Masibe neqiniso esweni: ukukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka ngithanda abantu abambalwa kakhulu. Uma uhlala ukhathazeka ngalokho okungenzeka noma kungenzeki esikhathini esizayo, kubangela ukucindezela okunganalo. Ngesikhathi esibizwa ngokuthi yinkinga eneminyaka ephakathi nendawo, ukukhathazeka kuvela cishe kubo bonke abantu.
Isixazululo salezi zinkinga ezimbili ngokwaso sivele sinzima impela, kepha uma ubahlanganisa ndawonye ... Ngakho-ke, yeka ukuthi kungcono kanjani ukubhekana nokukhathazeka phakathi kwezinkinga ezineminyaka ephakathi nendawo.1. Kuyaqondakala ukuthi inkinga ephakathi nendawo ijwayelekile
Impela, bambalwa abantu abake bakuzwa ngejika elibunjiwe lenjabulo. Eqinisweni, umqondo onjalo njengentokozo ufundwe kakhulu, futhi ijika elimise olwenziwe yavela iningi lalezi zifundo, futhi cishe kuwo wonke amazwe. Uthi injabulo yomuntu kungenzeka ifinyelele ezingeni elibaluleke kakhulu ngesikhathi senhlekelele ephakathi.
Inkinga ephakathi nendawo ivame kakhulu kunanoma ngubani ocabanga. Ukubona lokhu ngokuthuthela ezeluleko zesibili.
2. Ukwazi ukuthi awuyena wedwa olwa naye
Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukucabanga ukuthi wonke umshayeli wempilo yakhe. I-analoory ilele eqinisweni lokuthi abashayeli bezindiza bagcwala indiza egcwele abagibeli (umndeni, abangane kanye nabanye abantu ababalulekile kuye). Umgomo oyinhloko we-Pilot ukuthi abagibeli bakhe banomuzwa wokuthi konke kulawulwa ngokuphelele nokuthi konke kuhamba kahle nangendlela efanele. Iqiniso ngukuthi wonke umuntu abashayeli bezindiza endiza abo, futhi bonke ngezikhathi ezithile babhekana nesiphithiphithi lapho indiza.Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi wonke umuntu ungumshayeli wendiza, futhi noma ngubani uzama ukudala umbono wokuthi konke kulawulwa. Kepha empeleni, umshayeli ngamunye uzobhekana nesiphithiphithi esithile lapho izindiza zakhe (impilo yakhe). Yilokhu kanye okubangela ukujika okwenziwe ngejika kwenjabulo. Akunasidingo sokucabanga ukuthi kuhlukile ngokwesaba kwakho, abanye futhi abanqumi ukukhombisa i-alamu yabo nokukhathazeka kwabo emphakathini.
Udinga nje ukwazi ukuthi akekho owedwa kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, nokuthi abantu abaningi emhlabeni wonke babhekene nemizwa efanayo yokukhathazeka phakathi nenkinga eneminyaka ephakathi nendawo. Ngakho-ke, kuyasiza ukukutshela nge-alamu yakho ukuze uvale abantu.
3. Ungaziqhathanisi nomuntu "okufanele abe"
Kubaluleke kakhulu. Abanye abantu bachitha impilo yabo yonke, bezama ukucacisa okulindelwe ngabazali, ontanga, njll. Basebenza nsuku zonke futhi ekugcineni bazizwa bengajabule.
Kubalulekile ukuyeka ukuzama ukucacisa okulindelwe okungahambelani nokuzilibazisa noma izinhloso zempilo. Lezo. Kuyadingeka ukuyeka ukuziqhathanisa nomuntu "okufanele abe", bese uqala ukuba ngubani ofuna ukuba yikho.
4. Thola ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela empilweni
Umbuzo othi "Ufunani empilweni?" Kuvame kakhulu, futhi imvamisa impendulo kuyo ukuhlukahluka noma inhlanganisela yezinto ezilandelayo:- Impumelelo; - Umuzwa wokuthi uyakuthanda; - Ukuze ube nomphumela omuhle; - Inhlanhla.
Kubukeka sengathi konke kunengqondo, ngoba ngubani ongafuni ukuzizwa ethandekayo noma aphumelele. Kepha kufanelekile ukubuza, nokuthi kungani ngifuna konke kwenzeka empilweni. Ungaphikisa ukuthi wonke umuntu uzokuphendula: "Ngifuna ukujabula nje."
Ngokusobala, zonke izinhloso empilweni yethu zikhona kuphela ngoba kunesizathu sokukholelwa ukuthi uzojabula lapho ufika ngempela. Kodwa-ke, abantu abaningi abaqondi ukuthi yini okudingeka ujabule ngayo lapho uphishekela lezi zinhloso.
