Izintandokazi, ezinhle, ezincane - kanjani ezivela ku-chain zawa, futhi kubonakala sengathi kungenzeka ukuthi zikulethe okungenani ama-herterics? .. sikuqonda kanjani!
Ngokwezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi izinkinga eziseduzane azizona izinkinga ezinjalo, futhi ngokujwayelekile lezo okufanele zisolwe. Ngenkathi ungasona ubhekane ... kanjalo Sean Grover I-Psychotherapist eneminyaka yamashumi amabili yesipiliyoni, yake yabona ukuthi, ekhethekile enjalo ekhethekile, ayikwazanga ukubhekana nokuziphatha okubi kwendodakazi yakhe uqobo. Kwakufanele agcwalise inqwaba yezigaxa ngaphambi kokuba konke kwenziwe ngcono. Ngenxa yalokho, uSean wabhala incwadi "Ingane yami ingamashiqela! Ungabuya kanjani ukuqondana kanye nokuthula emndenini lapho izingane zingalaleli futhi zikudele " . Ekuhunyusheni kwaseRussia, wafika kumshicileli "I-Alpina Publisher" Ngakho-ke manje wonke umzali angabona ukuthi kusibuko, ngezinhlobo ezahlukene zomndeni "amafilimu asabekayo" - futhi aqonde ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nazo.
Konje! thina Ukuhlela ikhophi elilodwa lale ncwadi Kumazwana esihlokweni sethu! Ukubamba iqhaza, udinga ukwenza ukubuyekeza okuvulekile kunoma iyiphi inethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu futhi usiphonse isixhumanisi, Lapha kumazwana . Owinile uzokhetha ngokungahleliwe futhi amemezele ngoMashi 3, 2016!
Iqembu labazali abahluphekayo
Ukhokho okhathele awedwa emhlabeni: Amalungu ekilabhu ehlushwa abazali azibonge ngaso leso sikhathi esixukwini futhi angena ngokushesha ngozwela oluqotho komunye nomunye. Futhi iningi lazo selivele likwazi ukuqonda: isikhathi 'esidala esineminyaka emibili' siyohluleka ukulinda. Indiza kahle ngesikhathi sezikhathi ze- "School School", "osemusha omubi" ... njalonjalo, ukuze infinity.Esimweni, ungathola ubuhle bethu kanye nenduduzo yethu. Uma ingane ingumfana ophelele ongeyona inxabano nengelosi, empilweni yabantu abadala kuyodingeka ukuthi iqine ngokuphelele - ngenxa yokuntuleka kwemali yokuzethemba nokungakwazi ukuzibonela njengomuntu. Futhi nokho, uma ufuna okungenani ukucasha kusuka ku-chad yakho - lokhu akuyona into evamile. Ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane ezihlotsheni kuwuphawu olufanele lokunganampilo emndenini.
Endaweni ngisho nalutho okwenzekayo. USean uthatha izimo eziyisikhombisa zezinkinga ezisebenza ngokuqinile izihlakala zezingane (izifo, ukulimala ngokomzwelo, isehlukaniso, ukutholwa, ubunzima bezezimali, izinkinga esifundweni, ekufeni) kanye nezinkulumo ngakunye kwazo. Yize kunjalo, njengawo wonke udokotela wezengqondo ohlakaniphile, okuwukuphela kwepilisi ye-Pill-Panacea akukhuthazeleli.
Angikwazi ukukunikeza izeluleko ezinaka ubuntu bakho. Ngeke ngibeke izisombululo zendawo yonke. Uhlu lwezinyathelo ezingafuneki nezilusizo zisiza ukugcina inkambo oyifunayo, kepha kuyaqabukela kukhona okuqeda amandla. Indlela ephumelela kunazo zonke yokuthola ushintsho ekuziphatheni kwengane ayikhohlisiwe, hhayi ukulawula hhayi ukubusa. Kuhle ukuqala ngokubheka ngokucophelela esibukweni. Qala kuwe.
Uthisha, uzibe wena
Ebhizinisini, uma izinto zimbi, kuyisiko ukufuna imbangela ezenzweni zabaphathi abaphezulu. Ngomzali - le ndaba efanayo, kusho uSean.
