Futhi, kwesinye isikhathi zilungele izindaba ezikhohlisayo.
Muva nje, nendodana ephakathi siye ekudleni kwasemini eMcDonalds. Ngamnika ilungelo lokumema umama kunoma yiziphi izindawo zokudlela zasendaweni, futhi ekugcineni saba lapho. Sasixoxela ngalesi sikole, abangane bakhe abasha kanye nama-superheroes akhe, wabe esevele waze wathula, washefa amaPolangalAmburger, wabuza:
- Umama, nokuthi ubani omthanda kakhulu, mina, uStanley noma u-Edward?
Umbuzo wakudala, ngiyazi, kepha ngizwile okokuqala, ngoba umdala akazange abuze ngakho, kepha omncane usekude nalefilosofi enjalo.
Futhi-ke ngabonga lezo zincwadi ngokukhuliswa engikufundayo. Iningi maliphumele ekhanda, kepha okuyisisekelo - makungasho ukuthi "Ngiyakuthanda okufanayo" - wabopha ngokuqinile.
Yize kwesinye isikhathi ekuqaleni kwakucabanga ukuthi kwakubonakala kimi ukuthi le kwakuyimpendulo enengqondo kunazo zonke futhi efanele. "Nonke niyefana nami kimi nobaba, izingane ezithandekayo, niyingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yethu futhi asihlabeleli ngokwehlukana," kubonakala, impendulo enekhono kakhulu, kuvela ngesikhundla esilinganayo.
Kepha izingane, zivela ukuba zibe i-egocentric, nombuzo wobulungiswa nokulingana kwabafowethu nodadewethu, lapho bebuza umbuzo wothando lwabazali, ubakhathaza kakhulu.
Kuyavela ukuthi lapho ingane iyabuza: "Uthanda kakhulu, mama, mina noma odadewethu," ufuna ukuzwa kuphela ngaye, ngobunye bakhe naleyo mizwa oyitholayo ngqo.
Futhi ngokusho kokuhlonishwa kimi ngababhali, u-Adel Faber kanye no-Ellen Mazlish, ukulingana maqondana nezingane ngamagama aqongelela ukubaluleka kwawo kanye nokuhlazimula. Njengokudla kokucabanga encwadini ethi "Bazalwane nodade. Ungazisiza kanjani izingane zakho ukuthi zihlale ndawonye "zilethwa umlando omfushane.
"Unkosikazi osemusha uphendukela kumyeni wakhe kanye nokubuza okungalindelekile:
- Futhi ubani othanda kakhulu, mina noma unyoko?
"Ngiyakuthanda okufanayo," kuphendula umyeni futhi agijime enkingeni enkulu.
Kufanele athi: "Umama ungumama. Futhi uyamangaza, umfazi omuhle engifisa ukuphila impilo yami yonke. "
Ngakho-ke ngezingane, lapho sikhuluma ngokulingana 'nemizwa' yazo, silingana nezingane futhi sinciphise ubuntu babo. Kepha wonke umuntu ufuna ukuhlakanipha futhi ahlukile kwabanye.
Futhi lokhu akusebenzi kuphela kumbuzo oqondile ngothando lwabazali, kepha futhi inani lama-pancake epuletini, futhi isikhathi esichithwe enganeni ngayinye, futhi uzohlala kuluphi uhlangothi lukamama.
Ingane ukwaneliseka okuyinhloko kwesidingo sakhe esingokomzwelo, hhayi ukuqhathanisa nengane yakini.
Okufanayo A. Faber no-E. Mazlish kuncome okulandelayo imishwana esikhundleni sokulingana okujwayelekile. Ngokwesibonelo:
munye. "Esikhundleni sokuhlukanisa yonke into ngokulinganayo (" Unamagilebhisi amaningi, njengodadewenu ") ...
Ake sidingide: "Ngabe unika amagilebhisi amahlanu noma isixuku sonke?"
2. Esikhundleni sokubonisa uthando olufanayo ("Ngiyakuthanda ngendlela efanayo nodadewenu") ...
Khombisa ingane ukuthi uyithande ngendlela ekhethekile: "Nguwena kuphela emhlabeni wonke, akekho ozokwazi ukuthatha indawo yakho."
3. Esikhundleni sokukhokhela izingane inani elilinganayo lesikhathi ("ngizosebenzisa imizuzu eyishumi nodadewenu, bese kuba nemizuzu eyishumi") ...
Thatha isikhathi sesidingo sangempela: "Ngiyazi ukuthi bengikade ngikwenza isikhathi eside nezincwadi zikadadewenu. Le ndaba ibaluleke kakhulu kuye. Lapho nje siqeda, ngifuna ukwazi ukuthi yini ebalulekile kuwe. "
Futhi noma umama noma ubaba enesilwane esifuywayo, umuthi omuhle kakhulu uzokhululwa emzamweni wecala futhi, agcizelele izici namandla engane ngayinye, anikeze wonke umuntu ukuthi azizwe ethandekayo futhi ebalulekile.
Futhi ngalolo suku, ekudleni kwasemini, ngincike endodaneni yami futhi ngasho ngomoya ophansi ngokumamatheka:
- Ngine-robert eyodwa kuphela, munye kuphela umfana omuhle kakhulu omangalisayo futhi omangalisayo engijabule naye kakhulu ukudlela namhlanje. Ngikuthanda kakhulu, futhi ngithanda kakhulu lapho sichitha isikhathi sindawonye.
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