Sonke sivame ukubhekana nalesi simo lapho "kulula ukondla kunokukholisa." Kwesinye isikhathi engxabano kubonakala sengathi ubuchopho be-interlocutor bululwe eLathe - abazibazi, noma basebenzele ifayela.
Yebo, kunezindaba ezimbili - okuhle nokubi.Okuhle: Abaphikisi bethu abanasonya futhi bangasoli ukuthi basolwe - banjalo physiology wobuchopho babo.
Kubi: ufana ncamashi. Kukhona okungenani izicupho zengqondo eziyi-10, ziwele lapho silahlekelwa ukubonwa khona.
Onke amaJapan ayalingana, noma "ukuphuma kwe-homogeneity".
I-Japan ngayinye izoqinisekisa: "Onke amaRussia kumuntu oyedwa." Futhi akulona ihlaya. Buza noma yimuphi umuntu ohlala enkabeni yeRussia, yiluphi umbala izinwele eziseGeorgians. Uzophendula masinyane: "Mnyama, kunjalo." Kepha eqinisweni, amaGeorgiya ane-redheads emnyama futhi ekhanyayo ne-rusia.
Cishe simele namaqembu ezenhlalo. Amajaji, izikhulu, osomabhizinisi, abahlali abagqwali, amaJalimane, ama-bikers ... Yini izithombe ezivela ebuchosheni? Onke la maqembu abonakala emunye ubumbano ngaphakathi, futhi abamele kwabo sithi sibonisa isimo sengqondo esivamile kanye nengqondo.
Ukuhlukaniswa kwezwe "kulabo" kwabo "kwathuthukiswa kithi ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Emsebenzini u-Alexanger Alexander Markov uchaze ukuhlolwa kwezinkawu, okubonisa izithombe zezindlovu, izindlulamithi, imvubu nezinkawu. Lapho inkawu ibona isihlobo, khona-ke wafunda ubuso isikhathi eside esithombeni, kodwa ezindlulamisweni nasezindlovu nezindlovu, ukubheka nje isikhathi eside. Okungababheka kubo - okufanayo: indlulamithi!
I-Psyche yethu ifuna ukusindisa amandla engqondo. Kungani ucubungula idatha kwi-psychology ye-biker ngayinye eyodwa uma ungasebenzisa uhlelo olulula lweqembu lonke ngasikhathi sinye? Kanye nge-biker, kusho, ngesihluku, ngokuzethemba, umfazi, obhemayo, uPizhon noCynic. Kuyadingeka ukusho ukuthi esimweni ngasinye ngasinye cishe njalo - akulona iqiniso.
Sonke sihlanya kancane, noma ukuhlola okuqondile kokungabi nalutho
Ukukala izenzo zabanye kulula kakhulu. Wonke umuntu uza njengoba kunenzuzo. Izama ukuthenga okushibhile - ukuthengisa kubiza kakhulu. Ngubani onemali - lawo mandla. Uma izimpahla zithandwa kangaka, kusho ukuthi yiyona ehamba phambili emakethe.
Ngenhlanhla, lolu hlelo aluvamile impela. Empilweni, abantu bazoqhubeka nokuziphatha ngokungafanele, banephutha futhi balimaze. Kokubili emsebenzini, kokubili kwezohwebo nasebudlelwaneni.
Isazi sezengqondo uDaniel cannania uthole uNokwelaphase ekwazile ukwethula isici ekungatheni kwabantu ngamafomula kwezomnotho. Abantu benza izinqumo, ngokuya ngenani langempela lemikhiqizo - imvamisa phezulu kwemizwa, okubonisa, izinkumbulo namasiko amasiko.
Imvamisa isimo esibi, hhayi umuntu esikulo, noma "iphutha eliyisisekelo le-causal anction"
Ngokuyinhloko, igama lalesi sicucu sokwazi yimpendulo ephelele kunoma yimuphi umlobi engxabanweni, futhi akunandaba ukuthi kusho ukuthini. Kuhunyushelwe olimini lwemilenze emibili enezinyawo ezimbili, "ukwembangela okubangela" - lokhu kumayelana nokuthi sihumusha kanjani izimbangela zezenzo zabantu. Kungenxa yokuthi kubhekwa kaningi, kepha iphutha kuyiphutha e-Afrika.
