Odokotela bezengqondo abasebenza nabesifazane baya ngokuya bekhuluma nge-Dysphoria eyengeziwe, eyanenye abantu ngama-chromosomes we-xx kunokuba amelwe. Sibuze udokotela wezengqondo u-Asu Mikheev ukuthi atshele nge-Dysphoria kwabafundi bethu.
Ngokuvamile "i-dysphoria" yi-euphoria ephambene nalokho. Okujwayelekile kwehluka ngendlela efanayo, kuphela ngakolunye uhlangothi. Futhi njenge-euphoria, i-dysphoria ingaba nezizathu ezahlukahlukene - lesi akusona isifo, kuwuphawu.
I-dysphoria ebonakalayo ibizwa ngokuthi isimo sengqondo esinjalo umuntu angeke amukele ngayo umzimba wakhe njengengxenye ye- "Mina" yakhe. Icala elizimele futhi elikhanyayo kakhulu le-Dysphoria - ubulili i-Dysphoria, lapho umzimba ungeyena nje ukuthi kunjalo, kepha ngokukhethekile ukuthi yikuphi phansi. Lokhu kungahambisana nomuzwa wokuzidela okudabukisayo "Kungani omunye umalumekazi ongaziwa ekhombisa esibukweni?" Noma ukufutheka "kwesidumbu esiqandisiwe, ngizokubhubhisa," kepha ungangezeleli impilo nobungani kunoma yikuphi.
Ukuqiniseka ukuthi "empeleni akungemi kimi" kungathwala noma kuphi, futhi ukuphunyula kolunye ubulili akuyona inketho embi kangako uma kuqhathaniswa ne-anorexia, ukucindezelwa nokuzibulala nokuzibulala nokuzibulala. Futhi i-dysphoria esindayo ayikhiphi lutho kulolu hlu.
I-Bodily Dysphoria, enzima kakhulu, (kahle, lokho akuvamile) izimbangela zemvelo yobuchwepheshe. Isibonelo, ukungalingani okukhulu kwama-hormone, i-schizophrenia noma inhlawulo yangaphakathi yesimo sobulili - lapho umuntu othile, lapho umuntu othile, ebonakala khona "intombazane eyisiphukuphuku" ephenduka indoda chromosomal ekuthuthukiseni intuthuko ye-intrauterine. Kwi-Schizophrenia, ubulili i-Dysphoria futhi akulona ukuqonda okunzima kakhulu (Gregor "Kafki Khumbula?). Kepha abantu benzeka ngamakhanda agcwele amaphela futhi ngasikhathi sinye ukwamukelwa komzimba wabo; Futhi amantombazane angenzeka kuleveli le-testosterolologists e-endocrinologists afuna ukubathumela ukuze akhonze emabuthweni anomoya - kodwa ngasikhathi sinye ashayele, aziqiniseka ngokwawo futhi anelisekile ngobukhulu namafomu. Futhi ngokugcwele, kugcwele abesifazane abazotshela iMedicatcher kakhulu ebusweni "hhayi isiguli sami!", Ukofuzo kanye nezingane zofuzo naku-Choir zizokusho "Owesifazane!" Futhi ngisho nokuhlaziywa kwama-hormone okuzala akwembuli ngokungafanele. Futhi bona, okunjalo, kubonakala sengathi kuyinto ejwayelekile, njalo baya kulokhu kuphambene nalokho. Futhi konke ngoba umzimba awunjalo. Kwesinye isikhathi nakanjani, okuyikho ngqo. Izimbotshana ezingeziwe? Hhayi lokho. Udlulise ekhaleni? Unxuse isisu? Imisipha egcwele? Ngathenga i-strapon futhi ngaphathwa phambi kwesibuko kuyo? Futhi hhayi lokho ... oh! Kufanele sikhohlise imbongolo!
Eduze kwe-dysphoria asinankinga kangako yokukhathazeka kokuhlukaniswa komzimba. Lapho, okungenani, inyama yakho ayibangeli muntu noma intukuthelo kumuntu. Umuntu akamkhathaleli. Cishe isembozo sesitimela, lapho aqhubekela khona emsebenzini. Ukushayisana ngokuphelele lapha esinye isitimela akudingekile, ngakho-ke - Uyini umehluko. Lapho ngikhona, futhi ikuphi le moto, akukho lutho olufanayo. Isimo esihle kakhulu, ikakhulukazi lapho uyadingeka, ngaphandle kokuthintana nomuntu, abantu abehlukene bathinta. Ukuhlukaniswa nomzimba kuwukucacisa kwezimoto ezikhubazekile, izifebe kanye nothimama abebekwe omama. "Uzokhuphuka - ungabi yizibopho." Yebo, yebo, kunjalo.
