Uthembekile futhi waletha kahle intombazane yanamuhla - uyini? Ukwanela, okukhanyayo, okunenjongo, okuphumelelayo. Angijwayele ukubuza, ngithemba wena kuphela. Udinga ukugqoka noma i-smartphone - kuzosebenza, imoto - izokwamukela amalungelo futhi ithenge ngesikweletu, ifulethi liqongelelwa kumnikelo wokuqala futhi lithathe imali ebanjiswayo. Ngakho-ke umama nobaba bafundiswa. Futhi bafundisa nokuthi ukufunda nokuqala, lapho-ke impilo yomuntu siqu. Futhi emva kwakho konke, ngokuvamile, lesi yisithembiso esihle. Kepha sibonani ekugcineni?
Amantombazane alungile futhi ahlakaniphile ayeqhosha kakhulu ngabazali babo, ngo-25 (futhi abaningi naku-30) abazoshada ngisho nasekushade. Cha, akulona "amagundane ampunga", agqoke isitayela, abukeka kahle, kunzima. Banezinhlobonhlobo zokuzilibazisa ezithokozisayo, abangane abaningi kanye nomhlaba wangaphakathi ocebile. Kepha bonke bagijimela endaweni ethile, bematasa phakade, abafuni ukulahlekelwa umzuzu. Futhi ngesizathu esithile, bakholelwa ukuthi konke okufeziwe kusengaphambili, futhi impilo yomuntu siqu izolinda.Futhi lokhu kuyinkambiso yomhlaba wonke. Nangu abazali abesaba izolo ukuthi indodakazi yabo izonakekela abangu-16, bayakuqonda ukuthi manje bafuna ngempela ukuthambisa izingane. Futhi baqala ukwesaba omunye: ukuthi indodakazi ngeke ikhulelwe nakancane, futhi ngeke ilindele abazukulu bayo.
Ukwesaba kwezihlobo kuyakhula minyaka yonke, ngoba abanikazi banyamalale, ngokushesha nje lapho okuthile okungathi sína phezulu kulungathi sína, noma ukhetha "amakhophi" anjalo. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Kungani i-natashka engathandeki evela emnyango wokuqala ashade ngempumelelo 22 futhi ilinde ingane yesibili, futhi ubuhlakani bethu nobuhle buselodwa?
Icala embonini yamandla, amantombazane akhipha amantombazane. Imicabango yabo iheha izehlakalo ezithile nabantu. Ake sibheke ukuthi yini engaphazamisa injabulo yomuntu siqu.
1. "" Ngingakwazi konke "noma" kufanele ngifeze konke ngaphandle kosizo. "
Ukufakwa okuthandwa kakhulu esikhathini sethu. Imvamisa intombazane ithanda kakhulu le ndoda ayithanda ngayo, ayazi ukuthi angasondela kanjani kuye. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi amarobhothi abonakele nhlobo, amuzwa muntu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, akakaze acele usizo, futhi imizamo yakhe ibe usizo ngokunganaki ngokuphelele. Ngemuva kwalokho udumazekile futhi ushiya, ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuthi kungani enza ngokuphela kwalokhu nathina.
Futhi iqiniso ukuthi wayevele "ebanda". Umuntu ubalulekile ukuba ube ngomuntu onethemba nokusekelwa, uzizwe kunesidingo. Futhi okungcono - kuyadingeka. Futhi ukubonga okuqotho emehlweni alo othandekayo ngumvuzo omuhle kakhulu weningi lazo.
Ngakho-ke mnikeze leli thuba. Musa ukunamathela konke okusemahlombe akho, vumela umngane wakho ukuba ahlanganyele empilweni yakho futhi asize ekuxazululeni noma yiziphi izinkinga.
2. "Ngifuna umndeni, kepha anginaso isoka."
