Ufuna imibhangqwana ejabule, ingabe uyazibuza ukuthi imfihlo yabo kanjani? Odokotela bezengqondo baveze imikhuba emikhulu eyi-11 ekhona njengamanje emindenini yabalingani abajabule. Babheke kulula, futhi umphumela ngeke uzenze ulinde.
1. Khombisa njalo indlela okwazisa ngayo omunye nomunye
Ubudlelwano obujabulisayo bususelwa emizweni emihle, okunamathiselwe kanye nokusondelana. Umlingani ngamunye efuna ukukhombisa kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka lapho ebalulekile kuye. Futhi kulokhu akudingekile okuthile okungaphezu kwemvelo, okubaluleke kakhulu, vele ube qotho. Shiyani amanothi amahle, bhala imiyalezo ngalokho okucabangayo ngomlingani. Yenza izinto ezinhle ezibonga okuthandayo. Ekuzeni kwe-psychotherapist, imibhangqwana eminingi ikhononda ukuthi enye ayikwazi ukuthi umlingani uphila kanjani lokho akuthandayo. Kepha balulekile kothile, esinye sezidingo eziyisisekelo zawo wonke umuntu.2. Embhangqwaneni ojabulayo ubhekisisa khona
Ngisho nasemibhangqwaneni ejabule kukhona ukuxabana, abayi ndawo, kepha badinga ukuxabana khona kahle. Ukuholwa kwenani elifanele lapho kungekho ukugxekwa komunye nomunye, ukuthukwa, ukungakunaki. Kuzothatha isikhathi esincane, futhi uzokwenza, kepha uthe ungalokothi ukhohlwe. Ngakho-ke, zama ukugcina ukweqiwa kokunganaki ngesikhathi sokuxabana nawe, ukubona ukuthi wonke amagama amabi ekhelini lomlingani azalwa ngaphansi kwengcindezelo yengcindezi, futhi hhayi azwane azwakalayo.
3. Njalo cela lokho okudingayo
Imvamisa, odokotela bezengqondo kufanele bazwe izikhalazo zokuthi othandekayo / othandekayo azazi ukuthi iyini ihafu yazo ifuna. Ngaphezu kwalokho, baqiniseka futhi ukuthi uma bayabathanda, ngokuqinisekile babekwazi futhi bekwenza. Kubalulekile ukuqonda into eyodwa - abantu abajwayelekile abanasipho se-telepathy, ngakho-ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma umlingani ngezidingo zakhe, okuthandayo kanye nezinto ezincamelayo. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi, ikakhulukazi esigabeni sokuqala, kufanele siphinde kaningi - futhi lokhu kujwayelekile. Esikhundleni sokucasulwa ngumuntu omthandayo "ngokugqokwa," zama nje ukusho ngezifiso zami bese umbuza.4. Veza umlingani wakho wothando
Umuntu ngamunye uzwakalisa uthando lwakhe ngendlela yakhe. Okomuntu othile kungukungamukeli, kothile, amagama, kodwa kwezinye izenzo nezipho. Kungenzeka futhi kube nabantu ababili, ababonwa ngendlela ehlukile ngokubonakaliswa kothando futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi liqonda kanjani lo mfona ozwayo. Uma ungumsekeli wezipho namagama, futhi umuntu wakho ukhetha izenzo, bese emkhombisa imizwa yakho ngosizo lwezenzo nangomthelela. Indlela enjalo yomuntu ikuvumela ukuthi uhlale ugcina inhlansi ebudlelwaneni.
5. Yenza imisebenzi ndawonye
Iphesenti elikhulu kakhulu lazo zonke izingxabano ezihlokweni zendlu, okungukuthi, umbuzo wokuthi ngubani owenza ekhaya. Kepha emibhangqwaneni ejabule ngenxa yalokhu abafungi, bamane benza konke ndawonye. Isibonelo, noma umuntu engathandi ukugeza izitsha, uzokwenza ukuze abathandekayo bakhe babe muhle. Ungahlala phansi etafuleni lokuxoxisana bese uxoxa ngokuthi ngubani ozosebenzelana nalo. Ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe kumuntu wakho uhlala emoyeni weCulinary, futhi uyokujabulela ukubhekana nokulungiswa kwendlu izitsha.6. Zazise izingalo
Ukugcina i-idyll ebudlelwaneni, ukuxhumana kubaluleke kakhulu, noma kunjalo, akudingekile ukunciphisa ukubaluleka kwezingalo. Ososayensi bafakazele ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuxhumana okungcolile emzimbeni, kukhiqizwa ama-oxytone e-oxytocin, okubizwa ngenye indlela ngokuthi "i-hosy hosmone". Udlala indima enkulu ebudlelwaneni bengqondo phakathi kwabalingani. I-Oxetocin inciphisa izinhlungu zomzimba, inomthelela ekuqinisweni kokuvikelekile, iletha ndawonye abantu futhi isusa ukungezwani kwengqondo. Ngakho-ke, lapho umbhangqwana uvalelisa kakhulu futhi uthintana ngokomzimba, ubudlelwano babo.
