I-Article Pavel Zygmantovich ebudloveni bomndeni ibhekene nalolo hlobo luhlobo lukusasa kulabo abenza lobu budlova. Umuntu angafunda ukungashayi abathandekayo bakhe. Zizwe amandla omlingo wokuvinjelwa kwengqondo!
Angikaze ngibhale ngokuvamile ngodlame lwasekhaya, yize kufanele ngibhekane nalokho okufanele ngikufihle. Muva nje wabhekana futhi futhi wanquma ukutshela imininingwane ethile ngalesi sihloko. Okokuqala - ama-contourt ajwayelekile.Uhlelo oluphelele
Ake siqale ngeqiniso lokuthi udlame lwasekhaya alugcini ngokomzimba kuphela. Ezomnotho, kanye nocansi, kanye nengqondo nazo zihlukaniswa. Ngamafuphi, akunandaba ukuthi kwenzekani udlame ngalesi sikhathi. Kubalulekile ukuthi udlame lubhubhise imvelo enempilo futhi ephephile, futhi ebaluleke kakhulu emshadweni nasebudlelwaneni. Ngakho-ke, udlame alwamukeleki.
Ngeshwa, abesilisa nabesifazane bathanda ubudlova (ngokomzimba). Kuliqiniso, kuyathandwa ngokungalingani - abesifazane benza izenzo ezinolaka ngokwengeziwe, kepha amadoda alimala ngokwengeziwe, kuyilapho ingxenye ehloniphekile yokulimala kwabesifazane isetshenziswa emadodeni kungumphumela wokuzivikela. Futhi lokhu kungumbala we-polbie kuphela. Okubi kakhulu kukho konke lokhu yilokho - udlame ezinganeni lusebenza kaningi kunamadoda nabesifazane, maye. Ngamanye amagama, udlame emindenini lugcwele ngokuphelele, futhi udlame lwasekhaya lubanzi kakhulu kunokushaywa kwabesifazane nabantu. Ngokuningiliziwe ngalokhu - enothi "mayelana nodlame lwasekhaya" nasencwadini ethi "Anthropology of Paul", M. I-NevovSkaya (izinto ezisetshenziswayo e-United States, ngeshwa) . Le yimikhuba emikhulu.
Masiphenduke imininingwane. Kungani kwenzeka udlame? Uma ungazivikeli, khona-ke ukuphela kwesizathu sodlame umuzwa wokungabikho. Kuliqiniso, kwesinye isikhathi lo muzwa ungcwatshwe ngokujulile. Kunezimo lapho kwenzeka udlame, ekuqaleni nje ngomkhuba. Uhlobo, luphuzile, shaya umkakhe. Kepha uma sibheka lokho esizokubona ukuthi ngisho nakulesi sigameko ukusoleka kungemuva kokushaywa. Le ndoda ayibonanga okunye ukuphuma, ngakho-ke ngishaye (lokhu, ngendlela, akuthetheleli muntu).
Okuhle kakhulu, ukuthi lo muzwa wokungabi namandla ungavuswa ngumcabango owodwa wendoda, hhayi izenzo ezithile zowesifazane. Izenzo zisengakwazi ukubheka ngandlela thile, kepha imicabango yomdlwenguli ifihlwe yi-Dotmet, ngakho-ke ngeke kusebenze noma yini ukubikezela.
Ngokufanayo nabesifazane. Kungani owesifazane evumela yena, athi, ugebhezi? Ngoba angeke ngenye indlela yokudlulisela imicabango yomuntu. Futhi iphuzu alikho ngokweqile kwemizwa - kusezweni lokungabi namandla.
Ngokufanayo phakathi kwabazali. Lapho bengakwazi ukuthola indlela edingekayo evela enganeni, bazizwa bengenamandla. Futhi ngakho-ke bathukuthele bashaya ingane. Ngamafuphi, kwakhiwa ngakho-ke "angikutholi kuwe engikufunayo, okuhle, ngakho ngaphendukela engxabanweni yokugcina - udlame." Vele, lo mcabango awukaze ukhulume ngokuzwakalayo noma kuye. Kepha uhola umdlwenguli yena.
Ingabe ohlukunyeziwe unecala?
Lesi yisihloko esikhulu futhi ikakhulukazi ngenxa yamagama. Sikhuluma ngephutha emacaleni ahlukene avame ukwehluka ngokuyisisekelo phakathi kwawo. Kepha bonke bavala igama elithi "amawayini". Isibonelo, uma umuntu enze budedengu, ngenxa yalokho othile ashonile, khona-ke "ukuzosolwa." Futhi uma sikhuluma ngengxabano, ngasizathu simbe futhi siveze leli gama. Ithi, bobabili kufanele basolwe.
Ngempela, bobabili (uma izingxabano zezwe) zibamba iqhaza ezingxabanweni zombili futhi zombili lezi zingxabano zidalile. Kepha lapha ezandleni ezibhaliwe, Lowo owenze umuntu owenzeke (ukuzivikela) kufanele asolwe. Ngigcizelela: Umuntu oyedwa kuphela okufanele asolwe ngodlame - lowo owenza udlame. Isisulu, okungukuthi, umuntu othinte ubudlova ngokuqinisekile ubhekele ukudala ukungqubuzana. Kepha enomthwalo wemfanelo, okokuqala, uhhafu kuphela, okwesibili, abunecala lodlame. Umdlwenguli kuphela okufanele asolwe ngodlame.
