Muva nje, bekukhona i-athikili kwinethiwekhi, eyalandela ukuthi amacala anzima kakhulu, abesifazane abangenathemba kakhulu abangenathemba yilabo abangenazinkinga ngomama vaaabsh. Hhayi ukuthi siyavuma. Kepha, maye, izinkinga nomama ontanga yethu zenzeka kaningi kunokubhekwana. Futhi azikho buhlungu kangako.
Kunezinkinga ezingeqiniso zezomdabu ezikhona phakathi kwezizukulwane, kanye nezinkinga zendabuko ezihambisana neqiniso lokuthi iningi labesifazane abufuni ukuzicabangela asebekhulile ukuze banakekele abantu abadala. Kepha lapha sisabhekene naso njalo (ngokwengeziwe!) Futhi iqiniso lokuthi omama bethu bakhula futhi baphila ngandlela thile kwelinye izwe, kunokuba siphila, futhi badlale okuningi ngemithetho. Kufaka phakathi nathi.
Futhi-ke, awunankinga nezinkinobho ngezandla ezinyakazayo, izingcingo zentombazane, ezisanda kubeka eceleni ibhodi yezinyawo, ofuna ukulinda ukuqonda nokusiza. Futhi yini ongayenza?
Lalela futhi uphendule
Empeleni, uma bekufonele ukuthi utshele konke lokhu, khona-ke usuvele ungumkhulu. Amadodakazi angenawo umuntu angqongqoze ku-Facebook abuze ukuthi athi: Umama wathi nginowesifazane omubi esithombeni sami. Ake ungitshele, intamo yeqiniso iyesabeka noma lo mama unjalo ubuhlalu bami abathandi? " - Ngakho-ke ngena ekuziphatheni, noma ngabe umhlaba wahlanya, noma ngokwabo bahlanya. Kepha ukuze ungaphenduli umbuzo onjalo - ukuze ubuze nje umbuzo onjalo, kuyadingeka isikhathi eside, isikhathi eside, ngaso sonke isikhathi ebudlelwaneni nale ntombi ngomqondo oqondile ukuze uphendule iqiniso. Noma kunganjani.Xoxa ngezinhlelo zokuvikela
"Yini okufanele uyenze lapho umhlane wakho ulungiselelwe emhlane wakho ongezeli izithako?" "Yini okufanele uyenze lapho ingane ineminyaka emihlanu ithi ubaba wakhe uyi-Schmuck ne-Loser?" "Yini okufanele uyenze lapho umfana wakho onaye ubunzima obunzima ubuzwa, uyagibela, ekugcineni umshado?" "Yini okufanele uyenze lapho usukhiphe evalweni zezingubo zakho walengisa lapho, njengokuthi kukhona okunye, okunjalo?"
Yini okufanele yenze okufanele yenziwe. Abantu abakhule ezweni elihluke ngokuphelele phakathi kwenye enye imikhuba, kungabi nazi ngezinto ezihlekisayo ngokuthi "imingcele yomuntu siqu." Bona ngokwazo bagqoka ukuthi bakwazile ukuthenga, futhi ngisho nalokho bakwazile ukuguquka kusuka kumama. Futhi nabo babevame ukuba nekhabethe elihlukile. Futhi kwakungekho nto efana nobudlelwano bomuntu siqu. Ubudlelwane buhlala bukhathaza wonke umndeni - ugogo, ngoba yena nengane yokuhlala, abafowethu nodadewethu - ngoba kuzofanela babe, uma bodwa, ngoba kuzofanela bakwazi ukuxhumana nabomndeni walokhu Indodakazi yaholela endlini ... Kuyiqiniso, kwabakhathalela! Futhi wonke umuntu ohlanganisiwe wahlolwa okusha. Lapho ubungozi bukhona lapho kufanele bahambe khona.
Ngakho-ke akunangqondo ukumangala futhi kubi, "Ungenza kanjani". Kuyadingeka ukuthi ucabange futhi wenze uhlelo lokuvikela okuthile okubalulekile, futhi kudlule okuthile okungabalulekile. Yebo, yebo, kufanele kunikezwe okuthile, ngoba kumuntu ongazizwa imingcele yomuntu siqu, ukuthuka kabi lapho eboniswa endaweni ethile ngaphansi kwesandla esimhlophe. "Lokhu akuyona kanjani ibhizinisi lami? Yini omunye umuntu ??? Kungcono kakhulu ukungashayeli, kepha ukuqondisa kabusha. "Endlini yokugezela akukho okuthokozisayo, sizodlula egumbini lokuhlala, kunama-albhamu kanye nokuphatha."
Futhi ungaqhamuka, noma ulalele futhi uxoxe, noma endaweni ethile ukuze uphumule ngaphezulu kwenketho enjalo. Ukuvikela ukuvikela kwakho komuntu siqu, futhi umama akacasuki. Lokhu kusebenza kanzima, ukuhlelwa kwamasu. Amakhanda amabili angcono kunelilodwa. Kepha siyagcizelela - usizo kufanele lube luncane: noma lube nenkinga, kepha lufushane kakhulu, ngemingcele yangaphambi kokuvuselelwa, noma isikhathi eside kodwa ngokuphelele. Thayipha, uma ephila nomama, futhi ekhelini lakho lephasela lakhe kabili ngonyaka aletha - futhi kuyaligijima ngokwami.
Memeza
Unokufanayo. "Ngokwesibonelo. Futhi lapha, ngokwesibonelo. Futhi kwakunjalo. Cha, ngokungathi sína, wathi, angidlali! " Sonke sicabanga - kanjalo, bonke omama banjengomama, omunye wami waphakade futhi asule. Hhayi. Lokhu akuyona intombi yakho indodakazi embi. Lokhu akuyona indawo kanina ethule esihogweni. Kanye nomehluko ojwayelekile we-intermotococal. Kwathi kwenzeka. Akusilo iphutha lakho. Futhi ngendlela, uyazi yini ukuthi indodakazi yami ishonile lapha?Lungisa uchwepheshe
Futhi, uma kungukusebenza kwengqondo. KAKHULU, Khuluma. Ngoba kungaba ngummeli. Noma, ungavumeli iNkosi ye-US, udokotela wezengqondo weSelenie. Kepha into esemqoka ukuthi ungasho umngani - ukuthi ngeke futhi ayibophekile ukunquma konke okuwa, eyedwa. Futhi noma ngabe abangane bakhe bengamsiza - namanje ochwepheshe abakhona.