Cabanga nje ukuthi ubuka ingxabano yabantu abangabazi ababili emgwaqweni. Omunye ozwakalayo ufunda okwesibili, engqongqoza ukukhala nokukhanya. Amakhonkolo wesibili ahamba ngezinyawo. Ungathini ngala madoda? Lowo, ngokusobala, ngokuqinisekile, uthanda ukulethe igwala le-grubian, ne-crubian, ne-coward yesibili, unokuthemba okuphansi futhi uthambekele ekuhanjisweni. Kwesokudla?
Kepha kaningi, ukuziphatha akuchazwa ngesimo, kepha ngesakhiwo esithile. Cabanga manje ukuthi indoda oyibize, umzuzu owedlule wacishe wangqongqoza iloli ekuhambeni okugcwele. Kanye ne- "Furbian", ebeka engcupheni, bamdonsela eceleni komgwaqo ngesikhathi esigcina. Futhi-ke, lapho ingozi idlula, ayikwazanga ukunqanda. Ngasikhathi sinye, empilweni ye- "Ham" - i-gamer eyi-hysterical nengamele, futhi "i-rag" ngumphathi oyisisekelo wenhlangano enkulu, engakasuswanga ekushayweni.
Ngokuvamile, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezinamandla zifakazelwe: Imvamisa sishesha kakhulu futhi sidluliselwa ngokungenakuphikiswa kubantu izici zokuziphatha kwabo okubonwa ngengozi. Ekuhlolweni izimbangela zezenzo zabanye, sivame ukweqisa ithonya lemvelo nokuhambisa iqhaza lesimo esithile.
Abafana abahle abaweli enkingeni, noma "inkohliso yomhlaba omuhle"
Intombazane ibihamba kusihlwa idlula epaki, izingane ezinempilo zaze zadumaza zadlwengulwa. Yebo, le ntombazane isihawu, kodwa kwenye indawo yaphuca umcabango: "Kepha wayani epaki kusihlwa?", "Ungagqoka isikejana edolweni!", "Mhlawumbe yi-koreh yakhe nhlobo, kuncike-kwahlekwa futhi kucatshangwe! ".
Nje nanoma yisiphi esinye isisulu. Ku-Bums ekushintsheni? Ngase ngifunga efulethini, ngicabanga. Imoto ishaye? Ngibheka ezinhlangothini - futhi ngiyaphila! Useceleni? Futhi akukho lutho lokucwilisa amajazi aboya esifundeni sonke esifundeni.
Bekulokhu kulesi sihloko: "Lapho ngithathwa ngaphansi kwesitezi se-Khommester uLyaline, ubaba wakhumbula ukuthi uLylin wayengama-anti-semite. Lapho i-roginsky yabulawa iRoginsky, kwavela ukuthi iRoginsky Drank. I-Helshapin Zatzapin Diskthailly Acserthailly Abesifazane. Amadoda ancamela amadoda ngamadoda ajwayelekile athandwayo. Kanye neKinodramaturg Shapero, ukuba ngumJuda, egcinwe ngegramu emangalisayo ... "
Kunobuhlungu obuningi empilweni. Iqiniso ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi badilizwa ngabahamba ngezinyawo abahlonishwayo kakhulu, amantombazane adlwengulwa, futhi abasubathi abasebancane babulawa amagciwane. Futhi i-psyche yethu izama ukushisa eqinisweni elibi, ipholisa iqiniso lokuthi izisulu ngokwazo zisolwa. Ukwesaba kwako konke ukungabazi komhlaba ngeke kusebenze. Futhi njengoba angikwazi ukubulala udrako masinyane, ngidle amantombazane angaphandle, kusho ukuthi la mantombazane awawona kangako.
"Bengazi ukuthi!", Noma iphutha likaHindeti
Sonke senza izigidi zemibono. Lapho okuthile kungafeli, kahle, kuyindaba yempilo. Kepha uma singazelelwe sibe ngombono, sijabule kakhulu ngawe, futhi ama-dopamines aphonswa egazini. Phakathi kwezinye izinto, ama-dopamines avuselela inkumbulo - ngezikhathi ezinjalo sikhumbula yonke into ezungeze yonke into nxazonke.