Impilo imfushane kakhulu ukugxila kuphela ekufezeni injabulo. Udinga ukuqala ukuthanda okwenzayo manje, futhi ungaqhubeki kuphela ukuze usebenzele "ukufeza" injabulo.
5. Phuma endaweni yokunethezeka
Imvamisa, lapho umuntu ethola esimweni esinzima, ngaphandle kokukwazi ukubuyela empilweni yakhe ejwayelekile, uyaqaphela ngempela ukuthi ungubani nokuthi yini ayifunayo. Ngempela uma ucabanga ngakho. Kepha abaningi bachitha imisebenzi yabo, babhukuda nje kulo lonke. Abangabazi ukuthi ukhetho oluzenzayo, noma abazenzela bona. Bavele banikine futhi bahambisa kunoma iyiphi indlela lapho abaphathi babo, osebenza nabo nabangane bafuna ukuba bahambe khona. Ngenxa yalokhu, cishe wonke umuntu ufinyelela esigabeni, lapho ethola khona ukuthi lokho akwenza, akukhona lokho afuna ukuqhubeka nokwenza.
Kufanelekile ukuzama ukuthatha isinyathelo esingaphezu kwendawo yakho yokududuza bese uzama lokho okungakaze kwenze ngaphambili. Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokugxila emsebenzini wakho, ungakhokha isikhathi esithe xaxa sokuzilibazisa okusha. Futhi ungaya ohambweni lwezinsuku eziningi.
6. Ukubonga okuvele kukhona
Udinga ukucabanga ngalokho osuvele uzuze, hhayi ngalokho okusafuna ukukwenza. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi okubalulekile sekuvele kwenziwa futhi kukhona empilweni yawo wonke umuntu. Udinga ukucabanga ngempumelelo yakho, mayelana nabantu ophila nabo, ngokuphila okunomphumela omuhle. Zonke lezi yizinto ezinhle okudingeka uzibonge ngazo. Kunzima ukujabulisa abantu. Bahlala befuna okuningi, kepha abaluzi ukuthi banakho. Lokhu "ukuhaha" kungaba yisithiyo esikhulu enjabulweni.Izeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zizogxila ezintweni ezinhle ozenzayo lapho ukhathazeka ngenkinga yakho eneminyaka ephakathi. Ngasikhathi sinye, akufanele ukhohlwe ukuthi i-pessimist ibona okungalungile noma ubunzima kuwo wonke amathuba, kanti okhonzeleli ubona ithuba kuzo zonke izinkinga. Lokhu kusho ukuthi udinga ukugxila kulokho okuvele kulapho, esikhundleni sokushoda.
7. Thatha idayari
Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi idayari yenzelwe kuphela amantombazane amancane, kepha kukude nendlela. Ukuphathwa kwedayari kukuvumela ukuthi uthole okuningi ngawe futhi wenza ukuba kwenzeke kangcono ezikhathini ezinzima.
Ku-dayari kufanelekile ukubhala okukhathazayo ngalokho okungajabule, okufunayo empilweni, ukuthi ungakufeza kanjani.
Noma nini lapho uzizwa ukhathazeka futhi, ungavula idayari yakho bese wengeza imicabango yakamuva kulokhu. Noma ungafunda kabusha imicabango yakho yakudala ukuze uqonde kangcono ukuthi yini ebangela ukukhathazeka.
8. Thola i-Psychotherapy
Mhlawumbe lesi seluleko siningi futhi besingalindele ukubona lapha, kepha silula kakhulu. Ukwelapha kungasiza ukubhekana nokukhathazeka ngesikhathi senhlekelele eneminyaka ephakathi. Masinyane kufanelekile ukubhuka - asikho isidingo sokwesaba ukuya ku-psychotherapist. Yize kunjalo, akunakuvinjelwa kwangaphakathi ekuvakasheleni udokotela ojwayelekile lapho uhlushwa ubuhlungu bomzimba, ngakho-ke kungani ukhathazeka ngokuya ngokwelashwa ngenxa yobuhlungu obungokomzwelo.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi udinga ukukhumbula lapho uhlangabezana nokukhathazeka ngesikhathi senhlekelele ephakathi, kuyaziwa ukuthi akekho owedwa. Imizwa engemihle ebhekene nayo, ijwayelekile impela, futhi abanye abantu abaningi bayabahlangabezana. Nakulokhu futhi - udinga ukuyeka ukuqhathanisa nobani okufanele ngithole ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela empilweni, phuma endaweni yentuthuko isikhashana bese uzama idayari enhle bese uqala idayari enhle bese uqala idayari enhle.