I-Palist Pezersologist Pavel Zygmantovich ngalokho okuvimbela umuntu ukuba abe ubaba omuhle ezinganeni zakhe nokuthi yiziphi izinyathelo angenza ukuba abe ubaba omuhle ukuze abe ubaba omuhle.
Yini okudingeka ube ngubaba omuhle? Okokuqala, kunjalo, isifiso.
Kepha ngesifiso samadoda amaningi, maye, asibekiwe. Okufanayo nalokhu ukufakwa okuthile (kukhona izinkolelo, ziyizibonelo ezifanayo, zingamacebo wokuqonda).
Njengazo zonke izinhlobo zokufakwa, lezi zithinta kakhulu ukuziphatha. Futhi zithinta, ngeshwa, hhayi indlela engcono kakhulu.
Izicupho Ezibulalayo
Umphenyi waseRussia u-Abramova G. S. uveze izingcezu eziyishumi zezitshalo ezinjalo abize ngazo "izicupho zonyoko."
eyodwa) "Babambe umgomo olula" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuthi ukuba ngubaba kulula kakhulu - udinga nje ukondla nokugqoka ingane.
2) "Ukuhamba kobunikazi obulindelekile" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuthi ingane kufanele imhloniphe eqinisweni; Ngasikhathi sinye akukho ukuqonda ukuthi inhlonipho yemntwana ivela ngenxa yokuziphatha kukaYise.
3) "Isicupho Esijwayelekile" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuhambisana namanye amazinga, ukuba yinto ejwayelekile ngakho-ke ayikuthathi ubunyene bezingane zabo.
ezine) "Bopha ukulunga kwamandla" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuthi impikiswano eyinhloko engxoxweni ingamandla noma ukubonakaliswa kwamandla. Esikhundleni sezingxoxo - esatshiswa.
ezinhlanu) "Ubudala be-Trap" - Indoda igxile eminyakeni yobudala engokomzimba njengendlela yokuthuthuka ("Ngisemncane, ngifuna ukuhamba," akazwisisi lutho, makabe naye ");
6) "Isicupho sezipho" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuthi izipho ingane iyindlela engcono kakhulu yokubonisa uthando lwakho; Ngemuva kokuvula ibanga lesipho enganeni.
7) "Isicupho Sokuthenga" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuthi umndeni uyadingeka ukudala indawo entofontofo; Akacabangi imizwa nezifiso zamanye amalungu omndeni.
eziyisishiyagalombili) "Ukuphakama Okuphakeme Kokuphakama" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuthi umsebenzi obalulekile ungaxazululwa noma uphoqe ("kowesilisa") noma nganoma iyiphi indlela. Izinketho, ngokwesibonelo, ukuxoxisana akwamukelwa (ngoba zithi "Owesifazane").
eziyisishiyagalolunye) "Ugibe inani lezenhlalo phansi" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuthi muhle kuphela ngoba uyindoda, ngakho-ke awudingi ukusebenzisa eminye imizamo.
10) "Ugibe lomhawu wezingane" - Umuntu ukholelwa ukuthi konke ukunaka komkakhe kufanele kwenziwe kuye, hhayi ezinganeni.
Ungayinqoba kanjani izicupho
Njengezinye izinkolelo, lezi zinkolelo zingalungiswa - ngemuva kwakho konke, ziyinkolelo nje, okungukuthi, eminye imibono engahlangani futhi / noma ingashintshiwe. Lapho befika, bazohamba.
Kumele kuqashelwe lapha ukuthi ushintsho olusenkolweni luyinto enzima. Kunzima, kepha ngiyabonga.
Ukuchaza ukuthi izinkolelo ziguquka kanjani, udinga ukubhala yonke incwadi, ngakho-ke icindezelwe kakhulu.
Okokuqala, kudingeka ufunde ukucabanga kahle. I-Sober - lokhu kusho ukungenelela okuncane kokuhlanekezela kwengqondo okuhlukahlukene. Okokuqala, ngincoma ukuzijwayeza ngenkulumo yami yokuma "i-Psychology of Infortune," lapho ngichaza khona ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi imicabango yethu isenza singajabuli nokuthi kanjani ukucabanga kwakho. Chofoza lapha.
Okwesibili, kuyadingeka ukusebenzisa okufundwe. Isibonelo, cabanga futhi ubone ukuthi unkosikazi, ovela emsebenzini ngehora kamuva, akaphoqelekile ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa nakancane; Kungaba ngcono ukupheka isidlo sazodwa - futhi ngeke uhlale emhlanganweni, futhi impilo yakho izokwenza impilo ibe lula. Kuyadingeka ukucabanga nsuku zonke futhi ubheke umhlaba ngaphandle kokuhlanekezela ama-lens (ngangokunokwenzeka,).
Okungenani khumbula - Izilinganiso zethu azihlali zibonisa kahle iqiniso, kaningi kakhulu siphutha kakhulu futhi ngaleyo ndlela ekhuluma ngokuphila kwakho.
Baba Omuhle
Yebo, ngamafuphi ngezincwadi zobaba abalungile. Ubaba omuhle ufuna ukufeza imisebenzi yakhe yabazali ngokugcwele ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukhathalela inhlala-kahle yengane kuzo zonke izindawo - kanye nemvelo (okuphakelayo, ukugeza), nemizwelo (ebekiwe, ukwanga), nokuziphatha (ukufundisa, ukusheshisa, ukuphendula yonke imibuzo, kufaka phakathi Kunzima kakhulu), nokunye okuqhubekayo.
Akekho ongaba ubaba ofanele - akunakwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, awudingi ukuzwa imizwa yokuba necala ngokungabi naluya naye. Kungcono ukwenza okuthile okuwusizo futhi / noma ukuthokoza.
Ubaba omuhle akalungile. Uvele wenza okungakwenza, futhi okuthe xaxa. Lokhu kwanele ukuyibiza kahle. Ayiphelele, cha. Vele - okuhle.
Futhi nginakho konke, ngiyabonga ngokunaka kwakho.
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