Kwenzeka ukuthi isifiso sokwenqaba isidleke somndeni esivuthwa ngaphambili kunasempilweni efanayo, okuwukuphela kwalokuphela. Kepha, ngenhlanhla, kusho ukuthi isiphetho kungenzeka kakhulu endaweni ethile eduzane! Ukuze konke kulungile, kudingeka ulalele ngokwakho. Uphupha kanjani umndeni onjani?Cabanga kuyo yonke imininingwane: • Zingaki izingane nokuthi yiluphi ucansi; • Iziphi izimfanelo umyeni onazo; • Lapho uhlala khona nokuthi yiziphi izindlu ezibukeka; • Kukhona ezifuywayo; • Usuku olujwayelekile lwesonto kanye nosuku olujwayelekile lunjani, nokunye.
Konke lokhu kuzosiza ekutholeni izinto eziza kuqala futhi kwakha isithombe esicacile somphumela owufunayo. Lokhu kubizwa nge-visualization. Ukwamukela okuhle, ukunikeza isibonakaliso sendawo yonke: "Ngikulungele, ngilindile." Ngalabo abazi kahle ukuthi izehlakalo ezifanele zenzeka ngokushesha yini.
3. "Bonke abesilisa bayalingana. Kukhona, kunjalo, kuhle, kepha sekuyisikhathi eside bematasa. "
Imicabango enjalo imvamisa liphefumulelwe ngolwazi olubi lomuntu siqu. Eqinisweni, abukho abantu abafanayo. Akekho amadoda noma abesifazane. Yebo, empeleni, abantu abalungile abalelenga endleleni. Kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi ngeke uhlangane nokwakho. Into esemqoka akufanele uhlobane nakho konke ukukhetha. Dedela okwedlule futhi ukholwe ukuthi kungenzeka.
4. "Angifuni ukuncika kunoma ngubani. Kuyasabisa futhi kungenza ngibe sengozini. "
"Ngiyayithanda inkululeko yami." Ngempela, noma yibuphi ubuhlobo obuseduze buqeda ukulinganiselwa okuthile. Kunezibopho ezazingekhona ngaphambili, ziba mahhala. Kepha izinzuzo eziningi kanye nemicimbi ethokozisayo nayo iyavela.Uma ufuna ubudlelwane obuseduze, udinga ukuxoxisana nawe futhi wamukele iqiniso lokuthi enye inkululeko izolahleka. Lokhu kwenzeka ngokwakho njengoba kwenziwa. Ebusweni kufanelekile ukuthi aqaphele ukuthi ngeke athinti wena kuphela, kodwa futhi. Izinga lemikhawulo lingavunyelwa njalo futhi lithole inketho ezohlela yomibili.
Futhi mayelana nomunye umuntu - kukhona nezinzuzo lapha. Kwesinye isikhathi kuhle ukuzizwa buthakathaka, uqonde ukuthi yini ongathembela kothile ngesikhathi esinzima. Futhi lo muntu ngeke ayeke akhiphe.
5. "Umndeni, izingane - anginandaba nami."
Azikho amacala lapho isitatimende esinjalo singumphumela wokuphendula okuvikelayo kwe-psyche. Lapho umuntu engasebenzi isikhathi eside, uthi kuye: "Nokho, kulungile, hhayi kakhulu futhi wafunwa!". Ngakho-ke nansi into efanayo. Uma kungasekho "umuntu" wakhe "isikhathi eside, kusho into eyodwa kuphela: hhayi isikhathi. Futhi, mhlawumbe udinga nje ukuyeka ukubheka. Lapho-ke injabulo izokuthola ngokwakho. Into esemqoka ukuqonda kusengaphambili ngokwakho ukuthi yiluphi injabulo kuwe.
6. kanye necala lokugcina - lapho ungafuni ukushada ngempela. Ngaphandle kokuhlobisa.
Ukufakwa okungavumelekile akufanele kusolwe, izakhiwo - awuhlupheki ngokuphelele. Simane nje asikho isifiso, futhi yilokho! Uthanda ukuthi impilo igoqwa kanjani, futhi awukakulungeli ukwenqaba ukuthandwa yikhishi ne-pellery yezingane.
Kulokhu, inkinga ilahlekile nhlobo: Uma umuntu efanela konke, khona-ke asikho isidingo sokushintsha noma yini! Njengamanje, ngokusobala, ufuna enye, futhi lapho isikhathi sifika ku-Seled, konke kuzophuma ngokwakho. Ekugcineni, lokhu kudinga kuphela isifiso esiqotho. Jabula!