Ngokusebenzisa bonke bangabathandi, akunandaba, bahlangana unyaka owodwa noma iminyaka eyishumi, ngasikhathi esithile kukhona ukushiswa - abalingani bakhathele ubudlelwano. Ngaphandle, i-tandem yabo ingabukeka iphelele - bobabili abathandwayo, bayakhathalelana, banokuthile abangakukhuluma ngakho nokuthi baye bakukhumbule yini, kunenala kanye nesifiso sokuhlukanisa.
Futhi-ke umuntu wedwa (futhi kwesinye isikhathi bobabili ngasikhathi sinye) uvumela iphutha elikhulu - ufihla isimo sakhe sangempela, uqala ukwenza sengathi, ugqoke imaski, ugqoke into ethile ngaphakathi ekugcineni, kuholele ebudlelwaneni ukuwa.Kungani kufanele kube ndawonye - akusho ukuthi ukuthanda 24/7?
Sizobe sithembekile, abashadikazi bathunyelwa ngesehlukaniso hhayi ngenxa yokuphikisana okuvumelekile, izinhloso ezihlukile, izinjongo zocansi noma izinkinga zezezimali, konke ukwenza imizwa yabo. Lapho umuntu ovela kubalingani afihle kancane, kodwa athule. Bese kuba nensimbi yesibili neyesithathu, kuze kube yilapho ukucasuka kwangaphakathi kuqongelelwa emaphethelweni, futhi ithonsi lokugcina alizange liwe ngaphezulu. Kepha ngaphambi kwalokhu kwehla kwakukhona izinkulungwane zamazwi nezizathu! Bobabili bakhathele, kepha bafihle ingcebo yabo. Kula manga futhi kube nephutha.
Kuyisiwula ukwenza sengathi sihlala sibathanda abalingani bethu, abahlala bakulungele ukubalalela nokusekelwa. Abantu bayizidalwa eziyinkimbinkimbi ezincike kuma-biorhythms, isimo somzimba, amaconsi e-hormonal ngisho namaqhude asekhanda. Ngeke sikwazi ukwelula isandla esiseduze sosizo, asihlali sifuna ukwaba amandla ethu, ukuze sizinikele ngaphandle kokulinganisela futhi sithathe labo abaseduze njengoba benjalo. Imvelo yethu ayizinzile, kuya ngama-oscillations wokuzethemba, ingcindezi yomphakathi kanye nemvelo yemvelo. Isikhathi sokuvuma ukuthi umuntu oyedwa athande umuntu oyedwa amahora angama-24 ngosuku kuze kube sekupheleni kwezinsuku zakhe - umsebenzi awunakwenzeka. Ngakho-ke akwenzeki. Le yi-Utopiya lapho sasiphoqa ukuthi sikholelwe inkolo nezinganekwane mayelana nothando "lwaphakade". "Akaze ahlukane, aphile ngenjabulo futhi emamatheka!" Maye, ngisho nohlelo oluhleleke kakhulu lungakhipha iphutha, ikakhulukazi uma uhlelo lwakha umuntu ophilayo amabili.
Lapho ubudlelwano bunikeza ukwehluleka
Ngakho-ke, omunye wabalingani wabamba ecabanga ukuthi ukukhathala ebuhlotsheni. Lokhu kukhathala kungavezwa ngezindlela ezihlukile - ukucasuka, isifiso sokuchitha ngempelasonto ekuqedeni, ukucela ukusondela okusondelene noma ukuxhumana. Kuliqiniso, ngamunye wethu unelungelo lemizwa yawo, evivinya kabi - ngokujwayelekile, kubalulekile ukubika kahle kule ngxenye, uthole isikhathi sokukhuluma ngemiphefumulo. Maye, 90% yabantu banamahloni kwabavukileyo futhi bayiqhubekisela ekujuleni kokubuza "kubi" kweqiniso lendoda ethandekayo. Kubukeka ngathi kungokoqobo ukukhuluma ngezifiso zabo, kulula kakhulu ukubekezelela, ngaphandle komdlandla, ukuphendula ukwanga. Futhi lapho kwake kwalala embhedeni ngaphandle kwesifiso, ngesinye isikhathi savala amehlo kuye "sifuna" - futhi okuthile ngaphakathi kuqhume, kunikeze umphumela ophambene. Esikhundleni sothando lwaphakade, kwakukhona kwalasha, okwathi ngemuva kwalokho ngokushesha kwaqala ukushiywa.
Ngenxa yokuthi sihlelwe kangangokuba ngeke siphile kuphela ngenxa yabanye, i-ego yethu ngeke sikuthethelele lokhu. Ngokuletha lesi simo ngokwedlulele, sisazozilalela wena, imizwa yethu nezidingo zethu. Kungakho ukuthula kuthula ubuthi obubhubhisa imindeni. Sahlupheka, sadonsa irabha, base bethi "yima", ngaphandle kokunikeza umlingani ukuba aqonde lokho akwenzile kuye? Uthando lubulawa amagama ahlaselayo, kepha ukungabikho kwazo okuphelele, ukufihlwa ngenhloso yeqiniso. Futhi uma wesaba ukuthi, utshelwe ngesimo sami, ubhubhise ubuhlobo bakho, sinezindaba ezimbi kuwe - uthando lapha futhi aluphunga.
Impilo yinto enzima, kunezikhathi zokuwohloka komnotho nokuphakama lapho kunesimo esimnandi ndawonye, futhi lapho kukhona okuthile okuphuka, futhi kufanele sikulungise. Uma uphule okuthile ngaphakathi - ungathuli, khuluma ngakho, kuphela ukuze ube nethuba lokusindisa ubudlelwano.
Uthando aluhlali lungenamafu, ngisho nemizwa eqotho futhi eqotho ingathola isigaba sokuqina. Akukho ukukhathala okuvela komunye nomunye futhi kungabi njalo ngokuxabana. Abantu bakhonzwa ngesehlukaniso, bagcwele izinkohliso ukuthi ungahlangana "nomuntu wakho" esizohlala silungile. Akunakungaqondi, ukugibela nsuku zonke, iponi elipinki kuphela ne-rainbow 24/7. Kepha akwenzeki. Sonke sikhathele futhi kwesinye isikhathi sifuna ukuphumula, isikhathi sakho nomphefumulo wakho. Lokhu kujwayelekile.