Isazi sezengqondo sikaPavel Zyggmantovich siphendula udaba oluphambili lwempilo, indawo yonke nakho konke lokhu: "Amadoda angempela aphathwe kuphi?"
Amadoda ajwayelekile ahunyushwe njengohlobo lokuvuma? Abesifazane abaningi bayavuma. Futhi ngicabange nokuthi ezikhathini zangaphambili konke kwakukuhle kakhulu. Futhi ngikhumbula inetha elithi "eMoscow alikholelwa ezicini", lapho uCatherine (i-heroine yesaziso) ikhala khona ngokufanayo. Ngo-1981, ngendlela. Ngo-1981! Umcabango we-cramolt uyadla amadlelo - mhlawumbe akuwona emadodeni?Nginesibindi sokuthi umbuzo uqobo uyiphutha. Amadoda angempela awahambi ndawo (lapho ongaya khona kubo, uma kungeyona isilinganiso esinembile ngesilinganiso esikhona, kodwa kuphela isahlulelo esilinganisiwe, esikuyisisekelo esilinganiselwe? Inkinga akuyona into engajwayelekile eyenzekile kubantu.
Inkinga ukuthi abesifazane abaningi bahlola ngokungafanele ukuba kungahle kuncishwe amandla.
Ibukeka kanjani ekusebenzeni. Owesifazane ugxile kusethi encane, ecashile kakhulu yezici eziheha ukunakwa kwakhe. Uma umuntu enikeza le sethi, uyayithanda. Akukhiqizi - ungathandi (abesilisa, ngendlela, banephutha ncamashi, kepha lapha "basindisa" befuna ukufunwa kwabakhethiweyo).
Lokhu, endleleni, kungukuziphatha okunengqondo - ukuthi bangakwaba kanjani phakathi kokhethiweyo wakho phakathi kwesixuku? Sibheka umlingani ongaba khona ezimweni ezihlukile, axhumanisa ngendlela ethile ehlala kwenye indawo ekhanda lami, futhi sibekezelela lesi sinqumo - kufanelekile noma cha.
Kodwa-ke, kukhona amaqhinga - hhayi njalo umuntu anganikeza le sethi.
Ubumpumputhe besikhashana
Nasi isibonelo. Amadoda amabili afanelekile ukuhlangana. Okokuziphatha kuziphatha kalula futhi okuhle - ukulinganisa okuphikisayo, ngokucophelela ngokulinganayo, ngokuqhubekayo, ngokuqhubekayo, ngokweqile. Futhi okwesibili kusho i-Nefple, Mumlit, ayikwazi ukusekela ingxoxo.
Yikuphi okuzoyithanda? Okokuqala, kunjalo.
Yikuphi kubo okuzoba ngumlingani omuhle kakhulu? Umbuzo omkhulu.
Owokuqala ujwayele kahle, kepha ingabe kusho ukuthi uzoba umyeni omuhle? Cha, akusho. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uyazi kahle futhi. Hhayi-ke, kungasho futhi ukuthi wayenezinkulungwane eziyishumi nanhlanu zokuthandana nakanjalo, labantu abamaziyo - izinkulungwane eziyishumi nanhlanu zokuqala hhayi ngaphezulu kwezintaba eziyishumi nanhlanu kwezenhlaka eziyishumi nanhlanu ziyizinkulungwane eziyishumi nanhlanu.
Futhi indoda yesibili iba kubi, ngoba ayinakho okuhlangenwe nakho. Wajwayelana kashumi kanye kanye kuphela. Ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi indoda yesibili izoba ngumyeni omubi? Cha, akusho. Lokhu kusho ukuthi unolwazi oluncane ekuqomeni. Mhlawumbe (mhlawumbe!), Yile ndoda yesibili engaba ngumlingani omuhle. Kepha umfazi wakhe - ngeke aqaphele.
Esinye isibonelo. Ithi, iphathi ukuhlonipha usuku lokuzalwa. Intombazane iza nentombi yakhe, kukhona abafana ababili. Ngaphandle kwalokho okwengeziwe noma okungaphansi kwento enhle, kodwa eyodwa ehlanganisiwe futhi ihlala buthule ekhoneni, kanti owesibili nguMphefumlo wenkampani. Esokuqala sobusuku bonke kuphela lapho ngake ngazama ukusho okuthile kule ntombazane, futhi kwaphuma eCoryavo, owesibili wafinyelelwa ngombono futhi akazange ahambe. Umbuzo ukuthi iyiphi yazo okuzoba umyeni omuhle kakhulu?
Futhi - akukho okuqinisekisa ukuthi owesibili uzoba umyeni omuhle kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, asikho isiqinisekiso sokuthi owesibili uyithangi elinjalo ngempela. Mhlawumbe yonke into ukuthi ayazi cishe wonke umuntu kule nkampani, nomphikisi wakhe - bengazi muntu, ngaphandle kwenkosikazi yakusihlwa. Ngakho-ke, owesibili wabonakala emehlweni, kwathi owokuqala wagcinwa emthunzini.
Kepha abesifazane abaningi babonakale sengathi owesibili upholile, futhi owokuqala akayona. Futhi ngeke babone ngisho nowokuqala. Futhi-ke, lapho owesibili ejabule, kepha, ake sithi, sibucayi, sizokhononda ukuthi awekho amadoda ajwayelekile.
Eqinisweni, banjalo. Abanye besifazane abanye abaziboni.
Imfihlo
Abantu abaningi (hhayi abesifazane kuphela, kodwa futhi namadoda) abazi into esemqoka - isici esibaluleke kakhulu sokumazi kahle ubuhlobo ngukusondela kwendawo. Uma abantu besebenza ngokubambisana noma bahlala eduzane, noma bazibandakanye ezithombeni zezithombe, amathuba azohlangana nawo futhi azokwakha ubudlelwano, okungaphezu kwawo wonke amanye amacala.
Kungani kunjalo? Ngoba ngesikhathi sokuhlangana okuhlangene endaweni eyodwa kunesikhathi sokubhekana. Ngalesi sikhathi, abantu bazithola zisezimweni eziningana ezahlukahlukene futhi sezivele zibonakale kangcono, okukufanele. Kunezimo eziningi ezingaphansi ezichazwe ngenhla.
Ngenxa yalokho, ukukhetha kuhlakaniphile ngokwengeziwe. Ngakho-ke, ngincoma ngokuqinile ngifuna amadoda akhonkolo, kepha izindawo lapho abesifazane nabesilisa bendawonye behlanganyela kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi.
Fingqa. Zonke ngifuna ukusho: abasha othandekayo, uma akhononde ukungabi khona amadoda empilweni yakho, sibheke - kanjani futhi okhetha. Futhi - uma ukwazi - vumela ithuba lalawo madoda owake angakuthandi.
Babheke - ukuthula kwabesilisa, ukujwayela ubunzima, ukungakwazi ukujabulisa wena ngengxoxo yezwe akusho ukuthi kuzoba yiphi indoda. Amadoda amaningi anengqondo angazi ukuthi angakunakekela kanjani - athinta ukuntuleka kokuhlangenwe nakho nokubikwa okuthile ngaphambi kokwenqaba kwabesifazane. Kepha ukunikeza ithuba lendoda enjalo, ungaphila ngokukhululekile ngenjabulo.
Futhi nginakho konke, ngiyabonga ngokunaka kwakho.