Ukufeza impumelelo empilweni futhi uziveze ohlangothini oluhle kakhulu, akwanele ukuba nokubukeka okuhle nesibalo esikhangayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ubheka abesifazane abaye baziwa futhi baphumelela, kungaphawulwa ukuthi abaningi babo abanakho ukubukeka okuvelele noma umcabango omangalisayo, kodwa kubo bonke kunohlobo oluthile lwamandla akhethekile, abaningi zibizwa nge-charm noma charisma.
Owesifazane one-charisma ubonwa kude kude, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ungaqapheli. Lapho nje kuvela, ukunakwa okuzungezile kufanelekile kumuntu wakhe, yize ukubukeka kwayo kungakude nokuphelele. Owesifazane onjalo ubukeka futhi ebukekayo, akukho lutho lobuciko kulo - kungukuphezulu kwemvelo.
Ngowesifazane wangempela onjalo, ngifuna ukuxhumana kaninginingi, ngisho nabesifazane abafisa ukwazi imfihlo yakhe insuka kuye, kodwa empeleni ayikho imfihlo eyodwa - ilele ezintweni ezihlala njalo.
Ukuba ngowesifazane obukekayo kungaba ngubani, udinga nje ukufuna kakhulu.
Ngemuva kokufunda abesifazane abaningi abahlekisayo, ungabela izibonakaliso eziyisishiyagalombili ukuthi wonke umuntu uwahlanganisa:
1. Owesifazane obukekayo akazingabazi, uhlala eqiniseka ngokunganqikazi.
2. Into esemqoka kowesifazane obukekayo ukuthi uhlala ethembekile kuye. Musa ukudida lokhu ngokuzethemba okubuhlungu, i-narcissism, okuyinto ebonakalayo yobuntu bezinsana. Kungumqondo ovuthiwe futhi ozwakalayo wokuzethemba - uyazi kahle ukuthi uhamba kuphi, yini futhi kungani enza. Kubantu abaseduze kwabantu, kukhombisa intshisekelo enempilo neqiniso.
3. Ukuxhumana nowesifazane obukekayo. Abantu bathola ulwandle lwemizwa emihle, futhi bonke ngenxa yokuthi intokazi enjalo ithweswe kahle, ihlala isendaweni ephelele yomoya futhi isilungele ukwabelana ngalokhu nayo abanye. Futhi konke lokhu kwenzeka ngokwemvelo kakhulu. Owesifazane onjalo akaholeli izingxoxo ngesisindo esithe xaxa, akaxoxi nanoma ngubani futhi angalahli.
4. Owesifazane onjalo angathakazelela ngokweqiniso nangomdlandla endabeni ye-interlocutor, futhi manje, ngeshwa, elinjalo kubantu livelakancane kakhulu, kangaka.
5. Owesifazane obukekayo akakaze aphazamise i-interlocutor - uzokulalela kuze kube sekupheleni, khona-ke azogcizelela imininingwane ebalulekile yengxoxo, azonikeza izeluleko ezifanele uma zidingeka. Futhi kuphela emva kwalokho okushoyo ngaye ukuthi kufanelekile ukukhuluma.
6. Izithombe zalo zangaphandle zihlala zicatshangelwa kuma-ettales kakhulu - acocekile kumathiphu wezipikili, kodwa kunesizotha, okunguBonton.
7. Izwi lowesifazane obukekayo muhle, ngoba amadoda ayazi nokuthi "athande izindlebe kanjani."
8. Futhi inzuzo yayo eyinhloko ukuthi ikhombisa inhlonipho kwabanye. Ungalokothi ukhiphe ukhiphe othile.