Ukwenza indoda kowesifazane wayo kahle, angilahlekelwa yimizwa futhi ngangiyiqiniso kuye - intokazi kufanele idumise indoda yakhe njalo ibancome. Kepha kuyadingeka ukudumisa phansi okusindayo, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa induku, ngaphandle kwalokho kuzobukeka sengathi kuzokuqonda futhi kungasho lutho. Ngakho-ke, imithetho eminingana yokuthi ungakudumisa kanjani okhethiweyo wakho.
UNGAYENZI
Akulungile ukucabanga ukuthi amanye amadoda athile awekho emcabangweni wokudumisa. Noma bebukeka bengenakuqhathaniswa, badumise ngezinye izikhathi babe nencazelo eyengeziwe kunabesifazane. Nesizathu esisebuntwaneni. Lapho ingane ivela ekukhanyeni, akazilo ukuthi uthando luyini futhi nesikhathi esazi lo muzwa kubazali bakhe abamnika izimo zengqondo ezihlukile. Isibonelo, abesifazane kungenzeka bakheke kakhulu ngalo mqondo: "Bangithanda lapho izipho zinginika", kodwa amadoda athi: "Ngiyangithanda lapho kunconywa." Ngakho-ke, amadoda adala alingana nodumo emzaneni ofudumele nothando lowesifazane ukuqonda ngalo.Ngaphandle kokuthola isibambiso
Lapho bedumisa indoda, akufanele uziphathe njenge-beateles fan ekhubazekile. Ukudlulisela ukuncoma kwakho kwendoda, imishwana embalwa emnandi, ukumamatheka, ukuvalelisa kanye nokukhanya okugcwele uthando.
Khishwa ekhanda lezitembu
Ukufuna ukudumisa indoda, kungcono ukungasebenzisi i-cliché enkulumweni efana ne- "Good", "Wenze kahle", njll. Kulokhu, kunamathuba amaningi ozohlotshaniswa naye nothisha wakhe, futhi le akuyona into enhle kakhulu engenzeka phakathi kwakho.Mdumisa kahle indoda emphakathini
Kunzima ukudumisa indoda? Kulo mbuzo, ochwepheshe bezengqondo abakwazi ukuphendula ngokungalingani, ngoba Lapha konke kukodwa. Amanye amadoda awakubekezeleli ukubonakaliswa okunjalo kwemizwa, kanti amanye, kunalokho, kungakhubeka uma lona wesifazane engancoma nhlobo lapho lesi simo sikhona. Kunoma ikuphi, uma ubufuna ukwazi abathandekayo bakho ngamazwi amnandi nabanye abantu, vele ugcizelele ukunaka kwakho ngamandla awo, kepha akukufanele ukukudumisa - kube yimvelo.
Khuluma iqiniso futhi akukho lutho ngaphandle kweqiniso
Ngesikhathi sokudumisa, umuntu ngamunye ufuna ukwazi ngaye kuphela iqiniso, kumnandi kakhulu kunokulalela ukuthopha ngokuzithoba. Akunakubinga ukuthi ungamdumisi umuntu ngoba udinga okuthile okuvela kuye. Akunandaba ukuthi uzama kangakanani ukufihla i-carland yakho, kusenzwa, futhi indoda ikakhulukazi. Futhi uma ezizwa ngamanga - kuzomphendula nje ongemuhle.Ingabe sikhona isikhathi esifanele se-pouflast?
Ukudumisa akuwona ukulungiswa kwezokwelashwa okuzokhishwa kudonswa futhi ngesikhathi esithile. Amagama amnandi kumuntu kudingeka akhulume nendawo noma lapho avela ukungisho imizwa yakhe ukumbonisa. Ngosizo lokudumisa, ungathonya indoda esebenzisa ukwamukelwa kwengqondo - lapho enza okuthile okumnandi kuwe, kumtshele amazwi afudumele - ukuqiniswa okuhle kuzokhuthaza umuntu ngokuxhaphaza ngokwengeziwe endaweni yakho.
Izinyathelo Ezincane
Ukuvuselela indoda ekuzithobeni njalo, umaka futhi uyidumise ngisho nangempumelelo encane kunazo zonke - konke kuqala ngomuntu omncane. Ungalokothi wehlise ukwehla kwezenzo zendoda yakho, futhi akasoze adambisa wena.Ngenaliti
Uma uqhubekela ekudumiseni, khona-ke kukhona engcupheni yokufaka owesilisa enalitha ". Futhi-ke, uma owesifazane enciphisa ngisho nebha, okulungile kuqala uhlangothi oluthandekayo lwesithandwa. Futhi uma uyeka ukudumisa nhlobo, isimo siyokhulisa kakhulu. Ukuvimbela into enjalo, vele udumise isithandwa sakho ngezinto zangempela, futhi ungazidali izizathu.
Vele uhlale othandweni
Kepha into ebaluleke kakhulu ekudumiseni ubuqotho. Owesifazane othandekayo uhlala edumisa umuntu enhliziyweni emsulwa, futhi uyayizwa. Ngakho-ke, hlala uthandane nomlingani wakho womshado futhi ungakhohlwa ukumtshela lokho omthanda.