Le ndatshana ibhaliwe, ikakhulukazi ukuze isize abesifazane baqonde kangcono abesilisa. Yize kunjalo, ukuqonda kuyisisekelo senhlonipho ehambisanayo, futhi ukunwetshwa okuhambisanayo kuyisisekelo sothando. Ngakho-ke, kulesi sihloko sizotshela abesifazane ukuthi bacabanga kanjani, basabela futhi benze amadoda. Ngakho-ke ake sihambe!
1. Chaza: Uhlobo luni indoda yakho ehlobene nayo?
Wonke amadoda angahlukaniswa ngezinhlobo ezimbili. Uhlobo lokuqala luhlanganisa amadoda avelela, aqinile, aqinisekile. Bayazi ukuthi bafunani ngempela empilweni, futhi bayene ngokuqiniseka emgomweni wabo. Mhlawumbe sebekufezile okuningi empilweni, futhi useduze ngalesi sizathu. Amadoda anjalo avame ukuphikisana, ngokungafaneleki, okungazwelisi, kepha kuyaqondakala ukuqonda ukuthi lolu uhlangothi oluhlanekezelwe lwabo.
Futhi uhlobo lwesibili luhlanganisa amadoda akhetha ukungashiyi indawo yawo yokududuza. Ziyakhululeka impela zilele kusofa ngebhola lebhola likabhiya, ehleli ekhompyutheni edlala "amathangi" nabanye abacibishelayo, kepha umsebenzi odingekayo. Amadoda anjalo, njengomthetho, ngeke akwehlule, ngeke agobe umugqa wawo, azame ukukwakhela khona. Kepha, wena ngokwakho uzoqala ukuhlupheka ngokubuka kwabo emva kwesikhathi esithile.
Thatha ukuthi ungabheki kahle ngalezi zinhlobo ezimbili? Khumbula ukuthi uhlobo lokuqala lwamadoda aludingeki hhayi umama wokunakekelwa kwe-hyper, hhayi indodakazi eyayiphangiwe, kodwa umsizi. Uma ungabonisi ngezidingo zakho kanye nezeluleko eziphikelelayo, khona-ke uzokwanelisa kakhulu ngayo yonke imiqondo. Uma kungenjalo, maduze nje kuzosuswa ngokuphelele kuwe, khona-ke kuzolahla.
Futhi ungabheki kahle ngohlobo lwesibili lwamadoda? Impendulo yalo mbuzo ingcono kakhulu, kunokuba isebenze, ngoba, umfazi omncane, udinga indoda enjalo.
Kepha, emva kwakho konke, uma ungafuni ukugcotshwa, bese uzama ukungamthinti. Ungaphazamisi ukudlala imidlalo nokubuka ibhola. Ngesinye isikhathi uzokhumbula ngawe.
2. Unesikhathi esingakanani ebudlelwaneni?
Thanda izimpilo iminyaka emithathu. Yebo, yebo, ngokunembile kakhulu. Lesi sikhathi singeso ngokwemvelo. Iminyaka emithathu ingumnqamulajuqu odingekayo wokukhulelwa ingane, futhi ayikhulise ngayo iminyaka enjalo ize ikwazi ukukwazi ukuhamba nokukhipha mina. Vele, lokhu akunakwenzeka emphakathini wethu, kepha imvelo yethu ayinandaba nomphakathi wethu. Noma ngabe lo mbhangqwana ungazange umlimaze ingane, yonke imvelaphi efanayo yama-hormonal, ngenxa yazo izimvemvane ezizithele esiswini, ehambisa ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu yobudlelwano.Ngakho-ke, uma ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu ngemuva komhlangano wakho, awunakuhlangana okuncane, lapho, kungenzeka, wena ukwanela omunye nomunye. Ungasigwema kanjani lesi simo? Lapha unganikeza izeluleko ezimbili.
Okokuqala, udinga okuvelayo okujwayelekile okulungile ukuze ube nezinto ezimbili okufanele uzikhumbule. Okwesibili, kufanele uhlanganise uhlobo oluthile lwenani.
3. Ngabe unezintshisakalo ezifanayo?
Leli iphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, izintshisakalo ezijwayelekile nesizathu esijwayelekile - Yini ezokuhlanganisa lapho ingemuva le-hormonal lihamba, futhi izimvemvane zizoyeka ukumamatheka esiswini. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma i-VASR enendoda yakho inezintshisakalo ezijwayelekile, khona-ke ungabhekana nemisebenzi ehlanganisiwe ezohlanganisa wena, futhi uma indoda yakho ibhekisela kuhlobo lwezisebenzi ezisebenzayo, ungaba umsizi omuhle. Kepha lapha uma kungekho okuthakazelisa okuvamile, kungenzeka ukuthi ngemuva kokuthi i-misstiture, isizinda se-hormonal siyoshayela, uzoba nesibambo "sokuthi uzokuthwala.
Umbuzo wokunqanyulwa kobudlelwano kuleli cala kumane nje kuyindaba yesikhathi. Ukubuza njalo le mibuzo emithathu futhi ubaphendule ngokufanele ngangokunokwenzeka, uzoqonda kangcono indoda yakho, nokuthi uyawudinga lobu budlelwano. Futhi uma besadingeka, uzoqonda ukuthi ungabenza kanjani baqine.