Siyaqhubeka nokujwayela ukubukeka kwendoda yezengqondo ebudlelwaneni, emshadweni kanye nomndeni. Kulokhu uPavel Zygmantich ukhuluma ngalokho okushiwo amadoda embuthanweni wawo mayelana nabesifazane ababuthakathaka.
Ingabe owesifazane kufanele abe buthakathaka? Vele akunjalo. Owesifazane obuthakathaka yinto embi kakhulu engenzeka endodeni.
Manje njengoba unhlokweni wokuqashelwa ususekelwa isiqalo esihamba ngezinyawo (ngakho-ke, ukunakwa kuyakhangwa), kungenzeka ukwehlisa ukukhanya kokuvezwa nokukhuluma ngokuzolile.
Masiqhubeke.
Ngizungeze mina ngokwengeziwe futhi ngaphezulu bathi owesifazane ulungile (yebo, yebo, kulungile) ukuba buthakathaka. Yize kunjalo, uthanda umuntu kakhulu, futhi ngenxa yalokho unethuba elikhudlwana lokuthola umyeni. Yebo, hhayi u-Ababy, kodwa okuhle.
Kepha mina, le thesis iyiphutha elincane (ngilibeka ngokucophelela). Okokuqala, iqiniso lokuthi alikho ncazelo ecacile yobuthakathaka kuyo. Yebo, ngokufanayo akunancazelo ecacile yamandla. Futhi ingabe kubalulekile. Kulokhu bese uqala.
Ngiphakamisa ukuthi ngibala ngale ndlela - umuntu oqinile, lo ngumuntu ongaxazulula imibuzo evela empilweni yakhe. Kuyadingeka kuye - kuya kwi-HSP futhi avumelana ne-plumber; Kumele - Thola - Thola emotweni; Kuyadingeka - kuzothola ukwedlula ukuthatha umgqibelo kusihlwa; Kumele kube - ithi "Cha". Futhi uma kungasebenzi kusukela okokuqala - remake.
Indoda ebuthakathaka - kunalokho. Kuyadingeka ukuya kwi-HSP, kepha "ngiyabasaba." Sidinga imoto (kahle, kulungile, kulungile - ngifuna), kepha "bayabiza." Kuyadingeka ukuthatha kusihlwa, kepha angikwazi okufanele ngikwenze. " Kuyadingeka ukwenqaba, kepha - "Yehlulekile". Njalonjalo, emgqeni ofanayo.
Ngokusobala, umuntu oqinile ungumuntu, okokuqala, ezimele. Futhi umuntu obuthakathaka ngumuntu ongazimele, okungekho ngaphandle kokusekelwa kothile - uyawa.
Okungukuthi, uma owesifazane enikelwa ukuba buthakathaka, kuphakanyiswa ukuthi angakhubazeka, angazinzile futhi athembele endodeni. Ngokubona kwami, kuyingozi ikakhulukazi kowesifazane uqobo.
Isibonelo, walalela izeluleko ezinjalo. Kwaba uNohasson. Ngihlangane nomuntu wamshada naye waphuma. Ngemuva kwalokho, maye, angizange ngiphume - ngihlukane. Kahle? Uzoya kuphi? Kuzokwenzekani? Zizohlinzeka kanjani? Umuntu omdala usemdala kumuntu omdala ukuze azinikele ngokuzimela, akunandaba - umuntu wena noma umfazi.
Nababuthakathaka ukuze bazinikeze. Kungathinta kuphela isandla ngandlela thile noma enye indlela. Futhi uqine ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile uyaqala ukwazisa.
Ngihola ukuqeqeshwa okuningi kwabesilisa, futhi ngihalalisela nge-Y-Chromosome ngingitshela izinto eziningi. Batshelwa ngokungananazi - ekuqeqesheni kwethu amadoda abesifazane akwenzeki, ungakhuluma i-prfhoch.
Ngakho-ke - amadoda ahlangana, ahlala noma aphile nabesifazane ababuthakathaka, awajabule kakhulu ngabesifazane.
Konke kulula - indoda eduze kowesifazane onjalo uhlala ubuncane bempilo nengxenye. Wakhe - naye. Isibonelo, kudinga ukulungiswa hhayi kuphela imoto yakho, kodwa futhi nakho. Kukhona isitifiketi esiya esimisweni hhayi mina kuphela, kodwa futhi naso.
