Kulezi zinsuku, amantombazane aya ngokuya ebheke esikhwameni kuya kokulindelwe kwawo kwesikhathi esizayo, akhohlwe ukuthi kukhona uthando. Yini ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni: uthando noma ingcebo yezinto ezibonakalayo? Wonke umbuzo unempendulo yabo.
Uthando luyisimo sengqondo somuntu. Manje ngeke uhlangabezane nababili, abangothando lwangempela, nothando. Amantombazane aya ngokuya eshada ngomuntu, kodwa ngengcebo yakhe, ama-akhawunti akhe asebhange kanye nesikhwama. Amadoda, nawo, aqhubeke nohlobo. Kepha esikhathini sethu kukhona amadoda anakekela isimo sawo emphakathini, ngenxa yomshado ngowesifazane ovikelekile ngokwezimali. Kumadoda anjalo, lolu hlobo "lothando" lunikela ekuziboneleni nasekuqiniseni.
Luyini uthando? Ngamunye unokuchazwa kwalo kwaleli gama. I-Wikipedia isinikeza incazelo enjalo: "Umuzwa wokuthi umuntu, okunamathiselwe okujulile kanye nesifiso sokuya komunye umuntu noma into, umuzwa wozwela olujulile." Ngomugqa othile uvemvane esiswini, lapho ufuna ukudala okuhle, futhi esimweni kukhona ukwehla kokudakwa lapho ukhipha imizwa engaphezulu. Kwabanye, lokhu kuwumqondo wokunamathisela lapho ufuna ukuvuka nalo muntu, ulale naye, kwenze konke. Futhi entabeni nasenjabulweni ukuze ube naye, ukuze nisondele, nicabange ngaye njalo, ukuzwa imizwa efudumele nethambile. Kwabanye abantu: Lokhu kungumuzwa ongabonakali, onjalo ngesithandwa sakho ofuna ukuba seduze, Mthethelele konke, futhi wonke amaseli afuna ukuba nalo muntu, ungavumeli noma ngubani. Futhi ibanga alibekezeleleki, ngoba uqala ukuphuthelwa, njengokungathi akukho ncwule yakho. Othile akakuqondi lokhu kuzwa ukuthi, umuntu akazange ambone futhi akanandaba nokuthi, kanti abanye baxhuma yonke imininingwane engenhla kwezimpawu, umuntu ngamunye unomqondo wawo ongokomoya nomqondo oyisihluthulelo wothando.
Isazi sefilosofi saseRussia uVladimir USergeevich Solovyov wabela izinhlobo ezintathu zothando: 1) Uthando oluphansi, ukubuyiselwa okugcwele ngenxa yento yothando kanye nokubuyisana okuncane. Isibonelo, uthando lwabazali ezinganeni zabo, ukuvikelwa okubuthakathaka - buqinile, kusukela ohlangothini lomgcini omkhulu ngaphezulu komncane; 2) Okukhuphukayo, ukusetshenziswa kwemali okuncane, kepha okuphezulu kuthola, ngokwesibonelo, izingane zithanda abazali, izingane ezivela kubazali ziba ngaphezulu kokubanikela; 3) Uthando lwezocansi, njengoba anikela ngalo, kangaka, eligcwele ukuphindisela phakathi kwabashadikazi, njengoba umyeni enika uthando, ngakho-ke uzokuthola, malini athola, ikhwalithi kothando olunikelwe, umhlane onjalo futhi uzothola.
U-Erich usuka e-Erich wabela izinhlobo ezi-2 zothando: 1) Uthando lokudala uthando, lugcwele into enozwela, inzalo kulo, isimo sengqondo; 2) Uthando Olonakalisayo uthando olufuna ukwehlisa inkululeko yento yothando lwayo, ukulahla hhayi kubo kuphela, kodwa futhi nokuphila kwakhe. Kungani ebhubhisa? Ngoba, ubhubhisa konke, konke okunamathiselwe, othandweni, uthando, kubhubhisa umuntu ngaphakathi, hhayi othandekayo, kodwa futhi othandweni.
