Eqinisweni, le ndatshana yodokotela wezengqondo kaPavel Zygmantovich inikelwe ngenxa yokuthambekela okuvikelekile ekuphileni. Ngasikhathi sinye, amadoda aqinisekisa ukuthi abesifazane abangafuni ukukhulelwa ngokushesha futhi babelethe, kungenye yezilo ezithile.
Imvamisa, abantu abanazinkinga. Okungenani ngokwengqondo.Kepha abantu banethalente ngokumangazayo ekwakheni izinkinga ezinjalo cishe ekuqaleni.
Nasi isibonelo esilula (sokwenziwa - siqukethe izindaba eziningana ngokubuyiselwa okuphelele kwazo zonke izingxenye, kufaka phakathi phansi kwabantu; konke ukuhlangana kungahleliwe ngokuphelele).
Kunendoda nowesifazane. Bashadile. Owesifazane usebenza ezinganeni, athi ngobumnene, akanandaba. Futhi le ndoda ithanda izingane futhi ifuna (kodwa hhayi manje, kodwa ngokuvamile - ngolunye usuku).
Futhi inkinga yale ndoda ilula kakhulu - umkakhe, ngombono wakhe, umfazi omubi (futhi, futhi, ekhuluma ngokungafanele, hhayi owesifazane nakancane).
"Ubuzelani? Ngoba owesimame kufanele athande izingane (ngemuva kwakho konke, bonke abesifazane bathande izingane), uma kungenjalo akuyena umfazi, futhi angaqondi.
Futhi nakhu umbhangqwana ongaphila isikhathi eside futhi ejabule (ikakhulukazi kusukela manje - Khokhela lokhu kunathina okukhethekile - ukuzalwa kwengane kungumbono wokungakude) kuphela, kusesesevolweni lesehlukaniso.
Kwenzeke kanjani konke?
Ngiphindaphinda futhi i-thesis kusukela ekuqaleni kwamanothi - abantu bavame ukudala izinkinga zengqondo ngokuzimela.
Ngokukhethekile, kule ndaba, indoda yakha iziphetho zayo emibonweni emangalisayo ngempilo (noma, uma ngolimi lochwepheshe, amacebo wokuqonda). Ngenxa yalezi ziphetho nezinkinga kuvela.
Kungani indoda yenza lezi ziphetho? Ngoba, njenganoma ubani, angaphansi kokungahambisani okuhlukahlukene ekucabangeni, okuphanga impilo yomuntu. Le milutha ijwayele ukubizwa ngokuthi amaphutha okucabanga, kepha ngifisa ukuthi inketho ye- "tatchncy" - izwakala i-softer.
Lokhu kuthambekela komuntu kuye, ngokusobala, kusukela ekuzalweni, futhi uma kungenzeki ekhanda lakhe, kulula kakhulu ukunqotshwa kulokhu kungahambelani futhi uhlale ezinkingeni eziningi. Ngokuqondene neqiniso, lesi sibonelo senzeka esibonelweni.
Ngokuqondile, indoda ikhombisa ukuthambekela kokujwayelekile, ku-dichotomicity (kungumnyama nomhlophe ukucabanga okumhlophe), ubunikazi futhi, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ekugcineni, kuze kube manje, ekugcineni, ekuhlelweni kwenhlekelele.
Ithempulethi kuya kokujwayelekile
Ukuthambekela kokujwayelekile ukucubungula lesi simo ngaphandle kokunaka umongo nemininingwane. Indoda yenza, okuncane kakhulu, okubili okujwayelekile.a) Ukholelwa ukuthi bonke abesifazane bathanda izingane, yize engasebenzisi noma yiluphi ucwaningo (yebo akunakwenzeka ukufeza - akunakwenzeka ngokomzimba). Okungukuthi, isiphetho asinangqondo futhi sinobulungiswa kwabesifazane kuphela, hhayi wonke umuntu.
b) Ufingqa umqondo wokuthi "Uthando," alwenzi lukhonkolo, kodwa lifakwe. Ngenxa yalokhu, akucaci ngokuphelele ukuthi kusho ukuthini ngempela nokuthi yini ngempela indlela yokuziphatha kukankosikazi wakhe noma ongahambelani nokulindelwe kwayo.
Isifanekiso seDichotomization
Ukuthambekela kwe-dichotomization ukucubungula kwakho konke okumathoni amnyama namhlophe ngaphandle kwemithunzi ephakathi. Indoda ibheka umkakhe izinguqulo ezimbili kuphela - noma ungumama omuhle (uthanda izingane), noma kubi (akuzithandi izingane).
Akavumeli umcabango wokuthi owesifazana angaba ngumama omuhle, kanye kuphela, kanye - Mediocre, kanye - egculisayo, ngesinye isikhathi - omunye umuntu.