Lapha kuvame ukukhulisa isihloko sentuthuko. Imvamisa yenza amadoda. Bathi, kwangidabukisa, futhi mina uqobo ngimhlophe futhi ngiphuze. Maye, kudumazeke. Akunasizathu sodlame lwasekhaya. Noma ngabe uhlobo lowesifazane emlonyeni wokuxabana no-squirrel Grin utshele indoda ukuthi wayenelungu elingaphansi komakhelwane bakhe kubo bonke omakhelwane bakhe, lesi akusona isizathu sokusakaza izandla zakhe. Lesi sizathu sokuhlukanisa, mhlawumbe (kahle, ukucabanga ngokuzayo, yini yokuqhuma), kodwa hhayi ukushaya. Shaya - akunakwenzeka.
Ngendlela, kancane ohlangothini. Abadlwenguli bavame ukusola izisulu, bathi, "Ungicasule / wangicasula." Khumbula: Ukumangalelwa okunjalo kukhombisa ngokushesha - akukho okuzobamba lapha. Lapha ungahamba kuphela.
Okufanele ngikwenze?
Ngakho-ke, udlame lwasekhaya lubi (ikakhulukazi ngokomzimba). Yini engenziwa ukuze ungabi (kuzinga elilula, elisekhaya, hhayi ngaphakathi kombuso)? Eminye imikhiqizo.
munye. Ungazizwa ungenamandla . Hhayi ngomqondo - ukuze ungazwelani / ungazwakali, futhi ngomqondo wekhono elandayo lokuxhumana, funda ukuxoxisana, ukuxoxisana nokunye.
2. Uma unengozi yodlame phuma uthintana . Lokhu kusebenza kubo bonke ababambiqhaza bezingxabano, kepha ikakhulukazi labo abathambekele ebudloveni. Unomuzwa wokuthi uzoshaya manje (futhi akunandaba, unkosikazi, umyeni noma ingane), manje akukho mandla wokubamba - hamba. Khetha kusuka efulethini, udlula emgwaqweni, ephuma. Futhi wena, nabanye bayoba ngcono.
3. Hhayi ukwehlisa udlame kumabhuleki . Uma uhlushwa ubudlova, ungathuli. Shayela amaphoyisa, ukhumule ukushaywa. Njengombukiso wokuzijwayeza, abanye abalingiswa abanobudlova. I-Afterth yezinsuku eziyishumi nanhlanu iphatha kahle kakhulu (futhi uma kungenjalo iqiniso lemininingwane yamaphoyisa lingonaphakade ubuchopho obuhlala bukhona). Uma udlame luqhubeka nezinselelo zamaphoyisa azisizi (futhi kwenzeka, alashe), khona-ke akunakwenzeka ukuhlala eduze komdlwenguli. Shayela (okungukuthi, thola ithuba lokuhamba) futhi ngaleyo ndlela ususe amathuba obudlova.
ezine. Vimbela ubudlova . Lesi yisincomo esiyinhloko. Kuyadingeka ezingeni lezinkolelo okufanele ufunde - udlame kwabathandekayo abumukeleki (futhi kubantu bebonke, futhi lungathandeki). Vikela ekhanda lami - futhi udlame lube ngaphansi. Ngiyagcizelela - ukuqonda (okungukuthi, kudalwe engqondweni) ukwenqatshelwa okunamandla kakhulu kunezinqubo zemvelo kanye nokutholwa.
Akulona iqiniso ukuthi imizwa eyedlula yonke izophuma. Eqinisweni, bayohlukana noma bekhulu kakhulu (lokho okubizwa ngokuthi isimo sokuthinta, noma, endala, amok), noma lapho kunemvume yokuqonda ukuze udlule.
Yahlulele wena. Sonke sijwayele ukuvikela izidingo ezincane nezikhulu ezindaweni ezenqatshelwe ngokukhethekile. Yebo, ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu akwenziwanga kangako, futhi kungakhathalekile ukuthi izwe elihlala kulo - ngabona ezami ngamehlo eGhent, njengoba ingane ye-Belgia ichama ekhoneni lendlu ephuma emigwaqweni yasemgwaqweni, igcwele abantu , futhi wayebonakala ngqo. Kodwa-ke, iningi labantu liyakwazi ngokuphelele ukulawula izingcingo zabo zemvelo futhi lingabekezelela kakhulu, isikhathi eside kakhulu. Kubukeka sengathi, futhi bekuzodingeka ukucula isidingo esincane, kepha umbuthano wabantu, kufanele ukhuthazele. Amandla omlingo wokuvinjelwa kwengqondo kwesenzo.
Futhi ngemizwelo. Noma ngubani ozivumela ukuthi asebenzise izakhiwo zawo ezizwakalayo kuyo yonke malive, ukuthi zikulolu hlobo luni. Futhi ubani mhlawumbe izinto ezithile, nabanye (ubudlova obufanayo) buyanqabela ekhanda - akamkhiphi. Ngakho-ke, vimbela ubudlova kubantu abathandekayo - wonke umuntu uzozuzisa wonke umuntu.
-Nke . Udlame olwenziwe ekhaya, i-ALAS, yinto evame kakhulu. Abesilisa nabesifazane baphendukela kuye. Udlame olwenziwe ekhaya alwamukeleki ebudlelwaneni, ngoba Kubhubhisa indawo yezakhi zomzimba neyaphephile. Udlame luvela ngenxa yomuzwa wokungabikho, ongadalwa yimithetho yangempela nemicabango yayo. Ngemuva kokudalwa kwengxabano, zombili izinhlangothi zinomthwalo wemfanelo, kepha umdlwenguli kuphela okufanele asolwe ngodlame. Udlame olwenziwe ekhaya lungamiswa, uma ungakwehlile udlame kumabhuleki futhi luvimbele udlame kubantu abathandekayo. Futhi nginakho konke, ngiyabonga ngokunaka kwakho.