Ubuhlobo yinto enzima. Ayikho indlela efanelekile yokwakha nokubathuthukisa, futhi ayikho indlela yokuqinisekisa ukuthi konke kuzohamba njengoba kudingeka. Sinikeza izeluleko ezimbalwa ebudlelwaneni, obekusobala ezingatshelwanga ebusheni bami.
1 Buza ukuthi indoda esondele kangakanani egumbini lokulala
Ngqo. Ucansi luyingxenye ebalulekile yobudlelwano obunempilo nobumnandi, ngakho-ke egumbini lokulala uhlala kudingeka ukuxhumana, futhi hhayi ngokuqagela buthule ukuthi ufuna "uhhafu." Isibonelo, abaningi babehlala befuna ukuzama okuthile embhedeni, kepha bakufihle, banamahloni ukusho. Ngakho-ke, uma ugcina impilo ebukekayo ihlala intsha futhi iyathakazelisa, izokwenza ukuthi zombili zijabule zijabule egumbini lokulala nangaphandle kwalo.2 hlala uzenzela
Impela, yilowo nalowo uzothi lapho ehlangana okokuqala nesoka lakhe, konke bekumnandi futhi kumnandi. Bobabili baqhubeka nezinsuku, bahlangane nemigoqo eyintandokazi nakumaphathi futhi benza konke abakwenzayo okuncane kakhulu.
Masibe neqiniso esweni: I-honeymoon isiphelile. Kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukubuya ngezikhathi ezithile. Kungani ungangenisi usuku lwamahhala ukuze uchithe isikhathi esihle, njengoba ujwayele ukukwenza ngaphambi - yidla, uphuze futhi ujabule.
3 Lahla amasiko ohlangothini
Namuhla, abantu abasekho okukhawulelwe ezindimeni zobulili bendabuko. Kuwufanele ukukhohlwa ukuthi uMama wathi kanjani ukudla, ukupheka nokuhlanza kuyindlela eya enhliziyweni yendoda. Noma yimuphi umuntu wanamuhla uyakwazisa owesifazana onobuhlakani, oqinile futhi ozimele ongamelana naye.Eqinisekile abesifazane bathanda, kwesinye isikhathi bayabanakekela. Ngakho-ke, okungenani ukulungiselela ngezikhathi ezithile isidlo sakusihlwa sasekhaya sothando lwakhe ngenxa yawo wonke umuntu. Umbhangqwana ongahlonipha amaphupho omunye komunye wabalwela ukuba ndawonye ungumbhangqwana ozoba nobudlelwano obuqinile nobusuku obude.
4 Ukuba namaqiniso, nethemba futhi ukulungele ukusebenza kanzima
Ngaphandle kwamaphupho ezingane, alikho inkosana ebukekayo ehhashini elimhlophe, elizothatha umfazi ovela empilweni yansuku zonke. Kunjalo okufanayo kusebenza emadodeni - akufanele alindele isicathu se-crystal kusuka ku-lobiten ukuholela kwinkosazana.
Vele, lokhu akusho ukuthi kudingeka sivumelane ngokukhethwa kukho kokuqala. Udinga nje ukuthola umuntu oyedwa, ngaphandle kwawo nje ngeke ucabange impilo yakho. Ngasikhathi sinye, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuthandwa kwalomuntu we-hypothetical kuzokwenza nje usesho.
Kudingeka futhi ube yithemba futhi ukholelwe ngokuqinile ukuthi kumuntu ngamunye kunomuntu "wakho". Akunakukwazi ukuqiniseka ukuthi bazosebenzisa impilo yami yonke bodwa noma ukuthi alukho uthando lwangempela - lukhona futhi ludinga umsebenzi okhuthele. Ubudlelwano obuphumelelayo budinga bobabili abalingani benze umzamo omkhulu; Futhi uma bethandana ngokweqiniso, ngeke kubukeke njengomsebenzi.
5 Abukho ubudlelwano obumayelana nobumbili obufanayo.
Yize uthando oluningi lokubonisana nabangane noma nezihlobo zabo ebudlelwaneni, kufanelekile ukugcina engqondweni ukuthi bonke ubudlelwano buhlukile nokuthi yini esebenza umbhangqwana owodwa kungenzeka angasebenzi enye. Kusho nokuthi akuwona wonke umuntu ozoqonda ukuthi kungani umuntu eza ngendlela ethile.
Iqiniso ukuthi akukho sayensi ebudlelwaneni obuhle. Kuyadingeka ukugcina impilo yakho yezocansi nezinsuku zithakazelisa futhi zisha, zihloniphe amaphupho bomunye nomunye bese ulahla amasiko okude. Uthando lungokoqobo kakhulu futhi kwesinye isikhathi lungcolile, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi udinga ukwenza lokho okwenza wena nomlingani wakho nijabule. Futhi konke kuzolunga.