Le nqubo iphindwa iminyaka: Sikhumbula konke ukubikezela kwakho okuyikho futhi ungakhumbuli uFayuli. Ngenxa yalokhu, abaningi bacabanga ngezifiso ezinkulu (ngobuqotho ngokweqiniso, kufanele kushiwo) bese uqala ukwethembazela "imvelo yabo eyingqayizivele" ezindabeni zomuntu.
Kuhle kakhulu futhi kuyindlela emshameni omncane: Wenza ngokwezifiso ngokungazi umphumela owaziwayo ngaphansi kwesimo sakho eside. Ake sithi, umuntu okhethwe ngumongameli uthole amavoti angama-35%. Sizokuhumusha njenge-fiasco echotshozayo (kungaphansi kwengxenye), noma njengokunqoba okukholekayo (amaphesenti aphezulu kakhulu!) Ngokusekelwe kulokho esikudluliselwe kuye ngaphambi kokhetho.
I-lemming eyizigidi eziyizigidi, noma "ukubamba kweqembu"
Cabanga nje ukuthi ukwehla kwezidumbu zethu zomthetho kwazalwa kungumthethosivivinywa ... kahle, ake sithi, Vimba Ukuqabula Komphakathi. Kuze kube manje, le nkinga ayizange ikhathazeke kakhulu. Kepha isihloko siqala ukuxoxa kwabezindaba, amanethiwekhi omphakathi ... Omunye uzobhala okuthunyelwe okucashile, athi, inhlekelele ayanele - ukuvinjelwa kwalezi ukwanga kwakho, bona bajabulile - akukho lutho oluzokwazi ukugcona. Iposi lizothola amakhulukhulu abalwa namakhulu nezincwadi ezithukuthele.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abaphikisi bayochotshozwa, abasekeli bazophulwa komunye. Ngempela lusuku ukuze ingxoxo ikhule yaba yi-holivar engekho emthethweni phakathi "phansi nengbizeli!" Futhi "ama-bastards-stalinists, maduze uzokwenqabela amabele akho!". Futhi konke, emuva komgwaqo. Uma iqembu likhokhelwa ukulwa noma yini, lizokhuthazwa ukuba likhuthaze imifanekiso ngokumelene nale nto bese libhoboza izitatimende ukuthi le yinto ethile ethethelela ngandlela thile. Ngenxa yalokho, iqembu lisuka endaweni eyandayo.
Iqembu esikhundleni sobuchopho, noma labapostoli (i-groupthink)
Kwezengqondo zenhlalo yezenhlalo, izibonelo zakudala ze- "Parothy" zibizwa ngezinqumo ezidale ukunqotshwa kweJalimane empini yezwe yesibili, ama-watergate scandal debestrop. Umlobi wencwadi ethi "Isilwane Sabaphintu" U-Eliot Aronson wabhala: "Yini ehlanganisa" umbuthano "waseNazonov" kanti phezulu kwe-NASA, ngaphandle kweqiniso elingabazayo lokuthi wonke amaqembu ahlu abhalwe enze kabi? Bonke labo babengamaqembu abumbene, abiyelwe kwamanye amaphuzu okubuka. "
Isidingo sokugcina ubumbano lweqembu kwesinye isikhathi kubukeka sengathi lubaluleke ukwedlula ukwenza izixazululo zeqiniso. Ukugxekwa kungahlukanisa iqembu, okusho ukuthi kumele lishonele ngisho nasekhanda lakhe. Ngokusobala, umuzwa wokubaluleka kobumbano weqembu uzuzwa yi-US kusuka ezikhathini zangaphambi kokuqala, lapho kwakuyindaba yokusinda kwesizwe.
"Kucacile ukuthi ngubani okufanele asolwe ngakho konke", noma umphumela wencazelo elula
Ekhishini ngalinye (ikakhulukazi ngemuva komkhosi), bayazi ukuthi kungani iSoviet Union ibhidlika. Isizathu sicacile - ama-ejensi asentshonalanga yethonya, okuyi-jean, amabutho ane-stallone noZhwakhkov Donald Duck babeka phansi ukholo lwabantu ezinhlakeni ze-USSR. Noma, kunenye isizathu esithi "esisodwa": Asizange simiswe umjaho wezingalo ekulweni ne "Star Wars". Noma ngalokhu: Konke kumayelana ne-gorbachev ebuthakathaka, eyakhohliswa yinkosi yendawo ...
