Ngodokotela wezengqondo waseBelarusian uPavel Zygmantovich, ochwepheshe embuzweni wobudlelwano ngababili, umfundi wathumela indlela ethokozisayo esiza ukuthatha ukubukeka okusha kwegebe ngesithandwa sakhe. Isazi sezengqondo sabelana nabo ngabafundi.
Ukwephulwa kobudlelwano nomuntu othandekayo wakho akusona isimo esimnandi kunazo zonke empilweni. Makuyeke ngisho le ndoda yayekile ukuthandwa, kepha inkumbulo ayiyi noma kuphi - inkumbulo yalezo zinsuku lapho le ndoda isesithandwa sayo.
Abantu babhekene nokuhlukana ngezindlela ezihlukile. Kuya ngabantu, nangokuhlukanisa ngokwayo. Uma ukwahlukana bekunde futhi, empeleni, kwenzeke ngaphambi kwekhefu langempela, khona-ke kuyayikhathaza kalula. Kwesinye isikhathi ngisho nokukhululeka kubonakala - bathi, ekugcineni bahlukana.
Uma ukwahlukana bekungazelelwe ("Sasinakho konke kahle nalapha - r - kanye! Futhi sahlukana"), khona-ke kuzobe kulimaza futhi kulimaza kuzoba nzima. Ngemuva kwakho konke, igebe kungenzeka hhayi ngephutha lakho.
Futhi ikakhulukazi izinhlungu zizoqina uma uhlala ekukhohliseni futhi ucabanga ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle kuwe.
Omunye umfundi wami wahlanganyela nami inqubo yami, eyamsiza ngokushesha ngokushesha asinde ngekhefu nesithandwa sayo.
Angilethi incwadi, kodwa umane ubeke amazwi ami.
Umqondo wezobuchwepheshe ulula - ukubheka ubudlelwano ngokubukeka okuxakile, ngaphandle kokukhohlisa nemicabango kwi-akhawunti yomunye umuntu.
Kulokhu, iphepha nepeni kuthatha. Ishidi lihlukaniswe ngamakholomu amabili. Futhi cha, lezi akuzona izinzuzo nokubi komuntu, akunakwenzeka. Okokuqala, ngothando olukhulu, izinto ezingezinhle azibonakali njalo. Okwesibili, ukube ubunobuntu ebudlelwaneni, mhlawumbe lezi zimizuzu zazibekezelela kakhulu, ungazithwalela
Uhlu ludinga ukwehluka. Kwikholamu eyodwa (makube yikholamu yesobunxele) uqopha izinto ezazikhona ebudlelwaneni bakho, imicimbi kanye nezimo. Futhi kukholamu yesibili - ukukhohlisa kwakho, imicabango, amathemba ngekusasa nakho konke okusemoyeni ofanayo.
Isibonelo, kwikholamu yokuqala Ubhala: "Ngabona kabili ngesonto amahora amathathu, ngangibizwa nsuku zonke kungabi ngaphezu kwezikhathi ezimbili, ucingo lwami lwaluhlala ngiqala."
Futhi embhalweni wesibili onjalo: "Kwabonakala sengathi sinobudlelwano obuqinile, futhi umuntu unesithakazelo kimi."
Kwikholamu yokuqala babhala: "Sabuka futhi saxoxa ngama-movie sindawonye." Futhi ngakwesokunene: "Kwabonakala sengathi ngangilalele futhi ngasekelwa" (zonke izinketho zami, hhayi abafundi).
Ngiphawula ukuthi asikho isidingo sokumelana namakholamu okuqala neyesibili. Akudingeki ukuthi baxhunywe. Isibonelo, kwikholamu yesibili, ungabhala okuthile ngethemba lezingane ezihlangene, yize engqikithini yokuqala yezingane ngeke zivele nhlobo.
Lapho ubhala, khumbula iphuzu eliyindida - ijusi alikho ngisho kwikholamu lesibili. Ngokusho komfundi wami, into ebaluleke kakhulu eyayikwelinye.
Ngenxa yalolu hlu, wabona ukuthi akazange akhathazeke ngalawo maphuzu abhalwe kukholamu yokuqala. Kwavela ukuthi kunamathele kakhudlwana kulahlekelwe yizikhonkwane, alahlekelwe amathemba ngekusasa.
Futhi lapha ukucaciswa kweza lapha - ngoba uma ikholamu lesibili lagcwala izinkohliso, khona-ke akukho okuzokhathazeka ngakho. Konke okufanayo ebudlelwaneni obuphelile, akukho lutho oluvela kwikholamu lesibili kwakungekho. Ngakho-ke, akukho lutho olulahlekile - ekugcineni, lezi zinkohliso zingadliwa futhi zingabi nabudlelwano. Lezi yizinkohliso.
Lokhu kudale ukukhululeka okusheshayo - kuyasiza ukukhumbula ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukulahlekelwa iqiniso lokuthi awunalo.
Ngivela kimi ukuthi kuzongeza ukuthi kunzima ukubhala ikholamu yesibili, ngoba udinga ukubheka ubudlelwano bokuphela obunonke. Kungenzeka ukuthi omunye umuntu ngeke akwazi ukuhlukanisa okungokoqobo kanye nokukhohlisa kwawo.
Mhlawumbe ngeke ulingane nale ndlela - futhi lokhu kujwayelekile. Ngayibelana kuphela njengenye yezinketho ezisebenzela umuntu oyedwa ngokunembile futhi zingasebenza kokuningi.
Ezinye izindlela zokubhekana nobuhlungu bokuhlukanisa kusuka kuPavel Zygmantovich - esihlokweni sokuqala
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