Uye wakuxwayisa kaningi ngokuphupha. Futhi nangokwengeziwe, ukuze kuphuphe umfanekiso wamaphupho. Ngoba isiwula, iphutha elimazayo futhi okuqinisekisiwe ukuthi kufanele kusetshenziswe ngaphansi komthambeka wempilo esungulwe kahle ngemizamo engenazithelo yokubamba inyoni yawo eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka. Futhi intombazane egama lingu-El Mone ikutshela: iphupho, futhi ngizokufundisa ukuthi ungafaka kanjani amaphupho. Encwadini yakhe ethi "phakathi kwayo kuyadingeka futhi ngifuna" (Inganekwane Yokushicilela).
Ngaphansi kwesembozo - Imifanekiso egqamile ye-copyright, izindaba ezikhuthazayo, amathiphu awusizo kanye nokuzivocavoca kwalabo abafuna ukuthola umsebenzi wabo.Umsebenzi wokunethezeka vs. Ubizo
Phambilini, i-El Moon isebenze njengomklami enkombeni ye-Ideo edumile, ebandakanyeka kumaphrojekthi atholakalayo, ebambe iqhaza ekubhaleni okuphumelelayo okuphumelelayo njengebhokisi leposi, uber and medium. Kepha konke lokhu akuzange kumlethe ukwaneliseka kwakhe ngokuphelele. Intombazane yabona sengathi ifuna okuthile okungaphezu kokuthola umsebenzi omuhle nje.
Ngesinye isikhathi, u-El Mon wanquma ukuguqula kakhulu impilo yakhe. Waxosha emsebenzini waqala ukudweba ngakho. Ngokokuqala ngqa, le ntombazane yazizwa ikhululekile futhi ijabule. Ngokushesha lo mculi wavula inkampani yakhe, yibaphi abaklami base-Europe abaseYurophu namakhosi e-Bali baye eBali.
U-El Mon walandela iphupho, wathola ukubizwa kwakhe futhi wakwazi ukuguqula umsebenzi ube yintokozo eqinile. Lokhu kwavela kwanele impilo yokuthola imibala ekhanyayo nencazelo ejulile. Ngakho-ke umdwebi wavula imfihlo yenjabulo: udinga kuphela ukwenza into oyithandayo ethokozisayo, efaka futhi ikhokhise amandla.
Ngokusho kwe-El Moon, umuntu ngamunye unenhloso ekhethekile. Kuyadingeka kuphela ukuzama ukuyithola. Futhi-ke, nquma ngoshintsho.
Dinga vs. Swela
"Udinga ...", "Awudingi ...", "kufanele ...". Sizwa izinsolo ezinjalo kwabanye njalo. Kepha uma ebuntwaneni bekudingeka ngempela ukulalela la mazwi, khona-ke manje sebephazamisa nje abafuna indlela yabo eya enjabulweni.
Ama-stereotypes amaningi, ezinye izinhlelo zenani labantu, okulindelwe kwabathandekayo - konke lokhu kuhlala ekhanda. Futhi empeleni sicabanga ukuthi baphoqelekile ukuthola umsebenzi othembisayo, obangela ukuba kube ngumuntu onobuntu; Iya ehhovisi, noma ngabe njalo ekuseni uphupha ukuyeka; Thatha umndeni iminyaka engama-30, naphezu kwesifiso sokuhlala ukhululekile.
Ukuphela kwendlela okuyinhlanhla ukuyeka lokhu "okudingekayo" nokuqonda amaphupho akho nezifiso, amathalente nokuthambekela, izinkolelo kanye nezinto eziza kuqala. Ungubani eqinisweni? Ufuna ukwenzani? Yini ekugqugquzela? Kulapho uphendula ngayo le mibuzo kufanele uncike empilweni yakho eyengeziwe.
I-El Moon inikela ngokwenza izivivinyo ezizosiza ukushiya konke kakhulu futhi zithola iqiniso. Nazi ezinye zazo.
1. Bhala iziphakamiso eziningi eziqala ngamagama athi "ngidinga ..." futhi "angidingi ...". Cabanga ngomphumela. Kungani le micabango yafika ekhanda lakho? Unqume nini futhi ngaphansi kwethonya lawo ukuthi yonke le misebenzi kufanele yenziwe? Ngabe ufuna ukwenza ngempela?
