Ukwethembana kuyisimo esibalulekile sokwakha ubudlelwano obuqinile obuvumelanayo. Kungokwemvelo ukuphatha ukungathembani kwabantu abangajwayelekile futhi bayeke ukwethemba labo abavele bakhashele. Kodwa-ke, ubudlelwano obusha nendoda, kubaluleke kakhulu ukumnika ukwethenjwa kusengaphambili, ngaphandle kwalokho akukho lutho oluhle oluzophuma kulokhu.
Ngabe insikazi ingathemba kanjani
Inketho evame kakhulu yokungathembeki kwabesifazane maqondana nabesilisa ivezwa ku: "Onke amadoda ... - Akunakwenzeka ukubathemba.", "Bonke abantu bashintsha.", "Bonke abantu bashintsha." njll. Futhi ingozi yokucabanga okunjalo ukuthi sebejwayelane nomuntu obucayi ngempela ozokhombisa uthando nokunakekela, owesifazane uzobheka ukubanjwa kuwo, enzeni ngasinye esikhundleni sakhe azobheka isicupho futhi i-fluffy, bese ... " Amanye amantombazane esaba kakhulu ukubhejiswa futhi wesaba ukukhohliswa ukuthi azama ukubona konke okukhethwa kukho konke okungekho emthethweni ngaphambi kwesikhathi nokwenza umuntu amasheke amaningi ngokukhohlisa.Ngendlela, enye indlela yokungathembani iyazibonakalisa ekwelashweni okunjalo, ukuze kungamukeli usizo kumuntu. Ngize ngishade nokwazi abesifazane abamangazayo bezama ukwenza konke ngokwakho, ungaceli usizo kothandekayo wakho. Baqala ukulawula okugcwele koshade naye, bangamvumeli ukuba enze izinqumo ezizimele, bahlale njalo futhi banikeze imiyalo ecacile ukuthi iyini futhi ingenza kanjani.
Amadoda aziphatha kanjani abangamethembi
Indoda enamandla, eyanele, eyanele, enomuntu ozihloniphayo ngeke iqhubeke nobudlelwano nowesifazane uma engamethembi. Udinga insimu yokuxhashazwa, futhi ngoba lokhu kudinga ukholo nokunconywa kwabesifazane. Ukubona ukuthi esimweni esithile, ngeke bakuthole - bahlukana nentokazi, nokuthi, uma kungenjalo ngokumangazayo, kuphinde kuqinisekise "ngakwesokunene sabo."
Umcimbi ojwayelekile emindenini, lapho indoda ikhetha ukuhlwanyelwa embhedeni, iphuze ubhiya nabangane, futhi umfazi wenza konke okunye - futhi imali iyakhula, futhi izingane zikhula, zibheka ipulazi. Ngokufanayo, amadoda aziphatha ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuzethemba. Akazizwa amandla akhe, ucabanga ukuthi ubuthakathaka - phela, lokhu kuyamfaka umfazi ngezenzo zakhe. Kuliqiniso, ukuqiniseka okuvame ukuphepha emabuthweni lawo lawo madoda kugonywa ebuntwaneni abalawulayo omama.
Ngabe ukubiza kuvelaphi
Kukuphi ukungathembeki kwabesifazane kwengxenye eqinile yesintu kuvela? Kungaba nezinkinga eziningana zemvelaphi yenkinga. Imvamisa, lesi isigaba sabesifazane abakhaphela amadoda asevele ehlehliswe futhi bangafuni ngokwabo ithuba elifanayo. AKUKHO MANJE kunezimo lapho kunezimo lapho amantombazane ekhula emindenini, lapho ayengekho ubudlelwane nobuntu nobaba, umalume kanye nabangane. Ngemuva kwakho konke, wonke umuntu ufunda ukuzethemba ebuntwaneni - ngaphandle kokuthola amakhono athile ekuqaleni, ukukhomba inkinga futhi athuthukise amandla okuthembela ekuguleni sekuvele kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.Uma intombazane ikhula nhlobo ngaphandle kobaba futhi yayingenaso isibonelo esihle sendoda ephambi kwamehlo akhe - ikhulisa ubungozi bokuthi, waba mdala, wayengeke athembele. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ekuqaleni kungumbono wokuthi akunakwenzeka ukuncika kumuntu - angavele aphunyuke. Ukuziphatha kukamama kwamukelwa, okuthi emehlweni entombazane aqine, azenele futhi angabhekana nezinkinga futhi ngaphandle kwendoda. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu kumantombazane amancane ukukhombisa isibonelo esifanele ukuze ngokuzayo babengenazinkinga empilweni yomuntu siqu.
Ungakukhokha kanjani konke ukungabaza futhi uthembele kumuntu
Le yi-Paradox ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuthi lona wesifazane wenza umuntu azethembise, kufanele athole. Kepha ngakolunye uhlangothi, njengoba ukuzijwayeza, abesifazane abamangazayo baheha amadoda anjalo akwazi ukuqonda - ukuvukela umbuso, inkohliso, ukukhaphela. Ngenxa yokuphinda njalo isipiliyoni esidabukisayo, isimo siba sibi kakhulu - esikhundleni sokuqala ukubhekana naye, amantombazane aqala ukukhombisa ubudlova obuningi nokungathembi kwabesilisa - umbuthano ononya uyaqala.
Ukuyiphula, okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuziqonda ukuthi umhlaba ugcwele amadoda ahlukahlukene - amahle futhi amabi, awunandaba futhi akayona. Ngakho-ke, ukube amaqhawe amabi kuphela athola endleleni yakho, zibheke ohlangothini, ukuthi ucabanga futhi uhlole kanjani ukhetho. Mhlawumbe kulesi sigaba sizodinga usizo lwesazi sezengqondo, esizovumela ukugaya izinkinga zangaphakathi futhi zishintshe indlela yokucabanga.
Abesifazane abangazi ukuthi bathembele kanjani amadoda ahlukunyezwa ekuzihlosweni kwakhe kwenziwa ngezinto zangaphandle. Ngakho-ke, kuzosiza kakhulu ukubona inani lazo, elingahambi ndawo ngisho nangemva kokukhohlisa nokukhashelwa kwabesilisa. Uma owesifazane ehlonipha yena, ethanda futhi uyakwazisa, uyazithemba, nakanjani uzobe ukwethenjwa nakwabanye. Udinga ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungahlala kanjani lapha futhi manje, hhayi ukwakhiwa kwezinhlelo ze-ghostly ku-akhawunti yozakwethu ngokuzayo - ukuhlola indoda ngezenzo zakhe nangezenzo zakhe, kunikeze ithuba lokuzethemba kusenesikhathi.