindayo, bangcwaba abantu abaseduze. Kepha abapheleli. Emehlweni ethu, kwakhiwa ungqimba olusha lomphakathi - abantu abavuthiwe beminyaka engama-45-65, abaqhubeka bekhuthele. Umuthi, imfashini, i-cinema, izincwadi, ibhizinisi labavakashi ziya ngokuya zithambekele kubo. Banekhono, bolvent, bacabangela futhi benza izinqumo ngokwazo, ngaphandle kokuphuthuma ukuze bathole abasebasha. Ukuwa kwempilo kuyeka ukuba yigebe elincane phakathi kobusika nehlobo. Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi amadodakazi ami (neyami) amadodakazi angama-45 azozizwa egcwele futhi muhle.
Sasinenhlanhla encane - umphakathi wawungakajwakaliswa, ubuntu (inzondo asebekhulile) ngeke abahambe ndawo. Kepha izinguquko zaba ngcono sezivele zibonakalayo. Futhi bancike kithi! Abesifazane abavuthiwe abavuthiwe, abaqinile, abasebenzayo, abasebenzayo, abathembekile baze bavele bazungeza, kushoda nje ama-stereotypes.
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