2. I-SOCCHIN amabili ama-necrologists ayelana nawo. Kwenye yazo, ngitshele ukuthi impilo yakho idlula kanjani, uma ushiya konke ngaphandle koshintsho. Kokunye umbhalo, chaza ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma uqala ukuphila ngokwesimiso se- "funa", ukufeza izifiso zakho futhi wenze into oyithandayo.
3. Phendula imibuzo elandelayo. Yini oyithande ubuntwana? Impilo ephupha ngani? Wake waba yiphupho lapho umoya owabanjwa khona? Imiphi imidlalo oyithandayo? Ukhethe ukuchitha kanjani isikhathi: enkampanini noma yedwa?
4. Cabanga ukwedlula indlela othanda ukuyenza manje. Yini oyithandayo ukuchitha ngempelasonto, amaholide, kusihlwa samahhala? Ngabe uyaphazamisekani lapho ubiza?
5. Uma ngesinye isikhathi bonisa ngekusasa lakho, pho-ke yimiphi imicabango enikhuthaza? Bhala yonke imibono eya engqondweni.
6. Isikhathi eside ngiphuphe ngifunde okuthile, kepha angikwazanga ukuhlangana? Isikhathi sokuhlanganisa isifiso sangempela. Yenza uhlu lwamacala: Qinisekisa ama-French, iya kubasiki bese uthumela izifundo, ukugibela ukugibela nokunye. Njalo ngenyanga zama okuthile okusha. Qopha obekumele uzenze ngomphefumulo, futhi unjani.
7. Qoqa amanothi aphumela endaweni eyodwa. Kancane kancane ugcwalise iqoqo namarekhodi amasha. Ukuzihlaziya, funa ukuxhumana nezinhloso ezijwayelekile. Ngolunye usuku, konke lokhu kuzokuholela ekusebenziseni kwakho.
Izaba vs. Ukuholwa umoya
Thola ikholi akuyona yonke. Esigabeni esilandelayo kuzofanele unqobe ukwesaba kwakho. Ngokusho kwe-El Moon, azikho izizathu zokushiya ibhizinisi lakhe elithandekayo. Nazi izaba ezimbalwa ezivame kakhulu ezilula ukubekezelela inselelo.
munye. "Uthando lwami alulethi imali." Kepha akekho osho ukuthi kufanele uyeke umsebenzi ngokushesha, ikakhulukazi uma kuze kube manje yile ithuba lokuthola. Into esemqoka ukuthola isikhathi sento oyithandayo nsuku zonke. Uma kukugqugquzela ngempela, khona-ke ngolunye usuku nakanjani uzophumelela futhi, kungenzeka, ufunde ukukhipha imali engenayo evela ekusebenziseni kwakho.
Umculi odumile uPhilip Glass wasebenza ngamapulangwe, futhi wathola imali yokuqala evela ekusebenziseni kwakhe eminyakeni engama-41. Umlobi uKurt vonnegut ukuthengisa izimoto. Omunye umbhali, uThomas Eliot, wayeyisisebenzi sasebhange. Kepha akekho kubo owaphosa into eyithandayo.
2. "Anginaso isikhathi." Njengomthetho, isikhathi siwukuthi, siyisebenzisa nje ukungakhiqizi. Cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi ngempelasonto, ikhefu emsebenzini, kusihlwa samahhala, iholide nokunye. Uma ulanda ngempela ukuthi awunaso isikhathi sokwenza into oyithandayo, funa indawo lapho inikezwa khona isheduli elimatasatasa. Ungavuma ngisho nomholo omncane, ngoba sivame ukudinga okungaphezu kwalokho esikudingayo. Khumbula: umsebenzi ubaluleke kakhulu.
Yini enye ngaphansi kwesembozo?
- Ukuzivocavoca okuwusizo ngokwengeziwe okuzosiza ukuhlukanisa "ngifuna" kusuka "kudingekile," ukubhekana nokwesaba futhi ngithole indlela yakho.
- Izindaba eziphathelene nabantu abathole ukubizwa kwabo, okuzokhuthaza ushintsho.
- Imifanekiso emangalisa evela e-El Moon. Yibo abenza le ncwadi ibe lula ngokumangalisa futhi ikhuthaze. Kuhle hhayi nje ukufunda, kepha futhi nokucabanga.
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