Kunezizathu ezimbili zokuthi kungani sonke sitholakale kungafaneleki ukungazilungisi ukuthatha imizimba yethu.
Okokuqala, sonke sadlula lapho isidumbu lapho umzimba kungazelelwe, ngaphandle kokumenyezelwa kwempi, uqala ukuhambisa ohlangothini olungalindeleki. Futhi noma ungasibheki esibukweni iminyaka - izingubo zisalokhu zihlala ngesigwegwe, izicathulo kanye nefenisha zilambile, izicathulo zihamba, izinkinobho zindiza, zisuswa kusihlwa, zinuka ngenhlanganisela womchamo wekati, ama-tar kanye nesikali sezinhlanzi ezibolile. Phambilini, lokhu bekungenjalo! Yini? ... Futhi uma uthola isibindi futhi ubheka esibukweni? Ngisho nalabo banenhlanhla futhi abajabule abangazange bashaye ibhalansi enamafutha futhi isikhumba saqhubeka sihlanzekile - bathola ikhala elingajwayelekile, lapho ungadingi khona izinkomba ezinjalo, hhayi nhlobo lezinwele zombala.
Kepha into eyodwa izoba yimbi. Ekugcineni, lapho uPubertate, hhayi kuphela umzimba oguqukayo. Kubi kakhulu ukuthi sesidubule ngokuqinile okulindelwe kusuka kulokho uvemvane kufanele kuphume onodoli abasebasha. Kuzwakale ngenkohliso ngokucophelela.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, wawakha kanjani lokho okulindelwe ngekusasa lomzimba intombazane ephakathi (okungukuthi, umlimi) umkhaya uneminyaka engamakhulu amabili edlule? Egumbini lokugeza, masonto onke. Eminyakeni eyishumi nanhlanu ngizokufana nodadewethu Maya. Amashumi amathathu nanhlanu acishe afane noMama manje. Amashumi amane nanhlanu - lapho u-anti peresh. Ngamashumi ayisithupha - njengogogo. Ukube umndeni ubune-phenotype engaphezu kweyodwa (u-anti noMasha futhi amakhanda ande futhi angular, anemilenze emikhulu namabele, i-shovonogiye, enophawu lobukhulu obukhulu), le ntombazane yayazi: wakwazi Iba yindaba ekuzalwaneni kukababa futhi uzoba njengomabekazi, futhi mhlawumbe kumamama - futhi uzoba njengomama. Inketho ibukeka njengejwayelekile kaJean Baker - ibingenjalo!
Ake siqhathanise ukuthi intombazane ibona malini izidumbu, ezifakwe ngasolwandle futhi zigqoke kancane ngesonto, nokuthi zingaki zalezi zinhlaka zine-genotype evamile ngentombazane? Yebo, ukuthembeka - Mangaki amadumo abesifazane asikhonjiswe kithi ngokuvamile ahlobene nama-khomosapiens, futhi akuzona izithombe zomthetho ze-photoshop?
Futhi abesifazane abadala bangempela abasondelene nohlobo lwentombazane abakalulungele ukunqunuka eduze kwakhe. Kuhlanzekile. Akukho lutho ongalubheka lapha! Nikeza ithawula!
Futhi intombazane yake yaqiniseka - ibukeka njengesembozo - okuhle futhi okuhle, futhi ngendlela kukhona into engenalutho, ophumelele, emkhangisweni we-bras noma imoto. Kubukeka njengomama - kubi futhi kufanele imbozwe. Izakhi zofuzo zokungakhathaleli ukukhangisa, futhi uyasisindisa kangangokuba izinyawo nembongolo, ukuthi umama noma udadewabo kababa. Noma ukuhlanganiswa okuthile kogogo ababili.
Kepha ngitshele i-fashionista ngaleso sikhathi mayelana nokugcotshwa kweBikini Zone - uzophela amandla.
Kulungile. Ngezingane kucace - iya olwandle ndawonye kaningi nasechibini. Futhi ugogo akakhohlwa ukuthatha nawe. Futhi mayelana nokudonswa kwe-Diva Ungakhohlwa ukukukhumbuza ukuthi bayadonswa, futhi empeleni akwenzeki. Kwi-Intanethi, egcwele ama-roller mayelana nokuthi bakwenza kanjani ama-okulunkulushop, izingane zabo bobabili ubulili azinabungozi ukubheka ukuhleka, nokucabanga.