Impilo yomuntu ayivami ukuvumela ukuthi usebenzise isigaba esicacile. Futhi ngaphezu kwalokho akunakwenzeka ukwenza lapho yonke into ihlala ishintsha. Kanye nokuba ngumzali (kanye nokuba ngumama ikakhulukazi) umuntu ngamunye uqukethe ukubonakaliswa okuningi. Futhi umama omangalisayo ngomzuzu angaba umama omubi, futhi umama omubi emizuzwini angaba ngumama omuhle.
Lezi zilinganiso zingenzeka ngephuzu elithile kuphela, kanye ne-General One, ukuze zikhulume okuhlanganisiwe, ukulinganiselwa kumane kwenzeka (futhi ngubani okholelwa ukuthi kungenzeka, ufundwa ekuthambekeni kokujwayelekile).
Eduze kobunikazi
Ukuthambekela kobunikazi - ukuba khona komqondo wokuthi kunezindlela zokuzalwa okudingeka zilandele iqiniso lokuzalwa; Uma okulindelwe kungabulawa, kubhekwa njengenhlekelele. Kulesi simo, indoda icabanga ukuthi abesifazane kufanele bathande izingane, ngoba abesifazane bakwabesifazane. Futhi njengoba owesifazane wakhe akazithandi izingane, akayena wesifazane nhlobo.
Eqinisweni, kunjalo, akunjalo. Abesifazane bangathanda izingane, kungenzeka bangathandi - akubathinti ubufazi babo. Azikho izindlela zemvelo zothando olungenamibandela izingane. Kunezinqubo, ngakho-ke ukukhuluma, "auxindial" zothando (i-hormone oxytocin efanayo, kepha yindlela yokuthi "u-Alex", akusekho.
Futhi, abesifazane abanawo imvelo kamama, futhi kukhona nje ukuziphatha kwabazali, okuyingxenye kuphela ngenxa ye-biology (Yebo, okungukuthi, lesi, lesi isikhathi eside ku-biology).
Ngokuvamile, kuvela ukuthi umbono wokungabaza, njengoba kwenzeka kaningi, akulungile ngokuphelele. Futhi njengoba alungile, akufanele acasuke ngenxa yawo.
Ukuthambekela kokubizi
Ukuthambekela kwenhlekelele kuqiniseka ukuthi izehlakalo zizokhula esimweni esibi kunazo zonke, ngaphandle kokubheka amathuba ezinye izindlela zokuthuthukisa isimo.Kulokhu, owesilisa ubona kuphela uhlobo oluthile lokuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi - ngeke neze babe nezingane ezivamile nalom wesifazane futhi kuzokwenza impilo yabo ibe yimbi.
Kungakanani lo mphumela wemicimbi? Hhayi ukusho okuningi.
Njengokuzijwayeza, abalingani abaningi ekuqaleni bahlobana nezingane nokudideka ngezindlela ezihlukile. Kodwa-ke, ngokuqhubeka kwesikhathi, isikhundla sabo silethwa ndawonye, futhi bathola umbono ojwayelekile. Akuyona into esheshayo, kepha ayiphuli edolweni - wonke umuntu uyavumelana naleli phuzu elijwayelekile (ngoba lijwayelekile).
Mhlawumbe enye inketho - kuvela ukuthi ngaphandle kwezingane kuhle futhi akunasidingo sokuzala.
Mhlawumbe inketho yesithathu - Ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile owesifazane ngokwakhe unquma ukubeletha.
Ngokuvamile, inketho eyinhlekelele "Ngeke sibe nezingane ezivamile futhi kubi" akunakugwenywa noma kungenzeka. Futhi indoda icasukile futhi isilungele ukudivosa.
Ukufingqa
Lokhu kuthambekela ekucabangeni, njengoba ngishilo, konakalisa abantu impilo. Lokhu, njengenjwayelo, izindaba ezimbi.
Kukhona nezindaba ezimnandi - konke lokhu kungahambisani kuyanqotshwa. Uma uthatha phezulu phezu kwabo, ihlala kangcono kakhulu.
Manje, mhlawumbe, udinga ukuphendula umbuzo ovela kumanothi wesihloko. Ekhuluma ngokuqinile, sengivele ngiyiphendulile embhalweni. Lapha vele wenze umbimbi.
Cha, akubulawa, uma owesifazane engafuni izingane. Okokuqala, imibhangqwana ingaphila ngaphandle kwezingane. Okwesibili, kukhona ukwamukelwa nokwamukelwa. Okwesithathu, asikho isizathu sokukholelwa ukuthi lo wesifazane ozoba nokubheka okunjalo okuphakade.
Ingabe kufanelekile ukwehlukana uma omunye wabalingani engafuni izingane? Akukona kimi ukunquma ukuthi uqonda kanjani. Ngokubona kwami, kungcono ukunikela isikhathi ngasinye futhi hhayi ukuchoboza - kungenzeka ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi izikhundla zisondela. Okungukuthi, oshade naye oyedwa ngeke esafuna kakhulu, kepha owesibili awenqabe kangako. Ubukeka, othile nocingo.