Le nkinga yayisakhelwa ngokwami ekuziphatheni kwayo. Esikhundleni sokusiza indodakazi yakhe ibhekane nemizwa yazo kanye nokufikelwa kwazo, ngisanda kusola futhi ngifuna ukulilawula. Okubi kakhulu, ngamphendula ukuzama ukungiphamba lokuthi angiphendulanga kuye ukuphendula. Lapho ehlanganyela, ngaziphatha ngisho nokungahlukaniswa. Esikhundleni sokuqonda, ngamcindezela ukuthi kuphela owakhuthaza intombazane kuphela ukuba zivikele futhi ingabekezeleleki.Ngemuva kochungechunge lokuhlolwa okuyinkimbinkimbi kuDad Psychologist, isambulo ekugcineni senziwa. Esikhundleni salokho, ezinye ezintathu:
munye. Uma ngifuna ukuba aphathe ngendlela ehlukile, ngalandela ukuqala ukuguqula isithombe sakho sesenzo.
2. Kufanele ngibhekane nokwesaba nokungaqiniseki kwami okuthinta umcebo wami wokuxhumana nendodakazi yami futhi ngivuse izimbotshana namahlazo.
3. Into esemqoka okufanele ngiyenze ukuze ngishintshe ubudlelwano nengane futhi ngiyeke ukwethuka, - Funda ukulawula kangcono imizwa yakho nezisusa zakho.
Imithwalo yezomzwelo engazi futhi engazi lutho yesikhathi esedlule - izinkinga zokuzethemba, ukucasuka, ihlazo, ukwesaba nokukhathazeka, ukungathandi kokusondelana - konke lokhu kwakha izithiyo phakathi kwakho nengane yakho. Zama ukuyiguqula, ngaphandle kokumbona endulo yethu, kufana nokuzama ukushintsha ukwakheka kwesithunzi odongeni, hhayi into ethinta inhliziyo elikhipha kude.
Ungakwenzi kanjani?
Izinqubo ezingezinhle zokuvikelwa okungasebenzi ngokuqinisekile - izaba, ukumangalelwa kanye nokuphika. Kodwa-ke, ukusabela kwabazali kwakudala - ukuvumelanisa, isijeziso kanye nezingxoxo - futhi akusebenzi. Uma ubheka umphumela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Noma nini, enikela ngaphansi kokuhlaselwa kwezidingo zezingane, ukusakaza umyalezo olula: Ulaka lusebenza. Ngakho-ke ngokuzayo lapho izicelo zakho ngeke zithande ingane, izophinda iphendukele endleleni efanayo ukufeza lokho. Ekugcineni, thina ngokwethu samnika ukuba aqonde ukuthi uma ucindezela njengoba kufanele, uyanikela.
Izingxoxo nazo zingasebenza.
Ngokuqondene nesijeziso, imiphumela yakhe ejwayelekile idabukisa: Umntwana wenqaba ukulalela noma obala, noma ngesimo sokuhlanza ukuthula; noma ukudonsela ukucasuka kwayo ngokwawo futhi kufakwe izimbotshana ezindabeni ezicindezelayo; Noma ukuhlasela abazali ngokweqile.
Ungazisiza kanjani
Izinketho ngezibonelo nokunikezwa okukhethekile okuvela kuSean - uhhafu omuhle wencwadi. Kungenzeka kuphela kwabanye.
munye. Ithuluzi elibonakala liyinkimbinkimbi, kepha empeleni liwusizo kakhulu - Gcina idayari . Kuyasiza ukunqoba umkhuba omubi kangaka futhi uphendule kakhulu ekuziphatheni okungabekezeleleki kwezingane. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - Khumbula ubuntwana bakho.
Yebo, ukuqonda ubuhlobo nengane kuzodingeka bamba ebuhlotsheni bakho noMama nobaba . Ngemuva kwakho konke, yini abazali abavame ukuvela kaningi ukuba babe yizisulu ze-chad yabo? Labo ababengu-tyrann ebuntwaneni; Labo abahlala benganakwa; Labo abalethe ama-daffodils. Ngemuva kwalokho samukela lezi zitayela zemfundo uqobo. Futhi noma ngabe nihamba ngokwethu: "Ngeke ngibe njengomama wami!" Futhi uzama ukukwenza konke okuphambene nalokho - ngemuva kwakho konke, i-antiscarial futhi ibukeka nesimo, futhi kungukuncika kwesikhathi esedlule futhi kuholela ezingcemeni ...
Akunakwenzeka ukuqwashisa ukuthi ukuthonya okuhlangenwe nakho kwezingane okusiza, ikakhulukazi ekwakheni ubudlelwano nengane yakho. Ngabe ukhetha ini - Kopisha ngokuziphatha kwabazali bakho noma uhlala wenze konke okuphambene - noma usathola indlela yakho?