Futhi konke kuzolunga, ukube bekuvela ngezikhathi ezithile, - ekugcineni, ukuze kube nomshado ukuze usizane, kubandakanya nezinkinga ezinjalo. Kepha ngoba kuchaziwe kwenzeka kungenjalo ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa njalo!
Ngenxa yalokho, umuntu ukhetha noma axazulule izingqinamba ezilandelayo zowesifazane noma, ngokwesibonelo, umsebenzi. Kuyacaca ukuthi abaningi bakhetha ikhambi lemibuzo elandelayo yowesifazane obuthakathaka (zama ukungakhethi - uzokwenzela ubuchopho ngakho-ke, abagugi ngonyaka omusha).
Futhi kufana. Akunandaba ukuthi ungasiza kanjani owesifazane wakho, angikaze. Umuntu Ungumuntu - uxazulula zonke izinkinga. Umbuzo ukuthi kwalokhu kwasiza umuntu akhokhele ukwenqaba impilo yakhe.
Kuze kube yileveli ethile, leli ntengo lifanelekile impela - noma yimuphi umshado ufune ukwenqaba okuthile kwenkululeko kanye nenkululeko yakhe, kusukela empilweni yakhe. Ngakho-ke, akuveli ngaphambi kwezinga elithile lezinkinga. Kepha lapha kuphakeme kunalelizinga ...
Kodwa-ke, kwanele. Sengingokwesithathu ngizophinda umbono wokuthi usizo olubi ngokwalo lunjalo, kepha iqiniso lokuthi lona wesifazane uyenqaba inkululeko. Bonke ababone okokuqala, bonke baqonda konke. Okunye ... kuzothatha i-Itwork kunethiwekhi futhi kuzongithuka ukuthi ngithuke, ngikhangise izipho.
Ngakho-ke - mayelana nabesifazane ababuthakathaka. Eqinisweni, indoda, idinga umfazi oqinile ongasekusondele ngesikhathi esinzima.
Nasi isimo esilula sendlu - indoda yagula. Hhayi umkhuhlane lapho, noma ukubanda. Futhi wagula kakhulu, uhhafu wonyaka. Umuntu wesifazane obuthakathaka uzoqondiswa kanjani eduze kwakhe, ongenza kuphela ahlala eVkontakte? Ngqo ...
Futhi kunamandla kuzosiza, ukwesekwa futhi indoda izophinda ibe sezinyaweni zayo.
Kungakho amadoda athande abesifazane abaqinile. Kanye nabo, amandla abantu aphindaphindeka, ungenza okuningi ngabo. Ekugcineni, nabo kunokuthile okufanele bakhulume - lokho ngokwakho kubalulekile.
Ngiqaphele iminyaka eminingana - amadoda aneminyaka engu-30 ubudala "ayinasithakazelo kakhulu kubafundi abasebasha. Ngakho-ke amadoda anentshisekelo kwabesifazane beminyaka yabo. Kwakungokwakheke kakhulu - ngomsebenzi, ukubheka okuyisisekelo komhlaba, ingqondo enhle nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle.
Kungani kunjalo? Ngoba owesilisa nowesifazane bangabalingani bemvelo. Futhi ubudlelwano emshadweni, njengoba ngabhala kaninginingi, lobu ubudlelwano bababizayo.
Futhi embhangqwaneni 'indoda eqinile - umfazi obuthakathaka' awukho umfelandawonye. Kunobudlelwano kuphela "onikelayo - owemukelayo" (njengasebhangqwana "umuntu oqinile yindoda ebuthakathaka"). Ubudlelwano obunjalo bunenzuzo kuphela ngakolunye uhlangothi, futhi nalokho - hhayi isikhathi eside. Nawa amadoda futhi angafuni ukuchitha isikhathi ebudlelwaneni obukhulu kangaka.
Omunye uzofuna ukuphikisana, bathi, Abesilisa besaba abesifazane abanamandla. Lokhu akulona iqiniso. Amadoda awafani nabesifazane abanamandla (njengoba nje abesifazane abawathandi amadoda amandla).
Ezinhlelweni zansuku zonke zomqondo womqondo "oqinile" no- "poinering" (kanye "nobuthakathaka" futhi "uthobekile" futhi "uthobekile") futhi hhayi bonke abazivimba ngokuqinile. Futhi kuyasiza ukuhlukanisa.