"UPonoshilovil waphonsa," "Kwesobunxele, engakusho okubi," "kungazelelwe wanyamalala," "Akaphenduli izingcingo" - abesifazane babonakala bebuya. Ngabe isitezi esinamandla "sifaka kanjani ikhanda" buthakathaka, ukuze labo baqale ukukholelwa kulokho okungekho?
Abesifazane abaningi bahlupheka ngenxa yothando olungafaneleki, ngisho nokuqonda ukuthi abakaze babelithande abantu, ngenxa yazo bakhala izinyembezi, banesithukuthezi. Isikhathi sokuthola abantu besilisa abakhohlisi abesifazane ukuthi labo abathandana nabo ngaphandle kwenkumbulo.Ekuqaleni kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi amadoda kusukela ebuntwaneni akhula ngolaka. Lapho behluleka ukwehluleka othandweni ngaphambili, baqala ukuzwa ulaka noma icala kubo bonke abesifazane. Amadoda amaningi anquma ukungaze athande, kepha ukusetshenziswa kuphela kwabameleli bobulili obuthakathaka ukufeza izidingo zabo. Lokhu kuyadingeka ukwazi ukuthi kusukela ngomzuzu wokuqala wokuqomisana ukuze ulindele iqhinga elivela kumuntu hhayi ukukholwa ukumamatheka kwakhe.
1. Ithemba
Okuyingozi kakhulu ukuthi lona wesifazane kungenzeka, ukuvela kwethemba lokuthi le ndoda imthanda futhi ifuna ukuba naye. Kuvela kanjani? Konke kulula ngokwanele: Indoda ithembisa ngowesifazane lokho afuna ukukuzwa kuye. Angavuma ukuthanda, athembisa ikusasa eliqhakazile, azakhele nezinhlelo ezihlanganyelwe. Ngokushesha nje lapho owesifazane eqala ukukholwa kulokho okwenziwa umuntu kungenjalo futhi akazange akwazi, ngokushesha awela ogibeni lwakhe.
2. Uthando
Lapho owesifazane eqala ukuzwa imizwa ngomuntu, uphenduka isiwula, esilungele bonke abathandekayo bakhe. Amaningi athi "aqine lo mhlaba" asebenzise. Babona ukuthi abalingani bacisha ingqondo egxekile futhi balalele imizwa yabo. Manje usungaphatha abesifazane abanjalo ukuze benze konke abantu abafuna kubo.
3. Thembela
Ngokungangabazeki, ngaphandle kokuthembela, ungakha ubuhlobo obuqinile. Kodwa-ke, kufanele kuqondiswe umthetho: Bheka ubone ukuthi umuntu wenzani ngempela. Awudingi ukwethemba amadoda, ngaphandle kwalokho azoyisebenzisa kuphela. Kufanele futhi kumiswe ukucabanga ukuthi kubi ukuthi othile alandele umuntu azohlola, alungise isimo lapho umuntu azibonakalisa khona. Umuntu akadingi ukwethemba, udinga ukwazi. Futhi lokhu kungenzeka kuphela ngemuva kwenani elikhulu lesikhathi ngokubona kwalo ezimweni ezithile. Ngenkathi lona wesifazane ethembela, uhlala eyimpumputhe.
4. Sex
"Uma emuhle embhedeni, khona-ke siyohlala sindawonye naye," lona wesifazane uyazi ukuthi angahlanganisa kanjani ingahambisani. Iqiniso lokuthi le ndoda yaphenduka isithandwa esihle, ayisho kakabi ukuthi futhi akazami embhedeni nomunye umuntu wesifazane. Amantombazane amaningi aqhubeka nobudlelwano kuphela ngenxa yocansi, angaboni nokuthi abalingani bangazishintsha, basebenze amakhono abo ocansi.
5. Imali
Lowo onemali nawo unamandla. Abesilisa babona ukuthi abesifazane bakhothama kanjani kumaCavaliers acebile. Ukuceba emehlweni kowesifazane akunzima kanjena: kuphothule endaweni ye-cafe, kugibele ngemoto, kuthenge ukugqoka kwakhe. Owesifazane ucabanga ukuthi ungene "eGolide Gcina", yize empeleni indoda ichitha imali yayo eqoqiwe, ezophela maduze. Imvamisa, ama-raavers anjalo azohlala kumantombazane abo, afune imali etholwayo evela kubo. Kuyavela, vele owesifazane kufanele ahlinzeke yonke imali.
Amadoda asheshe azizwe enobuthakathaka izindawo zokuzicindezela futhi aphathe abesifazane.
Futhi lapho zithwalwa, ngokuzumayo zinyamalala endaweni ethile, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi bangavuma ukuthanda futhi bakhe amacebo ahlanganyelwe ngekusasa.