Imvamisa, ukuzama ukuqonda izizathu zokuthile, sichaza konke ngesici esisodwa esicela ku-ABUTU. Kepha imvamisa akukho mcimbi - kusuka kwisehlukaniso kuya ku-Revolution - ayihambi ngesizathu esisodwa, ukuphela kwesizathu - I-Complex of Finals isebenza njalo. Ngakho-ke kungani sihlale sinye? Yonke into ilula: Ukuhluka okumbalwa kusebenze ukuchaza, ubuchopho obukhathele bulula.
Imizwelo yokumelene nezibalo, noma "ukumelwa ngamanga"
Izindaba ezesabekayo zivela ku-hoppen. I-grader ye-grader lena yangena ekushintsheni kwakhe, futhi ngokuzumayo isikhafu sayo sanamathela phezu kwe-poplar. ULena waba ngamahlaya, eshaya, ubuso bakhe babuwumile, ingane empofu ayikwazanga ngisho nokushayela usizo. Ukube angizange ngidlulise i-janitor Pal Petrovich, intombazane ngeke igcine.
Kepha uMisha oneminyaka eyisishiyagalombili, ama-CM amancane kakhulu e-chess edolobheni, ayenenhlanhla - wawela ophahleni lwegaraji futhi wachoboza ugebhezi mayelana ne-rack yocingo. Gcina umfana wehlulekile. Futhi intombazane katya yafa ngofulawa omubi, lapho ingubo ye-chiffon ibanjwa kuyo kusukela kumqhudelwano woNyaka oMusha; Ukukhala kwakhe ngizwe yonke imicrodistrict ... ngonyaka ka-2014, amacala ayi-128 okulimala ezinganeni abhaliswe eGolopupensk (ngo-2005 - 389).
Ukunakwa, umbuzo: Ngabe konke kubi kangaka nge-hoppen nokulimala kwezingane? Izinombolo zithi: Sekuyiminyaka engu-9, ukulimala kwehlile ngezikhathi ezintathu. Kepha izindaba ezibuhlungu zikaLena, uMisha noKati ngeke bashiye noma ngubani ongenandaba. Uxolo izingane!
Siyizilwane ezingokomzwelo. Lapho ulalela umlando othile, bese uzwelana namaqhawe akhe. Cula lo mzwelo ngezibalo ezomile kunzima kakhulu. Futhi-ke, "wesula iMeya yeHoppen!", Futhi akunandaba ukuthi unciphise kathathu.
IMpi Yezindawo Zokuhlangana, noma "Isixazululo Sokuqonda"
Ubelokhu wazi ukuthi uMongameli waseNyakatho Omangalisayo uyisigebengu, umashiqela kanye neprofege of american imperialism. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lesi silo sicindezela ngesihluku ama-Fighress ukuze achume ngokuthuthuka kwengxenye "uthando nokuthula". Kepha lapha kungazelelwe kubonakale izindaba zokuthi uMongameli wayeziboshelwe zonke iziboshwa zezombusazwe futhi amemezele ukhetho lwamahhala, ethatha iziqu, futhi ama-proartis ashayele esibhedlela kulolu suku.
Ulwazi olulodwa manje seluxabana nolunye. Kwenzeka okufanayo kokungaqondakali, okungavulwanga kuwo wonke ama-pelevin, kepha isazi sezengqondo uLeon Festinger. Ungaba kanjani? Yebo, kulula, singakwazi: okokuqala, umthombo wolwazi kungenzeka amanga. Okwesibili, izenzo zikaMongameli - i-PR eshibhile ne-Maneuver ye-Cynical. Okwesithathu, manje babhala esithangamini esibhedlela somama bebengebona abagibeli, kodwa amabutho amabutho kahulumeni, futhi ukuqhuma akuhlelekile hhayi ama-turrillas, kepha afihleze izinhloli zezinsizakalo ezikhethekile.
Ukwazi kwethu kuzibophezele esithombeni esivunyelwene ngaso. Kulula ngathi ukudala imodeli enobunye yezwe ngesigaba esicacile kokubi nokuhle. Futhi uma okuthile empeleni kungahambisani nalesi sithombe - ngakho-ke, wonke amanga, mhlawumbe. Ezinkopheni zethu, ngifuna - yini iqiniso, kepha yini engeyona. Into eyodwa icacile: Njengoba isibhedlela sethu sokubeletha savutha, kusho ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthi uthando nokuthula.