Egcekeni leminyaka le-XXI, nanamuhla akekho ozosho ngokuqinisekile, njengoba kwenzeka ngesikhathi se-USSR, ukuthi "asinazocansi ezweni." Ukuba khona kwakhe kuzwakala empeleni kuyo yonke indawo: emculweni, ezincwadini, amafilimu, ukukhangisa. I-Publics ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi iphakamisa izingqikithi ezisondelene, abesilisa nabesifazane abafihli inani labalingani bezocansi, babelane ngemininingwane enezinongo. Naphezu kwenkululeko yamanje, ukubhujiswa okuhlobene kwama-stereotypes amaningi, kuze kube manje kunomugqa omncane phakathi "kwakho macho!" Futhi "Ah, wena ... ubuthi!".
Uma kungumuntu uqhakambisa, ngokuphasa kakhulu futhi kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuba nempilo enesivunguvungu, khona-ke umfazi onemithwalo "ecebile" asabheka ama-kosos amaningi ocansi olunamandla. I- "Tithoni" -Ongroups, ozakwabo, ngokuguga ngengqondo futhi banomona, futhi okuthile ngokwengqondo, kanye nomona, futhi mayelana noMkhulu ebhentshini kungathula - lapha konke kucacile.
Kungani amadoda angaba nenani elikhulu labalingani bezocansi, adumise uhlu olubanzi lwe- "Vivist" lokunqoba ", futhi amantombazane kuze kube manje ahlangana necala elihlazo? Lokhu kuthonywa yizici eziningi ezazilandelana ngokomlando.
I-Patriarchate - Isisekelo sokungalingani phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane manje sebenomzabalazo wabesifazane ngesikhundla esifanayo kwi-par nabesilisa. Kepha kwakungenjalo njalo. I-Patriarchate yinto engabonakala emazweni amaningi kuze kube namuhla, ikakhulukazi empumalanga. Uhlobo olunjalo lobudlelwano bezenhlalo lusho iningi lendoda kukho konke. Ubamba iqhaza kwezepolitiki, ezomnotho, uyisiphathimandla sokuziphatha, ulawula impahla futhi ngokujwayelekile kudinga ukuzithoba kuyo yonke into.
Ososayensi baphakamisa ukuthi imodeli emphakathi enjalo ivele eminyakeni engaba ngu-4000 ngaphambi kwenkathi yethu. Owesifazane bekufanele alalele umuntu kukho konke, ngoba wayengowakhe. Wena, ngakho-ke, akhulume, waziphilisa, wabulala ama-mammoths angenacala, futhi emhumeni ulindelwe ngumgcini we-Focus, okwakufanele alandele indlu.
U-Aristotle emibhalweni yakhe uchaze abesifazane njengoba unesiciniso uma kuqhathaniswa nabesilisa, akunakuthi hhayi kuphela ohlangothini lomzimba, kodwa futhi nokwengqondo nokuziphatha okuhle nokuziphatha. Ngokubona kwakhe, ukubizwa kwengxenye "ebuthakathaka" yesintu ukwenza umsebenzi wokuzala, khonza umyeni wakhe.
Kwezinye izizwe, okubizwa ngokuthi "ukuthengwa" komkakhe wesikhathi esizayo kwasatshalaliswa. Umkhwenyana ukhokhele "uyise kaMlobokazi ozolile, ngaleyo ndlela amtholele lowo msebenzi. Imishado eminingi yayimelene nentando. Uma owesilisa ekwazi ukushada kaninginingi, lona wesifazane wancishwa lelo thuba lokushada futhi. Ngemuva kokushona komyeni wakhe, waba ngumphakathi ongenasidingo futhi wayevame ukuveza izandla zakhe, njengoba impilo yakhe yayingenanjongo.
Ukuze alondoloze imodeli yomndeni wezinzalamizi, kwakudingeka ukuthi aqinisekise ukuzalwa kwezindlalifa kanye nokudluliselwa kobunikazi bezinhlanzi zabo. Kungenzeka ukuthi kufeze lokhu kungaba ngokuncishiswa kowesifazane wenkululeko yokuzikhethela ebudlelwaneni bocansi, amathuba okuphila okuzimele ngaphandle kommeleli wobulili obuqinile. Imithetho, imingcele yadalwa, ezimfundisweni zenkolo yachazwa ngokuningiliziwe isithombe lapho owesifazane kufanele abe khona futhi ngenxa yalokho imithetho yahlanganiswa emphakathini, edluliselwa ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane.
Kungani, kodwa asikwazi?
Ngemuva kwakho konke lokhu okungenhla kuchazwe ngokujwayelekile, kuba yinhle, yeka ukuthi umphakathi wanamuhla usuphenduke kanjani. Kepha inzalamizi ishiye umfutho omkhulu kwabesifazane, ngoba ama-echo yakhe asazwakala kuze kube manje. Ngaso sizathu, umuntu kufanele athambekele ekwenzeni izinto eziningi ukuthi umphakathi uzosabela kanjani ngokuzithoba. Uma eshiya izingane - kungaqondakala, kepha kufanelekile ukulahla ingane yakho entombazaneni, izobona i- "Cuckoo" kuze kube phakade.
Omunye umbono uthi indoda ingeyesilisa, okuyinqubo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo izama "ukufaka umanyolo" ngokuthi "izinsikazi" eziningi. Idlulisa izinto zakhe zofuzo, ngaleyo ndlela yandisa isikhundla sayo emphakathini, ibuse phakathi kwabanye "abesilisa". Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kuthathe sengathi lona wesifazane kufanele akhethe amadoda amahle kakhulu ahlukaniswa ngokuphakama ngokomzimba. Futhi uma ummeleli oqinile engakwazi ukukhetha ngokukhethekile, khona-ke ozakwethu besifazane kufanele bahlungele abalingani abangahle, bagweme amandla futhi bathuthuke ukuze izingane ezinempilo zisemndenini. Ngakho-ke ukukhuluma ukukhetha kwemvelo.
Uma unaka umphakathi wanamuhla, khona-ke amantombazane amaningi akhetha ukuxhumana nalabo ababaluleke kakhulu. Amadoda angabaza ngalokhu kuhlinzekwa kwezinto, ebiza abesifazane abathengisa. Phakathi kwabameleli bengxenye eqinile nabo banabo abaphilela i-akhawunti yomunye umuntu, kodwa babizwa ngokuthi ama-alfasons, kodwa into engavamile.
Ungaphetha. Ngokuvamile, akukho lutho olufungile ukulahla impilo yakho njengoba ufuna, ushintsha ocansini njalo ngenyanga, uma uzizwa ujabule kakhulu kulokhu.
Ukubusa okungathandeki kuphela okungukuthi: Amadoda azokhetha ngempela kulabo abangatholakali. Vele, uma sikhuluma ngabantu abahle, manenekazi bangempela.
Cishe kukhona ukuphakama kowesifazane, ngoba akusikho lutho ukuthi akwazi ukunikeza umuntu omusha. Ekugcineni, icala ezimfanelweni zokuziphatha, inkululeko kanembeza. Komunye, kungokwemvelo ukuqhosha ngemithwalo ephanayo yempilo yomuntu siqu, abanye bathule ngesizotha. Akukho lutho oluhle nokuthi owesilisa ulala ngakwesokunene kwesokunxele. Lokhu akupende izimfanelo zakhe, kepha kukhombisa kuphela ukuthi uzama ukugcizelela indlela. Ngakho-ke, abesifazane bakhetha abalingani abakufanelekelayo ukuze kungabikho amathambo egumbini.