2. Indlela engcono yokuqeda ulaka lwengane - Zibonakalise ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani kahle . Imvamisa kakhulu abantu abadala esihlazweni esishisayo bakhohlwa ukuthi kufanele bakhonzele isampula ezinganeni. Kwenzeka ukuthi:
- Ukulindela inhlonipho, abazali bayamdelela ingane;
- Bafuna izingane zibalalele, kodwa bona uqobo abanandaba nengane ethi;
- Bafuna ukuthi ingane iyeke ukubakhisa, kepha ngokwabo bayibeka ngokuqhubekayo.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kokusebenza kukho, awukwazi ukukwenza ngaphandle ... kuphi insiza ukuyithatha ?!
3. USean uyasibuza, ehlushwa abazali, ukunakekelwa okungcono ... ngawe . Ukuze ubhekane nolaka lwezingane, udinga amandla. Ungayiyisa kumzali ovuthayo. Akanawo amandla kunoma yini. Futhi bayakudinga.
Ukungashisi, akudingeki ukhohlwe:
- Thola isikhathi sakho;
- Hambisa;
- Yenza noma yikuphi ubuqambi;
- Phuma endlini.
Ubuqambi ngokwemvelo busisusa ekucindezelekeni. Kuyasiza ukubhekana nama-alamu, kuphakamisa imizwa futhi kunikeza ukuphumula enkambweni yomndeni yansuku zonke. Amakilasi wobuciko azokunikeza amandla angezekile, ngakho-ke kudingekile ukuze udlulise i-tyrana yakho yasekhaya ebonakalayo.
Ngakho-ke akuyona iseluleko esingenamsebenzi emndenini, lapho ungenalo nezeluleko ezingenamsebenzi! USean unikeza izibonelo ezikhanyayo njengoba zisebenza ngempela.
Ungasiza kanjani ingane
Amaqhinga: "Ukuphepha" ngokuqondile ngenhlamba ngomzuzu.- Thatha ikhefu ukugibela, buthana nemicabango futhi ubuyisele ibhalansi.
- Khombisa ingane yakho ukuthi uyithatha imizwa.
- Yinikeze ukuqonda ukuthi amahlazo nezidingo akuyona indlela yokuthola okufisayo.
- Ekuxhumaneni, dumisa ingane, uma kungenzeka ukuthi uziphathe kahle.
Isu: Ungayiqinisekisa kanjani ukuthuthukiswa kwezingane zenhlalo nezemizwa?
munye. Setha kabusha ukungezwani. 2. Ngcono ukuzethemba. 3. Faka imodi, ukunqatshelwa kanye nemingcele. ezine. Thola okubangela ukunconywa nguthisha, umeluleki, oyisibonelo. ezinhlanu. Yenza Ukuxilongwa Kwabaqeqeshi.
Onke ama-ntsha ekhaya lasekhaya ahlushwa ukunganele ngokwabo. Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukusiza ingane ukuba ibone amathalente, amakhono kanye nezifiso futhi ibathuthukise. Ingane iyadingeka kusuka emithonjeni emithathu kuya kwemihlanu yokuzithemba okuphezulu - kungaba noma yiluphi uhlobo lwemisebenzi, amakhono noma izinto zokuzilibazisa ezizonikeza umfana noma intombazane ithuba lokuziqhenya ngabo.
Shayela ukusiza!
Encwadini, izindaba eziningi ezibalulekile, "ukundiza kwendiza okungekho", izinketho zokuziphatha. Konke ngeke kuphinde kuphindeke. Kepha uqedele ukubuyekezwa okusheshayo kwencwadi ewusizo ngesinye, izeluleko ezibaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuthatha isinqumo sokumisa ukuziphatha okunolaka kwendodakazi noma indodana, zama noma yiziphi izindleko ukuze uhlale uyodwa onenkinga yakho. Isaga sase-Afrika sithi: "Ukukhulisa ingane, kudingeka imizamo yomuzi wonke."
Ngakho-ke umzali womhlaseli omncane ubaluleke kakhulu ukucela usizo nokusekelwa kwezihlobo, zama ukuthola ama-comrade phakathi kothisha - futhi, ekugcineni, ungabi namahloni okufuna usizo lochwepheshe.
Ubambelela, uhlushwa umzali! Ngemuva kwakho konke, awuwedwa. Unama-comrades, abangane, izincwadi ezihlakaniphile - nobuhlakani bakho uqobo. Sikholwa kuwe!