Uzwa abantu abazitholile. Unomsebenzi othokozisayo namathemba omsebenzi anenjongo. Unephupho futhi usondele kuye. Kepha kungani, kungukuthi, kusuka ku-iron ngayinye kungukuthi i-arwing "futhi iwashi liyaphawula ... bese liya ... Into engeyinhle ..." Awuzizwa umuntu ompofu! Kwenzekani?
Okuxakile ngokwanele, okusanhlamvu kweqiniso ku-whisple kukhona. Kepha kungukusanhlamvu okufana neparele esigxotsheni se-dung. Masinqobe ngokucophelela ukuze sidlule sonke isixha sodoti ngodoti ngonembeza ohlanzekile.
Isimo simi kanjena: Unomzimba, futhi konke wena uqobo kule mpilo kufakwa kulo mzimba. Lokho ngaphandle komzimba - akusebenzi. Umzimba unezidingo eziqinile, isikhathi esilinganiselwe sokusebenza okulindelwe kanye nesixha sezilungiselelo ezinhle, okuvikelekile! - Chaza hhayi kuphela ukuthi umzimba ungaphansi kwakho, kodwa futhi nakulokho ongakufuna. Ufuna - Lokhu ngokuvamile okukhethwa kukho komzimba, buza ngisho nakwiphiramidi yebhotela.
Kuyacaca ukuthi izidingo eziqinile zazo zonke zicishe zifane, kanye ne-finner yezilungiselelo, izinketho eziningi. Kepha kunezinto ezithile ezibonakala zingabonakali impela, kepha zivule futhi zivaliwe noma ngabe zinesifiso esingakanani. (Khumbula ukuthi yikuphi ukucasulwa nokuphazamiseka okwakukhona kokuqala kokuqala noma okuthathu - futhi akukubuzanga yini izinhlelo zezinsuku ezizayo).
Lezi zinto, okungukuthi, izilungiselelo zethu zeHormonal, into ehluke kakhulu kogogo bethu abakhulu, futhi okuthile akukashintshi. Ake siqale ngeqiniso lokuthi siyaya esikhathini kaningi kunokuba phramateri wethu. Izikhathi eziyi-10 ngonyaka. Njenge-nun. Siyaya esikhathini ngokungenakuqhathaniswa naphansi kunomfanelo wethu: Isidalwa sabesifazane, senzele abanye onkulunkulu abangu-12-16, futhi ngemuva kokulahla abantu abangu-5-8 kulezi zinto ezizalwe, "Ngilahliwe emvukhweni wonyaka wokuphila futhi" Mina - Konke imibuzo. " Futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, manje, manje kuphela ngokuqinile ukuncipha kwabesifazane ajwayele ukusebenza komphumela we-amenorrrhea olambile, okuwukuphela kwezinto eziphilayo zezingxabano zethu futhi wazivikela kakhulu ezikhathini ezinzima.
Kepha kusekhona abesifazane abamane baphanga kuleli balishi. Awukwazi ukufuna izingane nhlobo futhi ungaziqoqeki ukuze ziqale. Ngemuva kwakho konke, izingane azisekho kuphela isiqinisekiso sokuguga okuphephile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane namuhla ziyisibambiso zichitha imali ikakhulukazi. Futhi kunabesifazane abahlela ukuba yilokho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bazozala izingane. Futhi labo abafuna nje ukubeletha okuvela endodeni, futhi kungabe kusaba khona kunoma ngubani.
Futhi lapha awunazingane ezingamashumi amathathu. Ngabe ubhekana nani ngempela? Ukukhula kwamakhono kungenzeka kakhulu. Ukuzibona. Isisindo ngokukhethwa kombuthano omkhulu wabalingani (abafunwayo - konke kwaphonsa futhi kwahlanza umfana kuya eNorway). Kulezi, amaminithi akhona akhona - kancane kancane ancipha inani lamaqanda abasebenzi. Uma uvame ukuphuza, ukulala nezambulela bese ugibela izindawo eziningi ezingcolisiwe - kahle, ugcwalise amaqanda amaningana. Futhi-ke odokotela abancomi ukwenza le nqubo kuze kube yiminyaka engama-34, ngoba kuphela ngemuva kwalonyaka uqala ukwehla okubonakalayo kokuzala. Okungukuthi, uma ungalethi imfucumfucu yezitshalo zamandla enuzi, awukwazi ukukhathazeka.