Kepha ukukhetha uthando, ungakhohlwa ngemishwana enjalo ngokuthi: "Ngeke wondliwa ngothando olulodwa" futhi "uthando luyeza luyahamba, kodwa ngihlala ngifuna ukudla." Kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga nje ukubheka kuphela amanani wezinto ezibonakalayo empilweni!
Imali imane nje iyingxenye ebonakalayo yomuntu. Ngenxa yemali, isimo senhlalo singatholakala emphakathini. Ngokwenza inhlolovo yezenhlalo phakathi kwabangane bakhe, amaphuzu okubuka ahlukaniswe amabili: 1. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi umuntu onemali kungenzeka angajabuli, ngoba othandekayo angasho ngezinkinga zakhe, ahambe naye, ehlombe ehlombe, ehlombe. bonke ubunzima. Ukuba nemali, awukwazi ukuba nomuntu oseduze.
2. Abanye, bakholelwa ukuthi kuzoba nemali, kuzoba nothando. Kepha, ngeshwa, kaningi, kwabacebile, abathandi, bathandane nemali yabo kuphela, hhayi kumuntu uqobo.
Vuma, abantu abajabule yilabo abanothando nemali. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi kulula ukufeza lokhu, cishe akunakwenzeka. Ungaceba kanjani futhi ujabule othandweni? Impendulo ilula, kepha akuyona eyenzelwe wonke umuntu: ukufuna okuhle nothandekayo. Kepha akuyenzeka njalo, othile ukhathala, othile uya komunye nje, othile unesithukuthezi futhi uzofuna inketho elula: Indoda enesikhwama esikhulu.
"Nabathandekayo nePharadesi eHarate." Yebo, kepha leli zwi lisebenza kuphela uze ube nobudlelwano obubi, futhi lapho kunesigaba esibi empilweni, noma ngisho nomndeni, khona-ke i- "mela" igumbi elilodwa ngeke libe yipharadesi, ngoba imali ihlala idingeka futhi yonke indawo . Empilweni yomndeni, iningi lamantombazane lihlambalaza abayeni babo ngokuntuleka kwemali. Futhi akunakuphikwa, ngoba empeleni, awudingi ukugqoka kahle kuphela, kepha futhi ugqoke, gcina ifulethi, futhi uma kunezingane, khona-ke izindleko ziba ngaphezulu. Ngabe umhlaba uzobusa imali?
Wonke umuntu ubuye anombono wawo uqobo. Kepha kwehlela ikakhulukazi ukuthi imali iyindlela yokuphila, wonke umuntu ongumnikazi uqobo, impilo yakhe. Imali ayibusi, bamane baxazulule imibuzo eminingi. Kepha uthando ngemali aluthengi. Emhlabeni wethu, abantu kungenzeka bangahlali, basebenza nje ukwenza imali. Yize kunjalo, kuzodingeka ukuthi uphile ngomshado osemthethweni - udinga imali, ubelethe ingane ngaphandle kwemali, okusho ukuthi ukungamniki imali, ukuthola imali, udinga imali. Futhi ngakho-ke abantu baziphilela bona, lawa "maphepha" "adlula emqondweni wabaningi.
Ngakho-ke, yini into esemqoka empilweni: uthando noma isemali? Omunye ukholelwa ukuthi lolo thando, umuntu ucabanga ukuthi imali, kepha futhi kukhona umbono wokuthi uthando nemali kubalulekile kumuntu, njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, uthando luyisimo sezengqondo, kodwa hhayi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwemali. Bobabili kufanele bahambisane ngokufana, le ntombazane akufanele 'ihlale entanyeni' evela endodeni yakhe, akufanele icele imilenze iye ekhanda, noma kunjalo, yeka imali okufanele alethe kuyo endlini. Kepha wonke umuntu unombono wawo uqobo, izindinganiso zawo, akunakwenzeka ukwenza umuntu azishintshe, ngalinye liveze live.