Futhi yini okufanele ukwenze nawe? Nge-melancholy, yini kuwe, umphefumulo ondizayo, ngithemba ukuthi ngasizathu simbe le nyama emnandi, nayo edinga ukunakekelwa? Yikuphi okusontekile, igwebu (futhi kusakufunayo, akukufuni), entweni ethile eyamukeleke emphakathini, hhayi ngokweqile, hhayi ngokweqile, futhi kuyokwenqaba nhlobo, kuyomenqaba nhlobo? Lo mbhalo, owuphethe nani, lapho abheka khona futhi asabele khona (nangowe Ngawe ngaphakathi kwale eseli, akuyena wonke umuntu ongakwazi ukuqagela). "Ungubani kuphela lo?") - Akusona isimo esiphephile. Umzimba, osuselwa engqondweni ku "applendage ahlanganisiwe ajwayelekile", uncishwa amathuba okuhlela ukwazisa ukwazi ngezidingo zomzimba. Ngenxa yalokhu, kufanele sithole ukuthi yini efunwa, ngokuya ngezimpawu ezingaqondile. Ngifuna ukulala, "futhi" Ngizothenga ezindongeni futhi, "bengifuna ukuphuza," futhi "angizange ngibhale izwi futhi izolo," hhayi "ukudla" futhi "Kahle, futhi, futhi e-Acne". Noma uzwe (kahle, lapho esesithathu ephindaphindwa, ungasondeli, oh cha, hhayi eduze) njengoba umalume esondela khona, futhi kukhona konke kwakungafanele, ngakho-ke kukhona okulungile, ngakho-ke Yonke into, ngendlela, emathuneni ebugqekeza u-Ivanovna sabona, khumbula?
Yini engenziwa?
Ekulinganiseni kokuqala - thatha umzimba uwukhona, nokuthi kuyini, njengoba kunjalo. Hhayi njengawe (lokhu kuyindlela ephelele) - futhi, ngokwesibonelo, njengesilwane sakho sasekhaya. Ngendlela, muhle impela. Futhi ebukekayo, bheka, yini edidayo. Ngendlela, njengento efana nale nto oyithandayo - okuthile kumama, okuthile endodaneni yami.
Kunabantu abangawuthandi umqondo wokuthi "isilwane", kodwa njengathi "sengathi umzimba wami uyingane yami." Kungaba njalo. Ungakwazi, njengoba uthanda, kuphela emzimbeni ukwazi isiteshi sokuxhumana. Lonke iqiniso lokuthi umuntu ose-Dysphoria ubheka izibonakaliso zomsindo noma ukwephula umthetho ukubona njengezicelo zokuphilayo. Kancane kunengqondo kunathi ngokwethu, kepha kancane ngokuphelele. Mhlawumbe impilo enakele nokukhuliswa. "Ukubhema engikufunayo" - nokuthi benzeni, akunakwenzeka ukuyeka ukubhema kubantu abaningi, kepha ake sikhiphe ukuxolelwa ngolunye usuku? Futhi ngiyifuna ekhoneni elithule futhi sifunga-i-Ind, ufuna? Amanzi amantombazane ayabanda?
"Ngifuna amazambane athosiwe" - amazambane ngqo? Noma mhlawumbe amafutha afanelekile, uwoyela womnqumo ufuna? Well, uma amazambane eseyi-potatoes ncamashe, noma mhlawumbe sibhaka ku-foil?
Empeleni, ukubukeka, uma sikubheka njenge- "Lona ngumzimba wami wendabuko, akunakwenzeka ukuyicasula," nayo ibonwa kancane, kepha kube lula. Yebo, yebo, hhayi i-twiggy hhayi ngisho noRihanna. Yebo, kanye nokubhala, akunandaba, ungaphumi e-Afghan Borzoy. Masenze kusuka ku-FACTIRE nje emsulwa, anciphile, adliwe, fun foxterier. Futhi udinga ukukwenza - ukuthokoza, ukuhlanzeka kwangaphandle okuhlanzekile. Ukuze uhambe, hlala, uphonswe kulo mzimba, ukhululekile futhi umnandi.
Futhi vele lapho "ethokomele, elula futhi ejabule" izoba yizinto ezijwayelekile, imvamisa ngokwazo zingaqiniswa "zikhange, zimi futhi zinhle." Uma kunesidingo, kunjalo. Kwesinye isikhathi amaphuzu amathathu okuqala nawo aguqula impilo yawo nokuzimisela ukuba munye onomzimba wawo.
By the way, amagama athi "umzimba" kanye "nokukhanya" empeleni akusona isikhathi esisodwa. Sina.