Kuvela e-Iron "lapha ngifuna ukushada ke, akekho oyothatha!"
Cabanga ngakho. Umuntu ojwayelekile (uma ufika ekhanda ukuzoshada ngendoda esejwayelekile), wamangala ngomqondo omuhle wabesifazane iminyaka engu-5 ukuya kwengama-10. Lokho wukuthi, nje ubukeke nje ungamfushane, kepha kancane, ibhizinisi. Ungamashumi amathathu nanhlanu, uneminyaka engamashumi amane nanhlanu - yini inkinga? Eminyakeni engamakhulu amabili edlule, ngisho nomkhwenyana oneminyaka engamashumi amane nanhlanu akazange acabangele abashadikazi ngamashumi amabili nanhlanu, ngokuyinhloko ekucabangeni kokuzala - labo esibhale cishe ngaphezulu, futhi asevele bashintshe okuningi. Yebo, amadoda alondolozekile kakhulu kubantu esibukweni, kepha izinguquko ziyazilimaza. Unkosikazi oneminyaka engamashumi amabili muhle, akukho mpikiswano, kodwa kuzoba ngubani uma esekhulile? Ngabe kuzolunga ngaye lapho ezigcina ephelele?
Kepha kubaluleke kakhulu kunokucatshangelwa okuthe xaxa. Ukuhamba noma kubhekiswa kakhulu ekufundeni kwinsimbi, nje "ngokuhamba kwesikhathi" - owesifazane uvala amathuba amaningi okukhula. Umshado ngokuqonda kwawo kwendabuko ungukusebenza okugcwele okugcwele. Kanye nokutshala kwezingane - futhi ngokujwayelekile kulayishwa ama-24 \ 7. Lokhu akuyona i-squat yezenhlalo, "ukususwa", kungumnyaka emihlanu kuya kwayisithupha, okususwe ngokuphelele ekuqhubekeni kwakho kabusha, isipiliyoni, ukufunda. Awuzange uye ePhd, awuzange uphumelele ukuhlolwa, awuzange uphume kulo msebenzi, awuzange wakhe ibhizinisi. Futhi omunye umuntu wakwenza. Ngakho-ke awuhlali endaweni efanayo - wehle phansi. Yini ethembisa wena ekuphenduleni? Nengane yakho, okungenani uqinisekisa ingane uqobo, isimo sikamama (futhi lokhu kuseyinto) nokuzola izihlobo. Kuphrojekthi "umshado" awuqinisekisiwe noma yini.
Ngakho-ke yini okubi ukuba munye eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu? Iqiniso lokuthi umuntu ufuna ubulili nokuvalwa.
Hhayi-ke, lokhu akuyona umbuzo wesimo somndeni, lo ngumbuzo wekhono lokungena ebudlelwaneni, kanye nokuba khona kwabazongenela ubudlelwano obusendaweni yakho. Uma ubudlelwane bakho bungasho ngandlela thile, kusho ukuthi akukho nduna yokungabazwa yikho, nje ufuna okuthile ubudlelwano obukhona manje. Yebo, uma uqonda kahle ukuthi yini ngempela - futhi uma kungenjalo - kuyadingeka ukukuthola, futhi ungavumi nje ngokungaboni kulokho "okuthile kungahambi." Uma kungekho okhetho - akudingekile ukuzishintsha, nemvelo. Kungathatha isikhathi, akekho ophikisana - kodwa sesivele sithi: Unesikhathi.
Umbhalo Wombhalo: U-Asya Mikheev