I-Anthropologist ekukhathazekeni kwemvelo kwabesifazane kanye nobungcweti besifazane

Udokotela we-anthropologist kanye ne-blogger olga rakitanskaya-balynikov utholakale ukuthi ziqinile kangakanani nenganekwane ngezidingo ezikhethekile zocansi zamadoda nokungabikho kwabesifazane. Futhi unokuthile angakusho ngaleli phutha.

Intombi yami yabhala ngoLwesihlanu (futhi ngivumelane ngokuphelele naye) ukuthi umhlaba ozungeze okuxakile: unesizungu futhi hhayi maqondana nendoda ngokuqinisekile ngokuqinisekile azocubungula uGay. Umqondo wokuthi bobabili owesilisa nowesifazane bangase bamane nje bengadingi ubudlelwano ngesikhathi - noma abadingi i-Ababa nobani, futhi bathola abalingani abafanelekayo - umhlaba awufiki ekhanda elihlanganayo. Yize kungabonakala - yini okungaba lula futhi kube yimvelo?

Vele, i-Vedic Mind Zhainchinsky yasheshe yaqala ukubekwa kwamazwana (lokhu, uma lokho, ukubizwa okunemibandela kohlobo, hhayi inkolo) futhi kwaqala ukuphikisana ukuthi uyisitabane akayona isitaki, futhi inkinga emkhakheni wezocansi oyedwa Umuntu unakho ngqo. Yebo, noma ugijime ngasese kuBabamu, kanti abanye abazi. Ngoba umuntu, yena, ngokungafani nowesifazane, akakwazi ukubekezelela! Uyefana! Futhi uma kubonakala kubekezelelwa futhi kuphila ngaphandle komlingani wezocansi, kusho ukuthi kungaba yisitabane esiyimfihlo, noma iklayenti eliyimfihlo lezifebe, noma elinamandla. Yize kunjalo, lesi isimo sakhe, futhi kwaba yisikhathi sekhulu leminyaka!

Futhi masinyane eposini elilandelayo, intokazi engajwayelekile yatshela ukukhulelwa kwakhe kwesibili ngale ndlela: "Ngabeletha owesibili ngo-38, kodwa, ngokweqiniso, kwenzeke! Ngaba namahloni kangaka, ngihamba nesisu sami futhi ngicabanga, ngoba nami ngiyangibheka futhi mhlawumbe ngilahla - kanjani, useya ocansini ?! Yize kunjalo, ngingowesifazane, hhayi umuntu wesilisa, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ngiwuphonse isikhathi eside ... "Futhi kumazwana abe yihlazo lokuzwelana, i-brazhanty yalabo abazala abase-40 (cha , hhayi nhlobo ngenxa yezinkinga zempilo noma ingane).

Njalo lapho ngizwa kanjalo, ikakhulukazi mayelana nemvelo nesikhathi sekhulu leminyaka, futhi ngizwa kaningi - ngenzeke nge-Double Faispalm. Okuphindwe kabili - ngoba ngingumuntu o-anthropologist nge-antique esedlule futhi ngiyazi okuthile ngazo zombili lezi zinto.

Bangani Abathandekayo! (Ngeke ngithinte ama-vedic mindozes, ngoba awunamsebenzi). Uma ufuna abantu basondele emvelweni, khona-ke lapha unawo, ngokwesibonelo, ama-bushmen. Basaphila nje cishe njengoba nje nokhokho bethu abavamile babehlala ePaleolith (ngiqonde imibandela nendlela yokuphila). Ngakho-ke, ama-bushmen akholelwa ukuthi ubulili budingeka ngokulinganayo ngakubo bobabili phansi, kepha abesifazane basaqhubeka nje kunabesilisa. Indoda ukuthi izohlupheka - yize kunjalo, ngeke kube sengathi ayinambitha, futhi ngeke uze uthole amaswidi ngaphandle kocansi, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi kube nezingane ukuze zizikhulise. Kepha kulungile, kuzohlupheka, Ungumuntu. Kepha owesifazana ongenazocansi njalo uzogula ngokuqinisekile futhi angafa! Ngakho-ke, omunye wemisebenzi ebaluleke kakhulu yendoda kufanele ajabulise umkakhe embhedeni futhi ngokujwayelekile ukuze athandeke kuye, khona-ke angakushiya (ofuna ukugula nokufa). Abazingeli bamahhala bakhipha malini! Ngendlela, lo msebenzi ovela kumyeni wakhe awususwanga futhi ngemuva kokuya esikhathini esimangalisayo (ama-budsmen avela eminyakeni engama-50). Ngoba ucansi kowesifazane akuzona nje kuphela izingane ezimnandi, "ukudla" okudingekayo empilweni.