7. Khuluma ngezinkinga
Othile wayevame ukugwema ukuxoxa ngezinkinga, ngokukholelwayo ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi konke kuzokwenziwa ngokwako. Leyo ndlela efanayo isebenza ngaphesheya. Ukugqoka kwandisa isimo - inkinga inyusa ngokwengeziwe, iqala ukucasulwa futhi igeleze ibe izingxabano. Akufanele ulinde kuze kube yilapho i-volcano ivuka - ngisho nezinkinga ezincane kungcono ukuqinisa nomlingani ngokushesha.8. Bheka imingcele
Uma imingcele yomuntu siqu ingahlonishwa ngebhangqa - ngeke kube nenjabulo. Ngosizo lwemingcele, ungaqonda ukuthi uphela kuphi futhi umlingani wakho eqala. Izinto ezinjalo kufanele futhi zidingidwe nabathandekayo, khona-ke wonke umuntu uzokwazi ukwanelisa izidingo zawo ngaphandle kokulimaza omunye ngomunye. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bagubha izinhlobo ezi-3 zemingcele:
- Ngokomzwelo: Yisiphi isikhathi sokuba ndawonye, emphakathini womunye, futhi kungakanani ngokwahlukana.
- Engokwenyama: Yini futhi imvamisa ezokwenza ubulili, kanye nokuvama kokuthinta.
- I-Virtual: Kufanelekile ukuhlanganisa umbuthano wabangane, noma ngabe ushintsha isimo enkundleni yokuxhumana nabantu, kuvame ukuhambelana kangaki ngesihloko sobudlelwano.
Lezi zinto ezibonakala zingezinkuluma, zithinta kakhulu ikhwalithi yobudlelwano.
9. Isihogo Cela Ukuxolelwa Futhi Ukuthethelela
Ngaphandle kwekhono lokuthethelela, ngeke likwazi ukusinda kunoma ibuphi ubuhlobo - lesi ngesinye sezinto ezibalulekile zokuthula. Lapho umuntu exolisa, kuphakamisa ukuthi alazise iphutha lakhe futhi azozama ukukwenza futhi angabe esakuvumela. Futhi umuntu omuhle esinaka kahle uyasiqonda lesi simo, amukele futhi akhohlwe ngokwenzeka, ayisakukhumbuli ngokwenzekile. Ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo, abantu abakaze babeke inselelo yokufakazela umlingani wabo.10. Phumula komunye nomunye
Kubaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni ukuze balondoloze ukulinganisela kokusondela nokuzimela. Ngisho nokuba ndawonye, khumbula ukuthi umshado awuzange wehle ukukhanya kwakhe okuthandayo, usenempilo yomuntu siqu, izintshisekelo zami zihlala. Udinga ukuhlonipha isikhala somuntu siqu, ungagcwalisi umhlaba wonke wothandekayo wakho. Ngemuva kokuchitha isikhathi ngaphandle kweNhlangano yomunye nomunye, uzoba nesithukuthezi, futhi lokhu kuzoba nomthelela omuhle ebudlelwaneni. Ngakho-ke, funda ukujabulela impilo ngaphandle komphakathi nokwethembana nesithandwa sakho.
11. Cela Cela Usizo
Ngobudlelwano obunempilo, kungokwemvelo impela lapho befuna usizo uma kungenzeka okuthile kungenzeki ukukwenza ngokwakho. Ukuhlangane okuhlangene kudokotela wezengqondo, ukubuka izingqungquthela ebudlelwaneni bomndeni, njll. Abesabi ukucela uMkhandlu, akekho onamahloni ezinkingweni, akazizwa ephansi futhi akazilahli enye.