Futhi uma umuntu engazithandi ama-bushmen - athi, awusoze wazi ukuthi banakho empumalanga enkulu, kepha sinawo eYurophu ... - okungukuthi, esinye isibonelo, uyisisekelo sempucuko yonke yaseYurophu: amaGrikhi asendulo. Okuxakile ngokwanele, ngawo wonke umehluko wawo kusuka kuma-bushmen ane-palelolithic egalitarism - amaGrikhi abuye abheka nowesifazane onobuhle kunendoda. Ngaphezulu kwendoda evamile, ngokwemibono yabo, i-appetites yezocansi ayibusi, angahlala ebalawula ngengqondo (okuphambene nakho kwahlekwa njengokuhlekiswa njengokungaphelele futhi aqonde "Babskost"). Kepha owesifazana, ezwa isifiso (sokukuzwa, ulungile nganoma yisiphi isikhathi), alahlekelwe yikhanda futhi alawule ngokwawo awesenakhono (ikakhulukazi, amantombazane nabesifazane abavela emindenini emihle bakhiyiwe kakhulu - bakhona "Izimpongo zesifazane ezidinga eyodwa", aha). Lokho wukuthi, iziphetho ezivela emibonweni yazo amaGrikhi asendulo ezaphambene ngqo namabhashi, kepha imibono ngokwayo yayifana kakhulu. Ngale ndlela, amaGrikhi, njengoBushmen, nawo akholwa ukuthi ngaphandle kokwenza ubulili obenza njalo ngowesifazane (kwakuyinto odokotela abaningi basendulo abangamaGrikhi atuse abesifazane ukuthi bangokobulili obuningi kwabaningi abavela kwabaningi Izifo (ngokwesibonelo, ikhanda).

Izibonelo zalokhu, uma zifiswa, ungaphonsa kakhulu futhi kakhulu. Futhi, njengokuhlala kunjalo, endaweni ethile phakathi: akekho nowesilisa noma owesimame ongenazocansi azokufa, kodwa futhi abesilisa, nabesifazane angaba abalulekile futhi abaludingayo ngokuphelele (yize kuvame ukungafuni) lawula izifiso zakhe engqondweni. Futhi uma ubona indoda ngaphandle kowesifazane - akunjalo empeleni uyi-gay, ayinamandla noma umuntu othanda imfihlo, kungaba yindoda engenalo umfazi ngaphandle kowesifazane. Futhi uma ubona owesimame oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala noma oneminyaka engama-50-70, eqabulana futhi wamanga umyeni - akusho ukuthi "anciphe i-nymphomaniac kanye nowesifazane omncane osemncane," kungenzeka kube ngowesifazane osemncane nothandekayo futhi othandekayo impilo enhle yomzimba. Futhi zonke izinhlobo "Amadoda / Umakhelwane / Umakhelwane / Amadoda ajwayelekile ahlala asho lokho ..." Shiya isikhulumi bese ukhumbula ukuthi unyaka umkhulungwane noma eminyakeni eyinkulungwane edlule noma manje, kodwa nakwelinye izwekazi, laba bantu bangasho okuphambene , ngoba zonke zimane nje ziyinhlawulo yezenhlalo zisakazwa.

Futhi abantu abanezimpilo zabo baningi kakhulu nangadala kunanoma yimaphi ama-stereotypes.